The hell happened?

[kingofstl]

First real pickup of the year. I meet this girl at a party, we start making out in the corner, shes a bit drunk. She has to leave when her friends do. Numbers are exchanged. Later, I invite her to go play raquetball. We don't get to usethe gym because the r'ball club is using it. We decide to leave, at this point things are going well. We go down to a dock, and start making out. I get under her bra, she is really getting into it. Eventually, she wants to leave, so we go for a walk down a major touristy street at night. Then I drop her off at her dorm. