The "Just Got Dumped" GUIDE

[adam225]

I've just spilt with my girlfriend and have a question:

Basically when we split I did show her that I was upset. I spent the first two days on the phone to her trying to fix things but she wasn't having any of it. If I just cut contact now (it's been a week) will this method still work? She's been a right ***** to me and I want to make sure she at least get a taste of her own medicine back.

We were together for 4 years in total and I'd like to have the final dig. Any thoughts?

 

[ScottMustaine]

I've just spilt with my girlfriend and have a question:

Basically when we split I did show her that I was upset. I spent the first two days on the phone to her trying to fix things but she wasn't having any of it. If I just cut contact now (it's been a week) will this method still work? She's been a right ***** to me and I want to make sure she at least get a taste of her own medicine back.

We were together for 4 years in total and I'd like to have the final dig. Any thoughts?

Read the DJ Bible and hang around in here a bit.

In short. Go no contact. AND NEVER EVER ,EVER again. ANSWER her or anything. Drop dead. Pretend she doesn't exist in this world.

 

[adam225]

Read the DJ Bible and hang around in here a bit.

In short. Go no contact. AND NEVER EVER ,EVER again. ANSWER her or anything. Drop dead. Pretend she doesn't exist in this world.

Is there anything I could say or txt to her to give her the final knife in the heart? I really want to get my own back ****ing *****.

 

[ScottMustaine]

Is there anything I could say or txt to her to give her the final knife in the heart? I really want to get my own back ****ing *****.

No. You can go unload yourself and tell her she is a cvnt etc. But the damage will be minimal or no damage at all.

Plus it will make you seem weaker than you really are.

PROVEN revenge is simply doing this ( which somehow my mind has been doing since the age of 3 ).

1) Elimination from your reality. When some person would hurt me. My mind would simply detach emotionally. Like the person doesn't exist. And I don't feel her. Notice that I'm really emotional and sensitive guy. But as I aged I developed the coldness of a psychopath after being hurt. Normally I'm not cold to others.

The anger is still there though. When I think of that person, I remember the pain etc and it angers me. But that was in the past, and only the past one angers me. The present person doesn't exist. ( ex gf).


Thus if you actually get in contact in real life with her. And she is throwing herself at you. Simply BE POLITE , chit chat 2 minutes and say you're in a hurry. If she tells you about her problems etc, again you're in hurry, say sorry and do your job.



2) Become better person. Become richer, more popular. Make sure that you're happy with yourself. Dress better, make new friends, new girlfriend etc. Make sure you make yourself happy. Eventually you will forget about her.

BUT , when she sees you in all that happiness. Her mind will want to get back to you. Read 1). But now, since she is kicked out of your reality, you don't need her. But she needs you. And you CAUSE PAIN she CAUSED TO YOU. Next thing, she will crave EVEN MORE. Which MEANS EVEN MORE PAIN.



The most IMPORTANT THING is not to initiate contact, since the more you talk with her, higher chances of her stringing you back, entering your reality and in turn getting you back to zero.

 

[adam225]

Arrrr, the bltch has just txt me saying she still has the house key I gave her. What shall I do?

 

[adam225]

She might rob my house lol.

 

[adam225]

Anyone?

 

[adam225]

No. You can go unload yourself and tell her she is a cvnt etc. But the damage will be minimal or no damage at all.

Plus it will make you seem weaker than you really are.

PROVEN revenge is simply doing this ( which somehow my mind has been doing since the age of 3 ).

1) Elimination from your reality. When some person would hurt me. My mind would simply detach emotionally. Like the person doesn't exist. And I don't feel her. Notice that I'm really emotional and sensitive guy. But as I aged I developed the coldness of a psychopath after being hurt. Normally I'm not cold to others.

The anger is still there though. When I think of that person, I remember the pain etc and it angers me. But that was in the past, and only the past one angers me. The present person doesn't exist. ( ex gf).


Thus if you actually get in contact in real life with her. And she is throwing herself at you. Simply BE POLITE , chit chat 2 minutes and say you're in a hurry. If she tells you about her problems etc, again you're in hurry, say sorry and do your job.



2) Become better person. Become richer, more popular. Make sure that you're happy with yourself. Dress better, make new friends, new girlfriend etc. Make sure you make yourself happy. Eventually you will forget about her.

BUT , when she sees you in all that happiness. Her mind will want to get back to you. Read 1). But now, since she is kicked out of your reality, you don't need her. But she needs you. And you CAUSE PAIN she CAUSED TO YOU. Next thing, she will crave EVEN MORE. Which MEANS EVEN MORE PAIN.



The most IMPORTANT THING is not to initiate contact, since the more you talk with her, higher chances of her stringing you back, entering your reality and in turn getting you back to zero.

Thanks. Good advice!

