The Inner Workings of Women: Emotion

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Goldeeeeeeennnnnnnnn!
 

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Very good stuff indeed. When I didn't know the truth before, I applied the c&f and push/pull and it worked as you described.
 

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Desdinova said:
As you go through your transformation into a Don Juan, you'll notice that your guy friends won't like how you're changing. However, you may notice the complete opposite with women. She'll respond extremely well to your more outgoing personality, and how you've learned to enjoy human touch!

How true this is! I got a lot of stick when I started to exercise, do weights and revamp my wardrobe off guys, but several of my female friends have remarked on my new outfits and the progressive toning of my arms.

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The Anti-Slvt Defense

from another thread:


This is known as the "anti-slvt defense". Let's take a good look at what's happening inside her brain when this is going on (brain commentary in italics)

Man starts kissing her
Emotion: oooh! I like this. That feels good. Uhhhh, I'm starting to get horny. I need to satisfy my craving.

Woman responds with kissing and sucking
Emotion: Oh yeah, I think I'm falling in love! Oh, I feel so good, so attractive, so sexy!

Man responds by trying to take off her pants
Logic: WARNING! If you let him continue, you're portraying yourself as a slvt!

Woman pushes man away. Man gets confused and stops. Woman says "I don't want to take this too fast"
Emotion: Why did he stop kissing me? It felt so good! I want to feel more good feelings!

Woman pulls man back and continues kissing him
Emotion: Ahhh! That's better! I feel good again. I feel sexy!

What happened here is that her logic and emotion were in conflict. Logic tells her that giving into sex labels her as a slvt. However, emotion tells her to keep doing what feels good. Emotion is stronger than logic which is why she wanted to continue despite the man wanting to take her pants off. To combat the logic, all you need to do is make her emotion override her logic. It's not hard. All you have to do is continue pushing her emotions in a feel-good sexual direction, and she'll give you the green light (usually by removing her own clothes).


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this is fuc*kin gold and can attest to this advice as I just went through this the other night....I escalated hard and once I got to her panties I could tell in her head she was saying "no you're not getting this tonight". Yet her body was urging me to, pulsating with every kiss like "YES YES YES". She put up a great defense (2-3 hand blocks) but I remained aggressive and progressed forward and OH MY was she WET!!! (I literally just ripped her panties off and she went NUTS):crazy: Like they say "go until the broad says no"
 

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Spot on. Nothing really to add except to say the hardest thing that men have to deal with understanding the emotional nature of women is that they can turn on a dime. One minute they are ticked off with you, the next they love you.... and when this happens they can go from hating you to loving you and be authentic. If your girl is ticked off at you you can fix it... The bad news is if she loves you THAT can turn on a dime as well.... It's all about balance.
 

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It's an excellent and well written post. It should be added to one of DJ Bible materials.
 

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All women can't be like that surely? If things are going well in a relationship, not all women will want the unnecessary drama. Some women thrive on arguments and making up for it afterwards but women I've had relations with have not wanted the hassle and when things have been going well we got on better as opposed to when it's not. Just my opinion but if my partner and I are good to each other and enjoy each other's company there is no need for friction. I get her going, I have a way about me....hard to explain but I'm a dirty **** in the bedroom and I'm not shy. Plus I have great social skills and usually the life and soul of parties so even though she hates it when I'm singing on karaoke, but deep down I think she likes that about me.
 

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All women can't be like that surely?
I wrote this post 12 years ago, and I still stand by it. All women need drama in their lives, some more than others. Women can't just be happy with being happy. They need the emotional fluctuation to be content. You need to keep in mind that women's brains are wired quite differently than a man's brain. Comparing men and women to each other is like comparing a 4-stroke engine and a diesel engine. They can both accomplish the same things, but they function differently.
 

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I wrote this post 12 years ago, and I still stand by it. All women need drama in their lives, some more than others. Women can't just be happy with being happy. They need the emotional fluctuation to be content. You need to keep in mind that women's brains are wired quite differently than a man's brain. Comparing men and women to each other is like comparing a 4-stroke engine and a diesel engine. They can both accomplish the same things, but they function differently.
I admit that I provide tooooo many positive emotions when I deal with woman because I admittedly am a "nice guy". How do I learn to properly provide negative and positive emotions with the women I deal with, and when do a man do this??
 

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I wrote this post 12 years ago, and I still stand by it. All women need drama in their lives, some more than others. Women can't just be happy with being happy. They need the emotional fluctuation to be content. You need to keep in mind that women's brains are wired quite differently than a man's brain. Comparing men and women to each other is like comparing a 4-stroke engine and a diesel engine. They can both accomplish the same things, but they function differently.
What about a 2 stroke?
 

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All women can't be like that surely? If things are going well in a relationship, not all women will want the unnecessary drama. Some women thrive on arguments and making up for it afterwards but women I've had relations with have not wanted the hassle and when things have been going well we got on better as opposed to when it's not. Just my opinion but if my partner and I are good to each other and enjoy each other's company there is no need for friction. I get her going, I have a way about me....hard to explain but I'm a dirty **** in the bedroom and I'm not shy. Plus I have great social skills and usually the life and soul of parties so even though she hates it when I'm singing on karaoke, but deep down I think she likes that about me.
so, why did it end? surely since you did mention it in plural that means you did end with then, why?
 

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It has been stated here many times that women are more emotional than men. However, truly understanding this concept doesn't seem to go far beyond the knowledge that women are overly sensitive to words and phrases.

The key to understanding women's actions, reactions, words, and decisions is to see how strong emotion with the absence of logic will affect her behaviour. If you put this twist on it, things suddenly make sense!

I'm going to give some examples of how women's emotions cause them to say the things they do, make incredibly stupid decisions, and act like they belong in a mental institution. In other words, act like women.


The Anti-Slvt Defense

from another thread:


This is known as the "anti-slvt defense". Let's take a good look at what's happening inside her brain when this is going on (brain commentary in italics)

Man starts kissing her
Emotion: oooh! I like this. That feels good. Uhhhh, I'm starting to get horny. I need to satisfy my craving.

Woman responds with kissing and sucking
Emotion: Oh yeah, I think I'm falling in love! Oh, I feel so good, so attractive, so sexy!

Man responds by trying to take off her pants
Logic: WARNING! If you let him continue, you're portraying yourself as a slvt!

Woman pushes man away. Man gets confused and stops. Woman says "I don't want to take this too fast"
Emotion: Why did he stop kissing me? It felt so good! I want to feel more good feelings!

Woman pulls man back and continues kissing him
Emotion: Ahhh! That's better! I feel good again. I feel sexy!

What happened here is that her logic and emotion were in conflict. Logic tells her that giving into sex labels her as a slvt. However, emotion tells her to keep doing what feels good. Emotion is stronger than logic which is why she wanted to continue despite the man wanting to take her pants off. To combat the logic, all you need to do is make her emotion override her logic. It's not hard. All you have to do is continue pushing her emotions in a feel-good sexual direction, and she'll give you the green light (usually by removing her own clothes).


Cheating on her Nice Boyfriend

Women don't thrive on positive emotions alone. If they did, then all the flowers, chocolates, and love poetry would cause a woman to remain forever faithful. There are techniques on sosuave that prove women respond better when their emotions are being thrown all over the place. The neg-hit and ****y/funny are a couple of big ones. These cause women to go through a huge emotional rollercoaster. Here's an example of a neg-hit, kino, and ****y/funny all thrown together and what she's feeling:

Guy: (patting her on the head) Awww, you're so CUTE when you're clumsy!
Girl: (confused look) Fvck off! (smiling)
Emotions: He's touching me! Yeah! Wait a minute, he just insulted me! But he called me cute! Oh my god, this is so exciting!

When a man feels excitement, it's usually a positive rush of emotions, but a woman feels excitement when she's feeling a whole bunch of different emotions in a short amount of time. The emotions don't have to all be positive. Some can be very negative!

A woman needs her man to push her emotions all over the scale. AFCs will work at pushing (and keeping) her emotions toward the positive end of the scale. When you realize that the emotional rollercoaster gets results, you know that constant happiness is boring for her. She needs her emotions to go bezerk to become excited!

Simply put, a woman will cheat on her bf if you shake her emotions around more than her bf does. She'll run off with you for some excitement while her bf continues to sit comfortably in his relationship, thinking his work was done after the first "I Love You". He believes that he only needs to keep her happy to keep her attracted. WRONG.

