The loss of direction in life

[mastersF]

I've been lurking on this board for some time, read the bible, improved myself and well, got myself a girlfriend.

But I am facing a problem. Because of this relationship I've had over the past 6 months, I've gradually lost my sense of identity, and slowly but surely molding myself to make her happy. As a result of that, my happiness was more often than not derived from the attention she gives me, and I seem to have lost motivation for other things in life. My college education is on the line, I gained 10kgs because dating her has made my eating habits go down the drain and I've no time to hit the gym anymore.

How do I break out of this AFC behaviour without her feeling upset about this sudden shift in attitude?

 

[DarthNihilus]

1. If she's cool she'll understand you need more time to yourself to keep yourself in shape as well to just have some down time.

2. If she's a selfish b!tch which most women are you'll be finding yourself a new girlfriend.

If the second option happens you are better off and have dodged a bullet, no man needs a selfish b!tch in his life.

Also you need to start framing your relationships to how you will attain the most benefit out of them.

You've got to go over sh!t like this with a woman in the beginning, you've got to have a schedule for when to see eachother and when to not see eachother, you can't just be running around like you're Superman or some sh!t entirely devoted to her because that eventually wears you down as you've recently found out.

A woman is to be a nice side compliment to a man's life never its main focus.

 

[mastersF]

Then how do i decide on how often is enough to see her? what if i tell her to only meet twice a week, but sometimes i wanna see her more/less then she is unable to change her schedule? it gets kinda tiring to have to stick to a schedule.. how do you guys work around it?

and how often should i talk to my gf? it gets boring after talking too much i guess..