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Anyone?

Change the locks at your house, and be done with it if you truly want to heal.

Its hard, it sucks but it thicken's your skin and puts the focus back on where it should've been the entire time you were in the relationship and that's on YOU.

Respect yourself and you will become a better man for it.






PIMP

 

[adam225]

Thanks lol. Sounds like a plan!

 

[ScottMustaine]

Change the lock keys. Of course she can make a copy and then give you keys back and rob you.

Don't be a fool.

 

[adam225]

Good point. She text me again yesterday asking if I could pass by her's on the way home and grab it off her. I left it a few hours and finally got back to her- bluntly saying -"no, just keep it. I don't what to see you" .

 

[adam225]

I won't now. I've just started the NC challenge as well.

I've also deleted all contact points as well as burning some of her stuff she left at mine(it was fun).

 

[adam225]

I won't now. I've just started the NC challenge as well.

I've also deleted all contact points as well as burning some of her stuff she left at mine(it was fun).

 

[rsolom6]

Long story short, I dated a girl for 9 years and didnt commit due to old divorce from another lady and teenager issues finally this year i was ready to commit this july and I caught her with (1) month of text messages on her phone to an old guy friend from years ago where the text said they met once during the month. An argument ensued and she blew out. I chased her for 4 weeks in May trying to get her to realize we would engage, i would change this and that, lost 30 lbs, working out in the gym like a mad man! When I finally said I agree with the break up May 30th via text and I was going to move on with dating, I received a text about something of no value that she would like to have. I ended up meeting her for lunch the following day and it turned into two days of us being together, going to the mall buying her clothes etc.. (what a sucker I was) BUT NO SEX! just me and her talking about what she would want for a wedding etc.., kissing holding each other and laying by the pool. (She then said she don't have ANSWERS yet) On the third day after these two days spent together she went back to avoiding me! and said I need time apart, space to get my bearings and wished me happy fathers day on a Tuesday June 11th saying she was taking her father to Maryland to visit her brother! I found her in OHIO at the guys house she left me for. SO I had no contact since Tuesday the 11th of June 2013. Here i ended up. I am sick over it!

 

[Olivia]

Stupid ****. I dated an so called alpha who did everything an ideal alpha would do. I guess I just studied the game so hard that i no longer have any attraction towards any alpha. somehow this sucks, but i dont feel **** towards anyone anymore. Also I learned to meditate, which means putting your thoughts away. With that technique, no alpha can stay in my head...

Whatever you do.. there are so many different women out there, including enlightened ones like me, so just to make sure: you should never make it a dogma that works on any woman.

 

[SurferJosh]

Thank You

That was epic. My gf dumped me on August 15th while she was on her annual trip to Alaska (we live on Maui). We were together for 3 years. Started out with lust and passion as we are both very attractive. It turned into real love and I stayed faithful to her through all of her trips off of Maui. Suddenly on August 15th I got dumped. She had to contact me at first to get most of her stuff but now that she has most of her stuff she has started to contact me to talk. I told her today that she could pick the rest of her stuff up in my house when I am at work, leave the key on the table, and to not contact me again out of respect for my healing. I was 20 days no contact until I was forced to respond to a series of three text messages where she asked to speak with me. My reply was pick up the rest of your stuff and please leave me alone. So i guess this is really back to day 1 but it is nice to finally feel in control after what was at the time a shocking breakup. Thanks for this advice. I am glad I instinctively followed it to begin with. Aloha nui.

 

[oheya04]

guys i need help i tried the NC rule for like 2 months now she dumped me on the first week on july and last week i got a text from her that she still wants to be friends with me i didnt reply and the morning after she sent me a friend request in facebook and i messaged her that i dont wanna be friends anymore and leave me alone forever and she kept asking that and i said no all the time and dont contact me anymore and after that i slept. the next day she texted me saying that "how are you" and i got all friendly with her all of a sudden and became friends in facebook again., i realized that i miss her too. but after that day i didnt tried to contact her anymore until now. cause i wanna move on already but i still has feelings for her.
and right now i discovered this forum and registered immediately and im doing the NC rule again.

is it too late now?

note* she got a new bf 4 weeks after she dumped me which is im thinking that has to be her rebound guy because it's too soon to get a new one right?

 

[adam225]

NC is for YOU. You do it to break yourself away from her and get your head back in check. Look at it this way - it's obvious things will never be the same again so why hang on ? She wants you for attention ONLY so she can soften the breakup for her benefits. Do your self a favor and cut all ties NOW.

P.S. don't give her any kind of emotion reaction to anything from now. Keep it BOLD and STRAIGHT TO THE POINT (if you have to speak).

 

[oheya04]

alright. im thinking of a way to how to say it to her now cause i got all friendly with her. should i say that im getting a new number?