The LOCATION factor

[Urbanyst]

Let's talk about location.

Some people on this site claim if you want to find that magical "unicorn" all you need to do is visit a Library, Coffee shop or Church. Just walk into one of these places, and like magic, you will be greeted with HOT women who are quality LTR material.

LOL.

So let's get REAL for a minute. What have you guys found to be the best LOCATIONS for successful cold approaches?

The last time I did a mall approach I accidentally closed a 16 year old girl and that made me re-think malls. I'm willing to approach anywhere, but I find some locations to be more efficient because of high volume. Some examples are college campuses, pop culture events (art/music/food/wine festivals) and subway stations near major shopping centers (day time).

I also use different tactics. For instance, if I'm gaming a girl who is working (cashier, waitress, etc) I'll hand her a special business card instead of trying to game her (and it works btw). More info on my strategy is here: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/value-proposition-business-card-cold-approach.244269/

If we're being realistic and honest with ourselves.. most of us are not always in "approach mode" and we occasionally let a HOT woman walk by without doing sh*t to engage her. But when you're in "approach mode" you want to be efficient and go where you can get several numbers from HOT women in a short time. With this booming STR market, plates drop off regularly and need replacing.

What's your experience on the most EFFICIENT places to cold approach HOT women?

Note.. I'm not talking about "warm approach" such as Yoga, dancing classes, social sports, etc.

 

[Von]

The Park... the big endless green park or the small with piano in the center with a great view of the city or nature

Starbuck at 8am

The gym bar

Art Gallery

Your condo complex exterior pool and lounge

The location factor is important in increasing your probabilities or ''chances'' of meeting quality people

 

[Tenacity]

Let's talk about location.

Some people on this site claim if you want to find that magical "unicorn" all you need to do is visit a Library, Coffee shop or Church. Just walk into one of these places, and like magic, you will be greeted with HOT women who are quality LTR material.

LOL.

So let's get REAL for a minute. What have you guys found to be the best LOCATIONS for successful cold approaches?

The last time I did a mall approach I accidentally closed a 16 year old girl and that made me re-think malls. I'm willing to approach anywhere, but I find some locations to be more efficient because of high volume. Some examples are college campuses, pop culture events (art/music/food/wine festivals) and subway stations near major shopping centers (day time).

I also use different tactics. For instance, if I'm gaming a girl who is working (cashier, waitress, etc) I'll hand her a special business card instead of trying to game her (and it works btw). More info on my strategy is here: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/value-proposition-business-card-cold-approach.244269/

If we're being realistic and honest with ourselves.. most of us are not always in "approach mode" and we occasionally let a HOT woman walk by without doing sh*t to engage her. But when you're in "approach mode" you want to be efficient and go where you can get several numbers from HOT women in a short time. With this booming STR market, plates drop off regularly and need replacing.

What's your experience on the most EFFICIENT places to cold approach HOT women?

Note.. I'm not talking about "warm approach" such as Yoga, dancing classes, social sports, etc.

Bro I honestly don't cold approach at all. The reason being is that my "pipeline" is already over-flowing from all of the warm approaches I do from:

- Current Social Circles: Defined as current friends, family, and associates that I know, where through hanging out with them I get introduced to new people.

- Extended Social Circles: Defined as being a part of a particular college class, group, or association (such as belonging to a church or a gym), and you meet other members of that particular group or association while you are in attendance.

- Online Dating and Online Social Media: Of course this includes Match, OKC, POF, Tinder, Facebook, etc.

I'm honestly over BOOKED from these sources that I don't need to randomly go up to some chick sitting alone at the Cafe table in Borders Bookstore and start "hitting on her". Not telling anybody not to do that, but I just think there's much more efficient ways to acquire plates.

It's kind of like the sales industry. Why spend your time randomly cold calling out of the yellow pages, when you can have warm leads coming your way via partners, referrals, and other associations? With only so much time in the day, the warm stuff literally fills up your ENTIRE day.

 

[Roober]

Bro I honestly don't cold approach at all. The reason being is that my "pipeline" is already over-flowing from all of the warm approaches I do from:

- Current Social Circles: Defined as current friends, family, and associates that I know, where through hanging out with them I get introduced to new people.

- Extended Social Circles: Defined as being a part of a particular college class, group, or association (such as belonging to a church or a gym), and you meet other members of that particular group or association while you are in attendance.

- Online Dating and Online Social Media: Of course this includes Match, OKC, POF, Tinder, Facebook, etc.

I'm honestly over BOOKED from these sources that I don't need to randomly go up to some chick sitting alone at the Cafe table in Borders Bookstore and start "hitting on her". Not telling anybody not to do that, but I just think there's much more efficient ways to acquire plates.

It's kind of like the sales industry. Why spend your time randomly cold calling out of the yellow pages, when you can have warm leads coming your way via partners, referrals, and other associations? With only so much time in the day, the warm stuff literally fills up your ENTIRE day.

I tend to agree with this. If you are outgoing and involved in activities in your life, it is very easy to meet people. It is also much easier to develop rapport as you will sometimes spend time with someone prior to actually going for the number.

I always felt like going out just to find a pickup women seems like your putting that pvssy on a pedestal. Instead of working on yourself, you are actively spending time to chase women.

Have a fulfilling life, engaged with your community and/or social activities, then you won't ever have to spend hours chasing tail.

Things I do to get out...
1. Volunteer for festivals. This is gold!
2. Look at what your Facebook friends are doing. People are always looking for more people to join.
3. Find friends that like doing fun things
4. Get a hobby like salsa, rock climbing, yoga, anything...

Getting women should be a by-product of self-improvement, not the focus of it.

 

[Tenacity]

I tend to agree with this. If you are outgoing and involved in activities in your life, it is very easy to meet people. It is also much easier to develop rapport as you will sometimes spend time with someone prior to actually going for the number.

I always felt like going out just to find a pickup women seems like your putting that pvssy on a pedestal. Instead of working on yourself, you are actively spending time to chase women.

Have a fulfilling life, engaged with your community and/or social activities, then you won't ever have to spend hours chasing tail.

Things I do to get out...
1. Volunteer for festivals. This is gold!
2. Look at what your Facebook friends are doing. People are always looking for more people to join.
3. Find friends that like doing fun things
4. Get a hobby like salsa, rock climbing, yoga, anything...

Getting women should be a by-product of self-improvement, not the focus of it.

Right, I think the entire cold approaching thing is played out. Even when I go to Nightclubs, Bars, Sports Bars, etc., right now...I already have a GIRL with me. We go there, get drunk, dance, and enjoy the atmosphere. I still watch all of the lonely/lost dudes in the Nightclub standing by the wall, holding a drink, watching the dance floor and everyone that walks by. It's so pathetic as they obviously didn't come to the Nightclub to let loose and have a good time.

 

[Mr Wright]

For me the most bang for your buck way to get access to hot girls is through your social circle. So at house parties and events, sucks if you don't have access but it's the easiest way in terms of path of least resistance.

However, on the absolute flip side to that, it's also easier to pull hot girls who you only have transient contact with providing the following conditions are met:
- No one from her life will find out
- You fit an example of what she desires but does not usually have access to
- You make her wet

So if you're on holiday, she's in your city for a few days or studying for a semester near where you are, it makes everything 10 times easier.

But if you have no game you're going to struggle anywhere.

 

[Urbanyst]

Bro I honestly don't cold approach at all. The reason being is that my "pipeline" is already over-flowing from all of the warm approaches I do from:

- Current Social Circles: Defined as current friends, family, and associates that I know, where through hanging out with them I get introduced to new people.

- Extended Social Circles: Defined as being a part of a particular college class, group, or association (such as belonging to a church or a gym), and you meet other members of that particular group or association while you are in attendance.

- Online Dating and Online Social Media: Of course this includes Match, OKC, POF, Tinder, Facebook, etc.

I'm honestly over BOOKED from these sources that I don't need to randomly go up to some chick sitting alone at the Cafe table in Borders Bookstore and start "hitting on her". Not telling anybody not to do that, but I just think there's much more efficient ways to acquire plates.

