Well, fellow Djs, while reading through my email and catching up on my sosuave weekly newsletter readings, I found that the article I was reading today was this one. It is in my mind, true brilliance and speaks a sh1t load of truth, and isn't bad for the confidence levels either.
I got this letter from the weekly sosuave newsletter (you all should sign up) and I apologize to those of you who have the newsletter and have read it, but I think everyone else who has missed it should read it. And sh1t, you would do well to brush up if you've already read it anyways..
Anyways, this is by Allen Thompson..not me, and so yeah, enjoy bros.
(and if any of you are asking, i put the Part 3 on top by accident ;o)
THE MAGIC OF CONFIDENT PERSISTENCE
by Allen Thompson
Maybe you've heard the stories. Perhaps it was a relative, or a friend, or maybe you were watching a late-night talkshow and some smashingly beautiful vixen was on telling how she and her husband met.
They're so in love. They have the perfect marriage. They can't imagine being apart from one another.
But it didn't begin that way.
She wasn't, actually, very interested in him when they first met.
But he pursued her, and he was relentless. It was months, maybe even years, before she finally cracked.
But she DID crack. Fell head over heels in love with him... and they've been living in a dream world -- Happily Ever After since.
How is this possible?
I mean have you not read, more than once probably, that a woman knows within minutes of meeting a man if she's romantically interested in him or not. Does he not get put in the doable or dontable category immediately? Friend or lover? Hot or not?
How can she EVENTUALLY fall for a man who she wasn't IMMEDIATELY attracted to?
Well let me fill you in.
And this "filling in" is going to relate the very essence of being a Don Juan. The very core of becoming the kind of ladies man you've always wanted to be.
The key to women, the key to being surrounded by women, the key to being the envy of all your friends, and the key to being a Don Juan... is Confident Persistence.
Confident Persistence (CP) consists of deciding what you want, and going for it... and doing it with a smile, despite the numerous obstacles which you will most likely encounter along the way.
Obstacles could, for example, include things like: she doesn't return your call, she breaks or reschedules the date, she doesn't flirt with you or laugh at your jokes, she's hard to talk to, she seems interested in someone else, and, in general, she doesn't put herself out or go out of the way to convey that she's interested in you.
In other words, the obstacles are simply how a girl would act who is NOT HIGHLY INTERESTED in you.
Now... when we speak of CP, we're mainly talking about women that don't know you. Women you've just met. Or women that you've never spent any significant amount of time with. We're not talking about women you've known (and had a crush on) for years.
We employ the techniques of CP to get the initial interest up, to get her to relax and open up, to get the phone number, and to get the first date. CP is not an excuse for you to continue pursuing a woman that you're crazy about, but who knows you pretty well, and has no interest in you.
Now there are basically 2 ways to deal with the situation where you're interested in a girl, but she's not all that crazy about you.
1) You can give up, move on, NEXT HER! And look for someone who is more interested in you.
This is a popular strategy among men who are beginning to learn the "game." It's the easy and safe way of dealing with women. And it's what many guys learn to do as they get older, and begin realizing how much time they have wasted pursuing women who weren't interested in them.
Of course, the bad thing about NEXTing a girl is that you DON'T GET THE GIRL.
And the most common mistake that guys make when employing this strategy is NEXTing a woman too soon. They flirt with a woman, and she doesn't flirt back - NEXT. They leave a message on her machine, and she doesn't call back - NEXT. They plan a date but she calls at the last minute to cancel - NEXT.
In short, they NEXT any woman who doesn't display IMMEDIATE HIGH INTEREST.
What's wrong with this you say?
Well the MISTAKE here is that you're filtering women based simply upon their INITIAL level of interest in you. You're filtering women based upon whether they are IMMEDIATELY attracted to you or not.
This is a WEAK strategy and not one employed by a true Don Juan. It reeks of low confidence, a fragile ego, and fear.
And it's also a BAD strategy.
It's bad because you're expecting a woman that you just met, that you may have only talked to for 3 or 4 minutes, or less, to display signs of high interest. You're expecting some woman that you hardly know, and who hardly knows you, to get excited at the prospect of spending time with you.
Expecting immediate high interest is UNREALISTIC!
Now, of course, it's possible that this will happen, that she will immediately be overwhelmingly attracted to you... maybe because you are just her type physically, you remind her of someone she used to be crazy about (maybe Uncle Steve), she's incredibly desperate at the moment, or you were really on top of your game when you approached her and managed to blow her completely out of the water.
All these things are possible, but you shouldn't rely on them.
You see, when your strategy involves sorting women based upon initial interest levels, you're placing your entire future into the hands of fate. If she is immediately attracted to you -- great! If not -- NEXT!
Being a Don Juan is not about sorting women and NEXTing women. Anyone can sort women based upon their initial attraction levels. That doesn't take any skill. All that takes is not having a fear of rejection and approaching lots of women... until you happen to luck out and find one who, for some strange unknown reason, is immediately attracted to you.
Being a Don Juan is about getting the women you want. And it's about taking a woman who has low to moderate interest and, by following a few simple principles, converting that into high interest and, hopefully, an overwhelming desire to see you naked.
Or 2) You can PURSUE her.
Now the "pursuing" is where it gets tricky and complicated.
You can pursue her in such a way that you come across as being DESPERATE, like most of your fellow Non Juans do, like most guys in this world do. Or you can pursue in such a way that you appear CONFIDENT, STRONG, CHARISMATIC... like a Don Juan does.
So let's talk about how a Don Juan pursues women. Let's talk about the 6 major characteristics of confident persistence.
