The lonely life of the player

[Hal9000]

I tend to agree with the OP. I kind of fell into it for a few years and it was fun for a while but, ultimately, pretty unfulfilling and, unless you were getting called for sex, lonely.

 

[Sneaky Pete]

I tend to agree with the OP. I kind of fell into it for a few years and it was fun for a while but, ultimately, pretty unfulfilling and, unless you were getting called for sex, lonely.

That’s not lonely in my book.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Only a few great people can handle being alone. The majority will dive in to mediocrity, if you don't plan on being a legend getting married is sufficient

 

[HOOVERMEBABY]

When men say or use the word "lonely" what they really mean is a life of unfulfillment.Well I am sorry my friend but women will not bring that never find your worth in a woman or anyone for that matter.People are woefully imperfect creatures that is why such things as a unicorn do not exist.Denying yourself and helping others brings fulfillment.I was married for 17 years and a player for 11 years slept with many women,but was most happy when I was alone volunteering and pursuing my religious beliefs it sounds crazy but being "lonely" has nothing to do with women or whether or not you have any friends even.The loneliest men I know are in bad marriages.Being lonely or not is an inside job.

 

[Hal9000]

That’s not lonely in my book.

OK maybe lonely is the wrong word but jumping from bed to bed for nothing but NSA sex does, believe it or not, get boring. At least it did for me.

 

[Epicwinguy]

OK maybe lonely is the wrong word but jumping from bed to bed for nothing but NSA sex does, believe it or not, get boring. At least it did for me.

I would still want to find out for myself

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Anything can get boring if you're unfulfilled

 

[zekko]

Fair question. It's all relative. There are some solid, reliable women out there who will have their man's back, even or especially after many years. A lot of that depends on the type of man as much as the woman though.

While we're on this subject, I was watching a documentary on the Donner party last week. The Donner party was a group of settlers traveling west to California in the 1800s, who got caught in the mountains in a severe winter. Some starved and some resorted to cannibalism. Anyway:

I was impressed by the devotion of Tamsen Donner to her husband, George. Especially in light of all the "women will leave their man at the drop of a hat" attitude that you read here. There was a rescue party come to escort survivors out of the mountains, but George was too sick to travel, and was near death (infection from a gangrenous hand). Tamsen refused to leave her husband to die alone, and stayed back with him, sending her children off with the rescuers. That really surprises me, because usually women will choose her children over her husband (and probably rightfully so). But she stayed behind, and her husband died shortly afterward. She supposedly died of hypothermia after trying to leave the mountains on her own.

 

[BeExcellent]

OK maybe lonely is the wrong word but jumping from bed to bed for nothing but NSA sex does, believe it or not, get boring. At least it did for me.

That’s the essence of what various player/playboy types tell me. After a while it’s another pretty face, and another body. Big deal. No connection and often not even likeable as a person. These guys get disconnected from themselves and their own emotions when they have been so promiscuous that sex is no longer associated with love. It makes it tough for them to bond and it’s too easy to NEXT at the first sign of trouble in any interaction.

Then they become jealous of people around them who do have depth in a relationship because they no longer have any real concept of what intimacy is, if they ever knew in the first place.

It’s a whole different mind set to get to know one person deeply and allow yourself also to be known than jumping from bed to bed to bed.

I’m not shaming or judging here. These are sentiments men who have expressed where they feel like they are missing an important piece of a good life.

The hockey player and my BFs friend are both businessmen with drive and purpose. Both passionate and successful in what they do...yet both are envious of those around them with families and solid relationships/companionship.

Some men are fine spinning plates for life...but many yearn for something deeper than that at the end of the day.

And there do exist great women for those deeper relationships. Rare, but out there.

 

[greatsnake]

It is the road less traveled on, to be quite honest. It’s normal though to battle that feeling of loneliness.

 

[Mike32ct]

These guys get disconnected from themselves and their own emotions when they have been so promiscuous that sex is no longer associated with love. It makes it tough for them to bond and it’s too easy to NEXT at the first sign of trouble in any interaction.

Agreed.

But according to standard SS wisdom, only women with multiple partners are unable to bond. Some mega-player guy with 2M partners remains completely unaffected just because he’s a guy.

<sarcasm lol>

 

[PeasantPlayer]

There are times when jealousy creeps in when friends are in relationships, you wonder if the choice you made is actually right for you. Then reality kicks in and you see the sporadic bickering, the fake love and finally you notice that the majority of these couples cheat on each other

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Most of my loneliness has to do with unfullfillment, before I thought it was caused by a lack of care and bonding from another person,but when I dug deeper I started to realize it was a nagging unfullfillment in my hero's journey. This lead me to a relationship with patience which I am cultivating

 

[17 shots]

Imma die a player

 

[Spaz]

Most of my loneliness has to do with unfullfillment, before I thought it was caused by a lack of care and bonding from another person,but when I dug deeper I started to realize it was a nagging unfullfillment in my hero's journey. This lead me to a relationship with patience which I am cultivating

It's impossible to be lonely in the modern world with all the gadgetry available at the tip of ur fingers.

Boring with daily life? Fly off to some exotic island and go scuba diving. Enjoy the fresh air and the sun.

Boring with women? Take up mountain biking. And then when those dangerous toys get boring, return back to playing women.

Bored of being poor? Be brave and dare to change, every time you fall pick urself up, eventually you'll get there and people will help you towards that end because who can refuse help for a hardworking man trying to make a living.

The only lonely people are those people that's truly lazy.

Even social awkward persons or nerds can have a full social life when they focus on the right settings.

Just don't be lazy.

 

[HOOVERMEBABY]

Anything can get boring if you're unfulfilled

If you really want to get hardcore about not being lonely then pursue inner peace and joy not happiness but joy.When you have inner peace and joy then loneliness cannot exist.The way you can get complete joy is by selling everything you have and giving it to the poor.This is a spiritual thing not a physical one that's why it seems not to make sense.This is what Jesus preached and it works but again very few people do it because it is hardcore the reward God gives you is peace and joy along with other rewards and blessings.When you deny yourself you transcend money,women,possesions and most importantly you transcend yourself...that is the only true worship and the only true peace.

 

[user43770]

If you really want to get hardcore about not being lonely then pursue inner peace and joy not happiness but joy.When you have inner peace and joy then loneliness cannot exist.The way you can get complete joy is by selling everything you have and giving it to the poor.This is a spiritual thing not a physical one that's why it seems not to make sense.This is what Jesus preached and it works but again very few people do it because it is hardcore the reward God gives you is peace and joy along with other rewards and blessings.When you deny yourself you transcend money,women,possesions and most importantly you transcend yourself...that is the only true worship and the only true peace.

"It is the privilege of the gods to want nothing, and of godlike men to want little."