The I Don't Give a F*CK Approach

[djokovic77]

So last night I was in a REAL bad mood about my life. Personal issues etc. I worked out real hard. I'm not looking big or anything (I'm skinny 165 pound model build.) But I felt a little 'freer' and badass after working out. Probably the endorphins and whatnot. I was gonna just go to bed but I had a rush of energy and was quite horny to be honest..

So I just showered and when I got out, I thought man this is crazy you DESERVE to go out and get some. It was about 11. I'm normally shy, AFCish etc but do get laid although it's often due to women approaching me and I feel awkward. I was in a real 'f*ck the world' mentality. So, all my neurotic, 'what if she thinks this...' bs went out the window. I wanted to find the hottest woman to bang and go back to HER place and BANG the life out of her, then leave her. My attitude was if a ho rejects me, it's her problem.

I walk to the nearest bar and realize I've been there before, so I was about to leave out of social fear of recognition and perhaps not being able to run my cool persona in a familiar place, then I told myself 'Djokovic77 stop being so p*ssy' and refocused. I chatted up a latina who was checking me out and got her number before she left, which loosened me up. I ended up spending the night talking to a late 20's (I'm early 20's) blonde. Normally I would have flaked and maybe kissed her. But she was dropping crazy hints 'I live 2 blocks away' 'I just broke up with my boyfriend and I want to go on a 30 day sex binge' I swear to God she said that, and when she did my c*ck perked up lol.

But what was annoying is she kept saying 'Nothing's gonna happen, nothings happening..' At like 2 she went out with me for a cigarette, kissed me, and said 'alright well I'm gonna walk home, I guess I'll see you around..' Normally I would say alright take care and go back to nurse my wounds with more alcohol. Instead I felt this anger and indignance in me, how DARE she lead me on like that. 'Hey,' I said loudly ...'look why don't I just come back to your place and **** your brains out, it seems like you could use it.' I was literally shaking, like my legs were going crazy and I thought I would be branded a neighborhood pervert or something. She laughed. Cackled actually 'Oh God, this is it, I've really done it now' I thought. Next thing I know her tongue is down my throat again. 'Come on' she said and led me by hand to her place.

Not another word was said. But it was some of the best, mind-blowing sex ever. (She basically worshipped my c*ck, complimenting its size and my ability to go on forever.) It was like porn sex. I felt so confident and alpha after just putting the cards on the table. In reflection, I realized it would have never happened if I wasn't in that 'f*ck the world, who cares what anyone thinks' mentality. Have to go out with that more often...

 

[cablecow15]

wow , nice man , i can vouge for that extra boost of manliness you feel after working out some , just goes to show you how women will punish themselves just to test you .

She wanted you d!ck , but wanted to see if you had the balls to give it to her , congrats man i doubt i would have done it , but it goes to show , anger can be out best friend at times

 

[djokovic77]

Yeah, haha thanks. It definitely takes away my self doubt and neurosis. I always do best when I think I may do worst/am not trying to micro manage everything I say or do like a politician. It seems like most girls in bars want guys who look well put together and 'pretty-boy' but act wild. Kind of like a preppy bad-ass or some evil guy on a soap opera haha.

 

[European-DJ]

Definatly going to try this next time!
This kind of attitude/approach It is not me, but i would LIKE IT TO BE ME! !

 

[whosthat]

thats very good, but i would count on it happening every time, i got a feeling if i go and try it it wont work but i may give it a go

 

[Huffman]

I guess I'll see you around..

Funny! I've heard these exact words so often and everytime it means "I want you now but I'm not gonna say it"! It's kind of nasty because - if you're not on top of your game - it throws you off balance and BAM she's gone!

I've let more than one girl go home alone like this. These moments where you think "HOW COULD I BE SO STUPID" one minute later.

And well done to you that you went after her!

 

[EvilAgenda]

A good example of being honest and saying exactly what's on your mind has a powerful effect.

 

[djokovic77]

Funny! I've heard these exact words so often and everytime it means "I want you now but I'm not gonna say it"! It's kind of nasty because - if you're not on top of your game - it throws you off balance and BAM she's gone!

I've let more than one girl go home alone like this. These moments where you think "HOW COULD I BE SO STUPID" one minute later.

And well done to you that you went after her!

Thanks, but to be honest it was rare for me; I normally flake out. That's the truth about them putting you on the spot; I think what I fear though is by the time they say it, it's bordering on too late. Like, they're still open for you to pounce but their interest is waning and this is there half hearted 'last ditch' attempt.

