trickynick
Master Don Juan
AFC's are men who are fundamentally ignorant of both the mentality required to succeed with women and the attitude which their behaveior reflects. AFCs who begin to understand the defects in their attitudes (but do not yet completely) focus primarily on the behaviors that they think will get them where they need to be with women.
They are told that they need not to look towards women for validation in their life yet they continue to be discouraged and sometimes even depressed over the failures of their early attempts at DJing and they allow rejections to strike them at the very core of their ego. They are told to be a challenge and to not put women on a pedastal and yet they break down to AFC behaviors after the first few interactions or dates with a woman allowing their prospects to be aware of their feelings and end up posting here telling us they have met the girl of their dreams with whom they want to have an LTR. Sometimes they will even go so far as to post questions like "how do I appear as a challege?" The fact that this question is even being asked implies that the person asking it is not a challenge at all otherwise they would not be asking, they are merely attempting unsuccessfully to mask their AFC attitudes with behaviors they've learned with the hopes that that will get them through a seduction.
Attempts to hide attitudes behind behaviors will always fail because behavior in the end will always reflect true attitudes. An AFC who is on a date concerned about whether or not he's doing or saying the right thing, not able to stand to keep his eagerness from influencing his actions and scared to death that the woman might reject him and he'll be left lonely as he's always been is nervous and visibly so to the woman. Under these conditions, how can he possibly be expected to maintain his DJ composure as he throws off those slick little neg-hits he read in the tips forum earlier that afternoon?
Little does this guy realize that the root cause of his problem is his attitude. All he knows are tips and techniques that come across horribly if the person using them is not confident, indecisive and has their self-worth and ego joined at the hip with the outcome of the evening.
If the guy I just described is you, you don't have to tell us, but man be honest with yourself! You've been told not to be desparate. Are you desparate? Don't post your answer, just ask yourself.
Becoming a DJ is a long process that develops with experiences over time. Rejection is a stepping stone to success but only if you understand the mistakes you are making and make up your mind not to make those mistakes again. With this attitude how could you not end up a great DJ? And that being the case, what excuse do you have for fear of rejection when you know you will be successful in long run for a fact? Success breeds success and as you have more and more positive experiences behind you, you'll be more and more unstoppable.
It's not always easy. The question about life is never "is there going to be adversity in your endeavors?", but rather "what will you do when you run into it?" Are you going to be an AFC and give up? Are you going to post here about how much life sucks and how you're a pathetic loser who can't get chicks? You certainly can, but you're not going to like my reply. Or are you going to be honest with yourself about how you screwed up and what you need to change and go find another chick to not do the same thing with?
Unfortunately, nobody on this board can post anything that is going to give you the true confidence that is going allow you to embrace wholeheartedly the attitude that you need to be successful with women, you have to find it in yourself. We can't go there, we can only point the way. Until you find it, you're not there yet, you're just another guy with "Master Don Juan" under his name.
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You either own the game or it owns you!
[This message has been edited by trickynick (edited 03-21-2002).]
They are told that they need not to look towards women for validation in their life yet they continue to be discouraged and sometimes even depressed over the failures of their early attempts at DJing and they allow rejections to strike them at the very core of their ego. They are told to be a challenge and to not put women on a pedastal and yet they break down to AFC behaviors after the first few interactions or dates with a woman allowing their prospects to be aware of their feelings and end up posting here telling us they have met the girl of their dreams with whom they want to have an LTR. Sometimes they will even go so far as to post questions like "how do I appear as a challege?" The fact that this question is even being asked implies that the person asking it is not a challenge at all otherwise they would not be asking, they are merely attempting unsuccessfully to mask their AFC attitudes with behaviors they've learned with the hopes that that will get them through a seduction.
Attempts to hide attitudes behind behaviors will always fail because behavior in the end will always reflect true attitudes. An AFC who is on a date concerned about whether or not he's doing or saying the right thing, not able to stand to keep his eagerness from influencing his actions and scared to death that the woman might reject him and he'll be left lonely as he's always been is nervous and visibly so to the woman. Under these conditions, how can he possibly be expected to maintain his DJ composure as he throws off those slick little neg-hits he read in the tips forum earlier that afternoon?
Little does this guy realize that the root cause of his problem is his attitude. All he knows are tips and techniques that come across horribly if the person using them is not confident, indecisive and has their self-worth and ego joined at the hip with the outcome of the evening.
If the guy I just described is you, you don't have to tell us, but man be honest with yourself! You've been told not to be desparate. Are you desparate? Don't post your answer, just ask yourself.
Becoming a DJ is a long process that develops with experiences over time. Rejection is a stepping stone to success but only if you understand the mistakes you are making and make up your mind not to make those mistakes again. With this attitude how could you not end up a great DJ? And that being the case, what excuse do you have for fear of rejection when you know you will be successful in long run for a fact? Success breeds success and as you have more and more positive experiences behind you, you'll be more and more unstoppable.
It's not always easy. The question about life is never "is there going to be adversity in your endeavors?", but rather "what will you do when you run into it?" Are you going to be an AFC and give up? Are you going to post here about how much life sucks and how you're a pathetic loser who can't get chicks? You certainly can, but you're not going to like my reply. Or are you going to be honest with yourself about how you screwed up and what you need to change and go find another chick to not do the same thing with?
Unfortunately, nobody on this board can post anything that is going to give you the true confidence that is going allow you to embrace wholeheartedly the attitude that you need to be successful with women, you have to find it in yourself. We can't go there, we can only point the way. Until you find it, you're not there yet, you're just another guy with "Master Don Juan" under his name.
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You either own the game or it owns you!
[This message has been edited by trickynick (edited 03-21-2002).]
Some day.