So, who's she going to be more attracted to? The guy who's comfortable in the relationship, or the guy who's making her feel strong emotions (being a combination of both positive and negative)?

This is the motivation for women to even begin thinking of moving on from their boring bf. Eventually, the negative emotion of cheating on her bf gets thrown into the mix. The mere idea of cheating on him will actually help DRIVE her to cheat on him! It's an extreme emotion of doing something wrong, and it'll aid her in feeling excited when you're making out with her. A man armed with this knowledge will be able to slide her from under the bf's nose.


Talking Dirty during Sex

This is perhaps one of the finest examples of how women work on emotional rollercoasters. Many of you know that women love it when you talk dirty to them, be a bit demeaning, make orders, and be a dominant male in the bedroom. These give her a slight taste of negative emotion while experiencing something pleasurable.

With the exception of pain, have you ever had a woman cry after sex? What you've done is provided her with the emotion she needed to feel. Her emotional experience starts showing up on the outside of her body. She's crying, but she's extremely happy. This is one of the few times where you'll actually SEE how women work on the inside.

What Crying Really Is:

It's simple. When a woman cries, it's just her emotions spilling over. If you need an analogy, picture a bucket of water. The more you tip it, the more it's going to spill over the side. Crying can happen when she's happy, sad, angry, scared, and every other emotion that the human body can experience. It can also occur when you shake her bucket of emotions in multiple directions.


When Women Want You Back

After a woman dumps you and you begin to move on with your life, she feels unwanted, undesireable, and jealous of any other woman who feels wanted and desired by you. She's doing what's natural to make those feelings go away: she's pursuing you! Once she gets you back and her emotions calm down, she may lose interest again because it's no longer bothering her. You try moving on again and her feelings come back! She again reacts to them, and the cycle continues. This is why men get thrown into the "Friend Zone" after a breakup - because she can't handle the emotional shaking of completely cutting ties.

The "Friend Zone" is a neutral area where she still has control over you and how you affect her emotions without actually being in a relationship. If you start straying, she can c0ckblock you or show you a bit of sexuality to make you think you still have a chance. When you're stuck in this neutral zone, she can have her cake and eat it by screwing any guy she likes while keeping you from disrupting her emotional equalibrium.


Drama

The reason for women loving drama so much is because it provides that emotional rollercoaster ride. They tune into gossip, soap operas, and talk shows to get a dose of drama. When a man is working hard to make her 100% happy, she'll start an argument for the sole purpose to add some drama into her life. Fvck being happy all the time, that's boring. Let's have an exciting, emotion-filled fight!

Some women like the higher and steeper rollercoasters, and need extreme drama in their daily life. That's why they'll end up doing stupid things like fvcking two or more of their married co-workers, and won't even think of the end result: being labelled a slvt. These women don't view it as destroying other people's lives, they view it as adding some excitement to their own lives!


Fortune Telling and Horoscopes

Women are big into this crap, and can you blame them? They get told what's going to happen to them throughout the day, and throughout their future. It's a step down from gossip, and is drama in it's purest bull5hit form. Just look around at how many women are into tarot cards, palm reading, handwriting analysis, and all those other gimmicks.

To take gimmicks even further, ever notice the vast amounts of women in casinos? It gives them the same emotional rush. They could walk out a millionaire, or walk out flat broke. Either way, they get their emotional rollercoaster ride!


Women and Change

One of the biggest reasons for the existance of the emotional rollercoaster is the subject of change. Changing emotions is exciting! Also, women are much more receptive to change than men, especially positive change (well, at least positive in their mind). That's why they keep re-arranging the living room, and moving where everything is located in the kitchen. For a man, it's a pain in the ass. For a woman, change is refreshing!

As you go through your transformation into a Don Juan, you'll notice that your guy friends won't like how you're changing. However, you may notice the complete opposite with women. She'll respond extremely well to your more outgoing personality, and how you've learned to enjoy human touch!



As you can see by looking at these examples and countless others, emotion is a MAJOR part of a woman's life. If you see a woman doing something completely illogical or saying something filled with nonsense, apply the idea that she's reacting to her emotions. That's when her behaviour will make sense!
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