We all fear directness if it fails, and I could have failed easily; part of it was my confidence and approach but given the wrong girl and I would have failed. I think though we have to realize the flip side is not so bad. This isn't high school, we're grown men, who cares what anyone thinks about our reputation? In fact stuff like this, even if rejected, could make us seem bad/mysterious.

 

[don't]

All this angst comes from bothering with US women. If you'll just wise up and seek out Filipinas, in their homeland, via the Net, you can drop all that bs. In fact, there's ways to get her to pay YOU 10-20k a year, averaged over the 5 years until she becomes a US citizen. Plus show you a great time, the way almost no spoiled US ***** is going to do for you.

 

[NewAndImproved]

Good example here of "clarity of intent." No tip toeing around the issue. You wanted her. She wanted you. Even when she threw you a bit of a curve ball (**** test) you didn't change course.

A+ post.

 

[Jariel]

Nice! I really enjoyed reading this and it's all so familiar.

I couldn't believe the kind of results I was getting once I let go of my inhibitions and just started going for it. In my experience majority of the women I've been with told me they never have sex on the first date, never bring guys back to their place and some even told me directly that nothing is going to happen...a matter of hours later I've got her bent over a car bonet or back at her place banging the hell out of her.

It won't work on every woman, but a lot of women want to fvck and are just waiting for someone to take the initiative. I was actually quite shocked at how easy it is once you stop caring about rejection or what she might think of you.

 

[HalfAddict]

All you guys yakkin about how you are " gonna go and try it ", bull****, this is not something you try, it is not a pick up line or technique.

You have to own that mentality, you have to not give a ****, literally no give a single ****. It is harder than it sounds, djokovic77 got it because he was simply fed up.

This is inner game. If you are really serious about trying it, stop giving a **** about the outcome. You'd be amazed at the fun you would have.

Also high five djokovic77

 

[zekko]

I'm normally shy, AFCish etc but do get laid although it's often due to women approaching me and I feel awkward.

Honestly, Djokovic, it still sounds like this woman seduced you, for the most part. At the very least, she laid the table for you - her hints could barely have been more overt.

I don't say this to criticize you, but rather to say this: Just think about the possibilities if you really do throw off your inhibitions and really adopt an I don't give a fvck approach.

But regardless, you're still doing enough to get laid now (women do help you), and you had a nice bold line. So well done.

 

[Serg897]

Great, great post. This made my day.

The lesson is simple. GO FOR WHAT YOU WANT. Women are sexual creatures just like us. If you feel chemistry there is nothing wrong with trying a direct approach once in a while.

She dropped a lot of hints that she wanted sex and you capitalized.

 

[Le killeur]

Djokovic, that sounds f@ckin awesome, i thought i had the 'i dont give a f@ck' attitude but that takes the biscuit! Cheers man this has spurred me on to try similar. Stupid sh*t tests.

 

[Nicholas]

I rep you not because of your awesome night and useful lesson, but because of your username. cheers

 

[Alex DeLarge]

That's what I'm talking about. More people need to adopt this mentality. I kinda did something similar to this the other night. Went on a date with this model HB9.5.. We went to a bar and she said "You asked me out and you're not even gonna buy me a drink?" I said back "Nah".. She seemed kinda struck, then she said "Why?" Then I replied "Cause I don't really feel like it. Is this an issue?" and she immediately started saying things like "Oh sorry! I didn't mean to come off that way blah blah"..

Point is, just be yourself. I didn't want to buy the chick a drink so I just straight up told her no.

 

[Nik TPT]

Amazing, love reading posts like these!

 

[Single4Life]

Not caring is easy.

I acquired it because of the suffering I went through in life... but it's easy.

 

[cablecow15]

All you guys yakkin about how you are " gonna go and try it ", bull****, this is not something you try, it is not a pick up line or technique.

You have to own that mentality, you have to not give a ****, literally no give a single ****. It is harder than it sounds, djokovic77 got it because he was simply fed up.

This is inner game. If you are really serious about trying it, stop giving a **** about the outcome. You'd be amazed at the fun you would have.

Also high five djokovic77

Your half right , I don't plan on doing this with the next person i hit on the next time im out , but when the perfect storm of a situation arises " like the one the op experienced" ill have no problem taking the plunge on some B!tch trying to lead me on.

the key is to use that kinda mentality in the right situation. I wouldn't see having a I don't give a F$%^ attitude working well in life if you keep it there 24/7