The ''if you really like someone cancel your stuff''

[Flakey_Woman_Suck]

Ok, this is all really simple. OP, you did not attract her, you did not make it so you were irresistable to her. You played the boring game and got boring results. You did not push the physical envelope and showed you are not the type of guy who knows what to do around a lady. If you got stuck in her city/town and you weren't invited to sleep in her bed you have already lost.

Heck she told me she initially thought I was really good with girls, but then I told her that wasn't the case (huehue, I told her.. yeah.. on the first date and on the second date she had to laugh about it again and we talked about it a second time). I asked her teasingly: ''disappointed?''. She said no and that she liked me.

As I said, because we're both only 19 and just starting out in the love field (although she had a guy for 2 years) I think all these mistakes and my absolutely horrendous game (wait, almost non-existent game lol) haven't done too much damage.

I think she just wants to take things slow. Don't necessarily have a problem with that, I mean the moment I'm gonna sleep in her bed will come (if my judgement is correct). But I'm just saying that I would want to see her more often.

 

[Kbomb]

Heck she told me she initially thought I was really good with girls, but then I told her that wasn't the case (huehue, I told her.. yeah.. on the first date and on the second date she had to laugh about it again and we talked about it a second time). I asked her teasingly: ''disappointed?''. She said no and that she liked me.

As I said, because we're both only 19 and just starting out in the love field (although she had a guy for 2 years) I think all these mistakes and my absolutely horrendous game haven't done too much damage.

I think she just wants to take things slow. Don't necessarily have a problem with that, I mean the moment I'm gonna sleep in her bed will come (if my judgement is correct). But I'm just saying that I would want to see her more often.

Okay guy, take the blinders off. You are most likely done with this girl. It is time to move on. Your judgment is incorrect. Even if you have a chance the only sure fire way to make it come true is to move on and game other girls, period. She will contact you if she is still interested. Otherwise, progress, progress progress. That is the name of the game. Not results, but progress. Results will come regardless.

 

[Flakey_Woman_Suck]

Okay guy, take the blinders off. You are most likely done with this girl. It is time to move on. Your judgment is incorrect. Even if you have a chance the only sure fire way to make it come true is to move on and game other girls, period. She will contact you if she is still interested. Otherwise, progress, progress progress. That is the name of the game. Not results, but progress. Results will come regardless.

And I'm sure she'll contact me because she often initiates text/FB contact (yes, I'm very stubborn). But yes, you're right learning from your mistakes and progress is the name of the game.

But still: if I get into her bed (without chloroform), case of beer?

 

[lamobatsman]

kbomb- some girls liket o take thigns slow no? so how can u say that just cos she didnt want to sleep with him after the first date that shes not interested?

 

[Kbomb]

kbomb- some girls like to take things slow no? so how can u say that just cos she didn't want to sleep with him after the first date that shes not interested?

Maybe but that doesn't mean they aren't cuddling, holding hands and making out. All things that were not happening to this young gentleman. He is the one who needs to make physical escalation happen even if she says its too soon he still has to lead it there. He isn't making any moves, which is poison for sexual attraction. Most likely he is heading to the friendzone if not already there.

 

[Flakey_Woman_Suck]

Maybe but that doesn't mean they aren't cuddling, holding hands and making out. All things that were not happening to this young gentleman.

We did all that, we cuddled, held hands and made out, while watching the movie. Only not when we went to sleep. I gave her a little goodbye kiss when leaving the next morning.

 

[Flakey_Woman_Suck]

Still haven't heard anything from her since friday. I'm wondering how much longer I should wait for her to initiate contact before I'll send her a text.

 

[Vidrio]

Still haven't heard anything from her since friday. I'm wondering how much longer I should wait for her to initiate contact before I'll send her a text.

You shouldn't send her a text. Only text her if she texts you first. Move on and get new chicks.

 

[Blackhole105]

Sorry to hear this man
Similar thing happened to me recently when dating an inexperienced girl. I thought the best thing would be to take it slow physically and tell her my feelings about her. Turns out i was wrong.

 

[lamobatsman]

Sorry to hear this man
Similar thing happened to me recently when dating an inexperienced girl. I thought the best thing would be to take it slow physically and tell her my feelings about her. Turns out i was wrong.

what did you do? and why is it wrong? what do girls want?!!!

 

[Flakey_Woman_Suck]

Sorry to hear this man
Similar thing happened to me recently when dating an inexperienced girl. I thought the best thing would be to take it slow physically and tell her my feelings about her. Turns out i was wrong.

What happened on your date buddy?

In my case we made out on the second date.

She finally initiated a text-conversation today. She asked whether I was at the uni tomorrow, I replied yes. She said ''ok, then we can maybe talk a bit''. Don't know how to take that, hope she's not gonna give me the boot. Could be I'm wrong though and she just wants to chill/talk a bit.

 

[pdx1138]

I used to do what you are doing now and I failed at women for much longer than I care to admit.

You should temper your "oneitus" for this girl.

She doesn't text you for 2 whole days and you're "wondering" when she will?

Figure out a way to NOT think that way...it makes you desperate, which will lead to failure with her and future prospects.

From now on (with this one), do not initiate texts or calls....let her do it from now on.

Trust me, it's the right thing to do.

and YES absafreakinglutely! An interested girl will move mountains to see you if she wants you.

 

[Flakey_Woman_Suck]

I used to do what you are doing now and I failed at women for much longer than I care to admit.

You should temper your "oneitus" for this girl.

She doesn't text you for 2 whole days and you're "wondering" when she will?

Figure out a way to NOT think that way...it makes you desperate, which will lead to failure with her and future prospects.

From now on (with this one), do not initiate texts or calls....let her do it from now on.

Trust me, it's the right thing to do.

and YES absafreakinglutely! An interested girl will move mountains to see you if she wants you.

There's some truth in that.
Oh by the way, how did it end?

I got REBOUNDED. Yes, she honestly told me as to put me out of my misery that she wasn't over her ex yet and that she just needed someone to fill up the blank space and to send texts to, etc. Case closed. She said she didn't know when she would be finished with proessing her ex and proposed to just stay good friends and that if something was supposed to happen between us it would happen automatically some time because we'd have it good together.

So much for ''I like you''.
Case closed.

 

[Flakey_Woman_Suck]

Ain't nobody gonna post a witty comment on here? ^^