The key to grace, game and an attractive personality is dominance

Chamber36

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So since my crash course in **** Dom/sub relationships I have learned that the key to being graceful and attractive and literally oozing game is simply no more than having a dominant mindset.

All you need to do is make sure you don't take any orders from anybody. Make sure you decide exactly in what circumstances you find yourself. Women are very aware of dominance and submission in human interactions and will hone in on these things in the simple matter of lending somebody a lighter or even the way you order a drink.

I've become so dominant that even when I order a beer I can tell the bartender is literally annoyed that I can actually ask for the beer in a polite way but also in a very commanding way. So that's great fun.

The very core of all this is self-respect. Self-respect is the very nucleus of game.

So you have to keep your house clean and your body in good shape. Keep your hair styled well, dress well, and make sure you have a good shave. Then since you have self-respect make sure that you don't allow anyone to impede on your space or determine anything in your life for you.

What women will do to get into your head (This just happened to me the other day), they will tell you for example they know all about perfume and then they want to tell you which perfume works best on your skin. Don't listen to that b*ll**** unless you're in a store and you want to find out for yourself. You must take that initiative. Unwanted advice remains unwanted.

Also, keep in mind the hierarchy of men and women. Women should not be treated like men. For example: I don't do fistbumps with women anymore. Men do that among each other. Women get nothing but a boob squeeze if they misbehave or something similar.

Women touching me: not allowed unless I allow it. Yesterday for example a girl accidentally brushed against my behind with her hand. I actually felt somewhat harassed by that. Because I didn't turn to her and tell her that she should apologize for touching my behind I actually forfeited dominance to her. These things should be done within 20 seconds or so (max) or else they will just deny, in which case you've lost the social interaction.

Also if I decide to do someone a favor, I will actually tell the person to ask me nicely with please to do them the favor. This puts me in a dominant position once more and allows me to retain as much self-respect as possible.

If you go through life like this, not answering questions if you don't want to, reminding females of their place by not accepting their tests, you will have an incredible amount of charisma. Sometimes girls will even ask you: "What??!", in a loud bar 3 times in a row just to see if you will comply. They are just acting dumb to see how much you are willing to invest/accept. I suppose the best reaction would be to tell them to ask you politely what you said.

I've had 1 guy tell me that he dreamt of his best friend and he was clothed just like me, and I reminded him of his best friend. Then the guy insisted that I save his number. All the while I was just busy thinking about how to retain dominance in the txt convo I was having with a certain chick.

Then I had another guy tell me the other day that I remind him of himself the day before yesterday.

Yesterday, a girl asked if she knew me (I opened her. Simple ****-test). After I responded: "I don't think you know me", she asked whether she should know me from TV or something. My whole energy has changed in the past few weeks it's incredible.

The day before yesterday I actually gave a girl so much insight into her own b*tch behavior that she actually started crying and thanked me as well. It was insane. When you make it clear to girls that you don't accept their demands and don't respond to rudely asked questions, they really have nothing to do but self-reflect, and it can be a very emotional experience for them.

In turn I can be proud of myself that women can trust me, because I make it clear to them that they can trust me because I have incredibly strong personal boundaries.

This approach will make you ooze game.

Be careful though: Feminists will hate you and should be avoided.
 

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I've become so dominant that even when I order a beer I can tell the bartender is literally annoyed that I can actually ask for the beer in a polite way but also in a very commanding way. So that's great fun.
Dominance is good, but this strikes me as jackass level behavior. What did the bartender do to you that you need to make him feel small?
By the way, how did that sub/dom contract situation turn out?
 

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Like anything, you can take it too far. If you make "dominance" your virtue, then you will reap what you sow. Tyrannical leaders have not done well in the long run historically. I prefer to be the kind king rather than the tyrannical king. I don't tolerate disrespect, but I treat people with respect until they give me a reason not to. This tends to keep good people around and the bad ones weed themselves out of my life.

I'm not sure someone who takes pride in "dominating" bar staff, who is socially pressured to "submit" by the way, can develop healthy relationships in any aspect of their life.

That said, if that's how you really want to move through the world, just understand that your choices always have consequences. And sometimes those consequences can erode parts of your life in a way you do not like.
 
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I'm not sure someone who takes pride in "dominating" bar staff, who is socially pressured to "submit" by the way, can develop healthy relationships in any aspect of their life.
Yeah, I don't get the dominating the bartender bit. They get paid to be polite and serve, and not to give you a bunch of backtalk. Doesn't seem right to take advantage of that and lord it over them.
 
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Truly dominant people dont try to dominate others, it happens naturally, its in there auru, some people have it, most dont. You cant fake it.

Also, keep in mind, there's a difference between being dominant and domineering, there not synonyms
 

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Jordan Peterson has some great You Tube videos on the dominance hierarchy. They are worth watching.

I'm dating a retired E9 from the Army. Command Sargeant Major. He has no problem with dominance and he oozes it...but he has no need to be an ass hole either. Sometimes he is (an ass hole) for his own entertainment...but mostly he simply exists in his own solid frame as what IS.

He has unreal charisma and DGAF. Watching him interact with other men is fascinating. Men subconsciously self sort for dominance and dominance is always relative. Those dynamics are interesting in different environments.
 

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I understand your concern about the bar staff. However it doesn't matter, the bar staff likes me, believe me. And not because of tipping as I bet you Americans would think but because of my jokes.

But you guys are right. I shouldn't go too far with this. Better to be a benevolent leader than a tyrannical one.

I have learned an incredible amount about social interactions though now because of this b.d.s.m. experience and I feel like I am now a certified player. A real master in the game now.

The contract hasn't been signed but I have come up with some rules and etiquette. She has to literally ask me if she can enter my house for example. Those types of things.
 

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I think it’s important, at some point, to push the whole dominance thing as far as it’ll go—just because it’s a trait most men totally lack in any meaningful sense.

But like others have pointed out, calibrate lol. Dominance is most potent when no one knows it’s happening: when your frame is the most fun/beneficial, going along with you is something that’ll happen naturally. The other part of this (almost everything in game is paradoxical) is that thinking about dominance or worrying about dominance is not dominant behavior. The top dog is the top dog because that’s just how he is.

Now, when you’re learning these things, of course you’ll have to practice consciously to develop competence. Be smart about it. Make sure to reward compliance. And, most importantly, realize that the only people who are really impressed by blatantly strong frames & overt dominance are people with weak or undeveloped frames. Trying to steamroll people who are high value and already have strong frames is a quick way to get on the wrong side of the people (in my opinion) you most want to have in your life.
 
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