And remember, CP is not just persistence. CP is the process of displaying certain personality characteristics which actually make you more attractive to women... as you pursue them.
[ Part Two Below ]
I got this letter from the weekly sosuave newsletter (you all should sign up) and I apologize to those of you who have the newsletter and have read it, but I think everyone else who has missed it should read it. And sh1t, you would do well to brush up if you've already read it anyways..
Anyways, this is by Allen Thompson..not me, and so yeah, enjoy bros.
(and if any of you are asking, i put the Part 3 on top by accident ;o)
THE MAGIC OF CONFIDENT PERSISTENCE
by Allen Thompson
Maybe you've heard the stories. Perhaps it was a relative, or a friend, or maybe you were watching a late-night talkshow and some smashingly beautiful vixen was on telling how she and her husband met.
They're so in love. They have the perfect marriage. They can't imagine being apart from one another.
But it didn't begin that way.
She wasn't, actually, very interested in him when they first met.
But he pursued her, and he was relentless. It was months, maybe even years, before she finally cracked.
But she DID crack. Fell head over heels in love with him... and they've been living in a dream world -- Happily Ever After since.
How is this possible?
I mean have you not read, more than once probably, that a woman knows within minutes of meeting a man if she's romantically interested in him or not. Does he not get put in the doable or dontable category immediately? Friend or lover? Hot or not?
How can she EVENTUALLY fall for a man who she wasn't IMMEDIATELY attracted to?
Well let me fill you in.
And this "filling in" is going to relate the very essence of being a Don Juan. The very core of becoming the kind of ladies man you've always wanted to be.
The key to women, the key to being surrounded by women, the key to being the envy of all your friends, and the key to being a Don Juan... is Confident Persistence.
Confident Persistence (CP) consists of deciding what you want, and going for it... and doing it with a smile, despite the numerous obstacles which you will most likely encounter along the way.
Obstacles could, for example, include things like: she doesn't return your call, she breaks or reschedules the date, she doesn't flirt with you or laugh at your jokes, she's hard to talk to, she seems interested in someone else, and, in general, she doesn't put herself out or go out of the way to convey that she's interested in you.
In other words, the obstacles are simply how a girl would act who is NOT HIGHLY INTERESTED in you.
Now... when we speak of CP, we're mainly talking about women that don't know you. Women you've just met. Or women that you've never spent any significant amount of time with. We're not talking about women you've known (and had a crush on) for years.
We employ the techniques of CP to get the initial interest up, to get her to relax and open up, to get the phone number, and to get the first date. CP is not an excuse for you to continue pursuing a woman that you're crazy about, but who knows you pretty well, and has no interest in you.
Now there are basically 2 ways to deal with the situation where you're interested in a girl, but she's not all that crazy about you.
1) You can give up, move on, NEXT HER! And look for someone who is more interested in you.
This is a popular strategy among men who are beginning to learn the "game." It's the easy and safe way of dealing with women. And it's what many guys learn to do as they get older, and begin realizing how much time they have wasted pursuing women who weren't interested in them.
Of course, the bad thing about NEXTing a girl is that you DON'T GET THE GIRL.
And the most common mistake that guys make when employing this strategy is NEXTing a woman too soon. They flirt with a woman, and she doesn't flirt back - NEXT. They leave a message on her machine, and she doesn't call back - NEXT. They plan a date but she calls at the last minute to cancel - NEXT.
In short, they NEXT any woman who doesn't display IMMEDIATE HIGH INTEREST.
What's wrong with this you say?
Well the MISTAKE here is that you're filtering women based simply upon their INITIAL level of interest in you. You're filtering women based upon whether they are IMMEDIATELY attracted to you or not.
This is a WEAK strategy and not one employed by a true Don Juan. It reeks of low confidence, a fragile ego, and fear.
And it's also a BAD strategy.
It's bad because you're expecting a woman that you just met, that you may have only talked to for 3 or 4 minutes, or less, to display signs of high interest. You're expecting some woman that you hardly know, and who hardly knows you, to get excited at the prospect of spending time with you.
Expecting immediate high interest is UNREALISTIC!
Now, of course, it's possible that this will happen, that she will immediately be overwhelmingly attracted to you... maybe because you are just her type physically, you remind her of someone she used to be crazy about (maybe Uncle Steve), she's incredibly desperate at the moment, or you were really on top of your game when you approached her and managed to blow her completely out of the water.
All these things are possible, but you shouldn't rely on them.
You see, when your strategy involves sorting women based upon initial interest levels, you're placing your entire future into the hands of fate. If she is immediately attracted to you -- great! If not -- NEXT!
Being a Don Juan is not about sorting women and NEXTing women. Anyone can sort women based upon their initial attraction levels. That doesn't take any skill. All that takes is not having a fear of rejection and approaching lots of women... until you happen to luck out and find one who, for some strange unknown reason, is immediately attracted to you.
Being a Don Juan is about getting the women you want. And it's about taking a woman who has low to moderate interest and, by following a few simple principles, converting that into high interest and, hopefully, an overwhelming desire to see you naked.
Or 2) You can PURSUE her.
Now the "pursuing" is where it gets tricky and complicated.
You can pursue her in such a way that you come across as being DESPERATE, like most of your fellow Non Juans do, like most guys in this world do. Or you can pursue in such a way that you appear CONFIDENT, STRONG, CHARISMATIC... like a Don Juan does.
So let's talk about how a Don Juan pursues women. Let's talk about the 6 major characteristics of confident persistence.
And remember, CP is not just persistence. CP is the process of displaying certain personality characteristics which actually make you more attractive to women... as you pursue them.
[ Part Two Below ]
