She's a 10 without question. So is her car. She doesn't say much to anyone....
There's a beautiful woman who sits next to me at yoga class. She started to sit there after I gave her some advice on stretching.
I've been chatting her up for about a month. I've learned her name, her job (a model), and the fact that she has two dogs, and she likes to hike.
You must be thinking: Sounds great.
But here's the problem. My conversations sound more like interviews than dialogue. For example:
me: how are you doing?
her: really good.
me: how was work today.
her: it was really tiring actually.
me: tough day?
her: yeah.
etc.
The problem is, in that one month, she has asked me only a few questions. I've initiated the majority of conversations. We've never had a genuine interaction. I do ALL the work. At first I thought she was just shy so I was patient but eventually I began to doubt that possibility and started to think she wasn't into me.
Also most of our conversations have been in the 10 minutes before and after yoga class when we are both stretching.
Well. Somewhere in this month, I asked her to meet me somewhere to try acupuncture. It's what I do... Spur of the moment, I asked her to meet me at a bookstore where I was going to be later that night. She said she had plans.
I thought, great I just struck out, but before she left looked at me and told me, with a giggle, she was nervous about that 'sort of thing.' So I thought it wasn't completely awful.
But after a month of these terse 'go nowhere' interactions, I had enough. It was just too much work. She showed interest or concern about anything about me.
So I said f**k it.
One class I placed my mat to the otherside of the room.
Started talking to another cute girl in the class.
Didn't say hello or anything. Left early.
The next class, I show up and wait for the teacher to open the doors. She shows up a few minutes later (I typically show up early, she never does). As we wait She says hello. I say hello and I don't say another damn thing. She then asks me whose teaching. I tell her (mind you without any animosity, just with a pleasant ambivalance). She then asks me about a party that the yoga teacher had thrown (the previous week I asked her to come, this was before I decided to give up my pursuit). I told her it was great and she should have come.
The doors open and she puts her mat in the regular spot and I put it in my new spot away from her. I spend the 10-15 minutes stretching in silence as the room fills with people. Had a great class.
When class was over. I spent the time afterwards taking time to have a long stretch session. Mind you she still is in the room. She begins to chat with the girl next to her (which was odd because she never talks to anyone). I ignore them completely. Before she leaves she comes over (out of her way) and say 'bye 'my name.'
I didn't even know that she knew what my name was?
So basically here we are....
WTF?
1. Is she now interested/intrigued by my new disregard?
2. Is she just being nice to placate an awkward situation?
3. Am I just reading into absolutely nothing?
4. what's my next move?
I'm an attractive guy. I've had girlfriends before and don't have that hard of a time getting dates with cute girls. The problem is that I don't really work hard in those situations or get nervous. It's these high 8's to 10s that put me in unfamiliar territory
If some wise mind can help illuminate and advise my next step, I'd be gratefull
defiant
There's a beautiful woman who sits next to me at yoga class. She started to sit there after I gave her some advice on stretching.
I've been chatting her up for about a month. I've learned her name, her job (a model), and the fact that she has two dogs, and she likes to hike.
You must be thinking: Sounds great.
But here's the problem. My conversations sound more like interviews than dialogue. For example:
me: how are you doing?
her: really good.
me: how was work today.
her: it was really tiring actually.
me: tough day?
her: yeah.
etc.
The problem is, in that one month, she has asked me only a few questions. I've initiated the majority of conversations. We've never had a genuine interaction. I do ALL the work. At first I thought she was just shy so I was patient but eventually I began to doubt that possibility and started to think she wasn't into me.
Also most of our conversations have been in the 10 minutes before and after yoga class when we are both stretching.
Well. Somewhere in this month, I asked her to meet me somewhere to try acupuncture. It's what I do... Spur of the moment, I asked her to meet me at a bookstore where I was going to be later that night. She said she had plans.
I thought, great I just struck out, but before she left looked at me and told me, with a giggle, she was nervous about that 'sort of thing.' So I thought it wasn't completely awful.
But after a month of these terse 'go nowhere' interactions, I had enough. It was just too much work. She showed interest or concern about anything about me.
So I said f**k it.
One class I placed my mat to the otherside of the room.
Started talking to another cute girl in the class.
Didn't say hello or anything. Left early.
The next class, I show up and wait for the teacher to open the doors. She shows up a few minutes later (I typically show up early, she never does). As we wait She says hello. I say hello and I don't say another damn thing. She then asks me whose teaching. I tell her (mind you without any animosity, just with a pleasant ambivalance). She then asks me about a party that the yoga teacher had thrown (the previous week I asked her to come, this was before I decided to give up my pursuit). I told her it was great and she should have come.
The doors open and she puts her mat in the regular spot and I put it in my new spot away from her. I spend the 10-15 minutes stretching in silence as the room fills with people. Had a great class.
When class was over. I spent the time afterwards taking time to have a long stretch session. Mind you she still is in the room. She begins to chat with the girl next to her (which was odd because she never talks to anyone). I ignore them completely. Before she leaves she comes over (out of her way) and say 'bye 'my name.'
I didn't even know that she knew what my name was?
So basically here we are....
WTF?
1. Is she now interested/intrigued by my new disregard?
2. Is she just being nice to placate an awkward situation?
3. Am I just reading into absolutely nothing?
4. what's my next move?
I'm an attractive guy. I've had girlfriends before and don't have that hard of a time getting dates with cute girls. The problem is that I don't really work hard in those situations or get nervous. It's these high 8's to 10s that put me in unfamiliar territory
If some wise mind can help illuminate and advise my next step, I'd be gratefull
defiant