It's kind of like the sales industry. Why spend your time randomly cold calling out of the yellow pages, when you can have warm leads coming your way via partners, referrals, and other associations? With only so much time in the day, the warm stuff literally fills up your ENTIRE day.

Yeah.. I pull from warm approaches too. The problem with warm stuff is when (not if) the relationship goes down the toilet.. the social circle connected to it becomes awkward or damaged. You lose friends by association.

For this reason.. I don't like the woman I date to be too integrated into my main social circles. So I target women from the outside. Friends of friends of friends, OLD.. or cold approaches.

 

[Urbanyst]

Have a fulfilling life, engaged with your community and/or social activities, then you won't ever have to spend hours chasing tail.

Things I do to get out...
1. Volunteer for festivals. This is gold!
2. Look at what your Facebook friends are doing. People are always looking for more people to join.
3. Find friends that like doing fun things
4. Get a hobby like salsa, rock climbing, yoga, anything...

Getting women should be a by-product of self-improvement, not the focus of it.

That's great.. but I'm very successful at cold approach so why not find a way to become even more efficient and effective?

What people on this site need to understand is there is no "RIGHT WAY" to meet women lol.

So rather than lecturing each other on HOW to meet women.. why not talk about ways to improve each method to get the maximum level of abundance?

 

[Roober]

That's great.. but I'm very successful at cold approach so why not find a way to become even more efficient and effective?

What people on this site need to understand is there is no "RIGHT WAY" to meet women lol.

So rather than lecturing each other on HOW to meet women.. why not talk about ways to improve each method to get the maximum level of abundance?

Agreed. Wasn't stating my way is the best, more of what I prefer. Everyone has their own way

 

[Masculinity]

Let's talk about location.

Some people on this site claim if you want to find that magical "unicorn" all you need to do is visit a Library, Coffee shop or Church. Just walk into one of these places, and like magic, you will be greeted with HOT women who are quality LTR material.

LOL.

So let's get REAL for a minute. What have you guys found to be the best LOCATIONS for successful cold approaches?

The last time I did a mall approach I accidentally closed a 16 year old girl and that made me re-think malls. I'm willing to approach anywhere, but I find some locations to be more efficient because of high volume. Some examples are college campuses, pop culture events (art/music/food/wine festivals) and subway stations near major shopping centers (day time).

I also use different tactics. For instance, if I'm gaming a girl who is working (cashier, waitress, etc) I'll hand her a special business card instead of trying to game her (and it works btw). More info on my strategy is here: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/value-proposition-business-card-cold-approach.244269/

If we're being realistic and honest with ourselves.. most of us are not always in "approach mode" and we occasionally let a HOT woman walk by without doing sh*t to engage her. But when you're in "approach mode" you want to be efficient and go where you can get several numbers from HOT women in a short time. With this booming STR market, plates drop off regularly and need replacing.

What's your experience on the most EFFICIENT places to cold approach HOT women?

Note.. I'm not talking about "warm approach" such as Yoga, dancing classes, social sports, etc.

Don't go out with the intention to meet women. Handle your personal, financial, familial, etc. goals first and approach women who are in your proximity.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Animal welfare charities of all kinds are an un-tapped gold mine of women. As an added bonus, I think the way that a woman, or any person, regards animals is a useful hint about their character.

Most pet shelters are happy to let you take a dog for the day to a dog-friendly public event, walk the dog around, and tell people that you are a volunteer, and Rover here is up for adoption at the local shelter, isn't he cute? Oh, hey, what's the best way to contact you so that we can stay in touch about ole Rover boy?

Generally speaking, I am against using deception to get girls. But with this scheme, even if you strike out, at least a dog got to take a nice walk, a dog who would otherwise have been locked in a cage.

 

[devilkingx2]

Some people on this site claim if you want to find that magical "unicorn" all you need to do is visit a Library, Coffee shop or Church. Just walk into one of these places, and like magic, you will be greeted with HOT women who are quality LTR material.

