The Holy Grail of being attractive to women, right here for your reading pleasure...

[Atom Smasher]

Provide a fun experience for women. Tease them and be playful.

That's it. If you follow that simple principle, you will be attractive to women.

All the techniques here on SS are simply training wheels to get you to the point where you can pull off a comfortable, easy and fun vibe with women.

Add to that a sense of style and an awareness of abundance, and you simply cannot fail.

Here's a secret about looks that very few men know: If you are ugly or mediocre in looks, if you follow the guidelines above your appearance will actually start to morph and drastically improve. This is because your body language will change, the way you present your hair and clothing will change, and a million physical subtleties that even I, your humble attractiveness sherpa can't identify will change.

Many of you think this is a gross over-simplification. But look at those who have graduated from SS. Each one has come to this conclusion.

Provide fun, and do it for your own amusement. Even if women were formerly repelled by you (this was my life for 50 years) they will do a complete 180 and they will be smiling at you as you walk down the street.

You are the King of your own kingdom. You are above women (and trust me, women are CRAVING a man who they esteem to be above them). You were blessed to be born a man. The man is the giver, the woman the receiver, not only sexually but also in almost every arena of life. You are the cause, she is the effect. You are the action, she is affected by the action. You are superior in intellect and reasoning ability; she needs that which she doesn't possess in her life and she knows it. She needs manliness, decisiveness, and a rocky shoreline against which her ocean of emotions can thrash against, thereby giving her definition as a woman.

But I digress as always...

The takeaway here is that you become extremely attractive to women when you provide fun and excitement in their boring, mundane lives. Nothing more than a daily shower is needed.

 

[zekko]

trust me, women are CRAVING a man who they esteem to be above them

I don't believe everything I read on this forum, but I absolutely believe this to be the case.

 

[Vulpine]

All the techniques here on SS are simply training wheels to get you to the point where you can pull off a comfortable, easy and fun vibe with women.

This is true. We come to understand gender roles, we come to learn confidence, we come to find that we've been born into a marketing agenda that keeps people single and confidence low to sell product. Unfortunately, we also come to find that women are behaving as a man should in the absence of men.

You are the King of your own kingdom. You are above women (and trust me, women are CRAVING a man who they esteem to be above them). You were blessed to be born a man. The man is the giver, the woman the receiver, not only sexually but also in almost every arena of life. You are the cause, she is the effect. You are the action, she is affected by the action. You are superior in intellect and reasoning ability; she needs that which she doesn't possess in her life and she knows it. She needs manliness, decisiveness, and a rocky shoreline against which her ocean of emotions can thrash against, thereby giving her definition as a woman.

I have found this to be very true. Except the "above women" part. Men and women are equally to blame for this "adversarial" "battle of the sexes" condition we are in.

Consider yin and yang. <--- take a moment to click the wiki link.

If I am Yang, and I am looking to attract my Yin, behaving like Yin will repel, not attract. Once I understood to be Yang, and embrace that as my purpose, Yin finds me attractive: she needs me in order to be complete. We, yin and yang together, are complementary forces that make a better "whole" than the quality of the individual elements.

And, after I had come to understand what "being a man" entails, I could develop that in myself. I could make myself better to be with better in return. In the past, I was a grey element: wishy-washy and ambiguous. Consequently, I found myself with similar "gray" elements of women. Trashy, loose, wishy-washy. Imagine a completely gray circle of androgyny!

^^^ again, click the wiki link and understand in order to make yourself better ^^^

Once I found myself rockin' my Yang styles, I found myself attracting not "gray" ambiguous Yins, no, no. Those misandrist garbage women were repelled by their "misogyny!" perceptions: they couldn't be with a true man, they needed a "grey" man. Instead, I found myself attracting pure Yins, no ambiguity, completely feminine. And, I was likewise attracted.

Ooops! Did I say "misandrist"? If you think that we don't live in a man-hating world, try this exercise.

Quote me, then type "misogyny" in the text area. Notice how it's not giving you the "spelled it wrong" underline prompt? Right, it's a word, and it's spelled correctly.

Now, type "misandry".

Yep, you must've spelled it wrong. That, or there is no such word. Oh, but there is... once again, click the wiki link: MISANDRY

Understand these basic concepts first and the training wheels will come flying off - you'll be zig-zagging through the crowds of ambiguous, androgynous "grey yin" women in ways you've never known before. Then, be the brightest "Yang" you can be. Loose the adversarial mindset, want yin to help you, not hurt you, and be the same in return.

Be a friend and have a friend; be an enemy and be alone.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

"Provide fun, and do it for your own amusement. Even if women were formerly repelled by you, they will do a complete 180 and they will be smiling at you as you walk down the street".

This is true fact.

I started making more effort to embrace my inner clown a few weeks back, have been given more numbers than I can remember and have gotten hold of four chicks in as many weeks, three of whom I have slept with; the fourth, just playing hard to get.

 

[SayWhat]

I realize this for a while now, but I just don't think I'm fun, let alone humorous. Perhaps it's just because I'm not confident as you can tell by the previous sentence, but still, doesn't it have to be in your genes to be fun and humorous? I just can't seem to understand how you can learn this...

 

[Atom Smasher]

SayWhat, the cure is to be friendly and outgoing to people in your day-to-day and engaging in small-talk. Before you know it you will develop wit and social finesse. It all starts with small-talk with people you would normally ignore.

 

[BeDJ]

Atom Smasher is right, but it is VERY easy to overcompensate the 'fun' factor. I'm very glad he mentioned this prerequisite:

the cure is to be friendly and outgoing to people in your day-to-day and engaging in small-talk. Before you know it you will develop wit and social finesse. It all starts with small-talk with people you would normally ignore.

Without building a foundation, it's very easy for social beginners to come off as a douchebag. Practice and adapt, don't think you are hot sh!t because you've read 4 sentences on SoSuave.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

'I realize this for a while now, but I just don't think I'm fun, let alone humorous. Perhaps it's just because I'm not confident as you can tell by the previous sentence, but still, doesn't it have to be in your genes to be fun and humorous? I just can't seem to understand how you can learn this...'

Sense of humour is a very subjective thing and it seems important to recognise what style/genre one finds amusing.

Personally, I like satire, irony and a bit of sarcasm. I have been to a lot of stand-up and find own sense of humour 'improves' (as such) when I watch a lot. I am told I am quite witty. I think what one finds funny and how one can deliver humour though generally the same, can also differ. For example, I find some blue humour amusing, but not all and I generally don't deliver it very well.

Some other example are:

-Self-deprecating
-Slapstick
-Parody
-Highbrow
-Deadpan
-Anecdotal
-Juvenile

There's little or no point tying to amuse nor be amused by people that don't share your sense of humour at least in part. The secret is to develop the confidence to be yourself, without a care for what anyone else thinks and you will find people who you can laugh with.