Yeah, I don't quite understand just how this idea of coffee shops and libraries as being pickup meccas came about. In my experiences, coffee shops are for high schoolers, and libraries have mainly old people and/or schoolchildren.

the idea is that the kinda girl who hangs out in a coffee shop or likes to read isn't some club slvt

the reality is that that only really makes sense if you meet her there on friday/saturday at 8pm. no sh!t she won't be at the club/bar/partying on a tuesday at 4pm unless she's an alcoholic lol

 

[Urbanyst]

Don't go out with the intention to meet women. Handle your personal, financial, familial, etc. goals first and approach women who are in your proximity.

Again.. I'm not asking to be told what my daily priorities should be. I've already handled that sh*t and I opening talk about how MONEY is my top priority.

The topic of the tread is cold approach efficiency. I want to know what LOCATIONS guys have found to have the most abundance. This is just a curiosity thing for me. Its not like I plan to put aside a large chunk of my day to just approach women. But even if I was.. that's my business.

 

[Masculinity]

Again.. I'm not asking to be told what my daily priorities should be. I've already handled that sh*t and I opening talk about how MONEY is my top priority.

The topic of the tread is cold approach efficiency. I want to know what LOCATIONS guys have found to have the most abundance. This is just a curiosity thing for me. Its not like I plan to put aside a large chunk of my day to just approach women. But even if I was.. that's my business.

I don't have particular LOCATIONS to meet WOMEN. I usually handle my business and meet WOMEN along the way. As for EFFICIENCY, it can be accomplished anywhere. It depends on where the type of women one wants hangout.

 

[Tenacity]

Yeah.. I pull from warm approaches too. The problem with warm stuff is when (not if) the relationship goes down the toilet.. the social circle connected to it becomes awkward or damaged. You lose friends by association.

For this reason.. I don't like the woman I date to be too integrated into my main social circles. So I target women from the outside. Friends of friends of friends, OLD.. or cold approaches.

That's an excellent point bro, I've had some issues with that as well, where me and a chick would stop talking and it would be pretty awkward within the particular social circle we met at. But for me personally, it only lasted for a short period of time though.

I love extended social circles over close knit social circles though. Close knit ones are a bit risky because a breakup with the girl could cause issues with other members of the group. But when it's an extended social circle, where you meet the girl at the same gym, business association, college alumni group, or church group that you are a part of...it's much more manageable.

In terms of good places to cold approach, I can't help you at all in that area Bro lol. I honestly think cold approaching is like a sales guy calling out of the Yellow Pages today......it's just not that effective compared to other strategies.

 

[byers90]

You are asking what the best location is to meet a woman who would be interested in you - the only answer is anywhere other than where you live (unless you live in a large housing complex).

A woman who takes one look at you and ends up "interested" would feel the same way whether the setting be a nightclub or a laundromat. I was walking home from work yesterday when this woman was walking towards me. As we got near she smiled and looked at the floor. I said hi in passing and she turned around and then we talked for a bit, got the number. The location was irrelevant, but I had to act and you will have to act when you get the opportunity. I'm willing to bet many guys get opportunities regularly but just don't see it.

Now places like coffee shops should aid you in your goal because you'd figure that's where people go (women). You want to be where the women are at, and specifically the type you are looking for. Myself, I like Hard Rock & Metal music and if I wanted to find a woman who was also into that sort of thing (I don't), I would specifically go to as many concerts as possible - this would increase my chances, however it's not to say it couldn't happen anywhere else. So DO go to places that increases your chances while keeping your eyes open at ALL TIMES. At the end of the day it's about being in the right place at the right time and that might me somewhere totally different than you would expect.

 

[Urbanyst]

That's an excellent point bro, I've had some issues with that as well, where me and a chick would stop talking and it would be pretty awkward within the particular social circle we met at. But for me personally, it only lasted for a short period of time though.

I love extended social circles over close knit social circles though. Close knit ones are a bit risky because a breakup with the girl could cause issues with other members of the group. But when it's an extended social circle, where you meet the girl at the same gym, business association, college alumni group, or church group that you are a part of...it's much more manageable.

In terms of good places to cold approach, I can't help you at all in that area Bro lol. I honestly think cold approaching is like a sales guy calling out of the Yellow Pages today......it's just not that effective compared to other strategies.

Cold approach is most effective on broke women. Especially when they can tell you have MONEY lol.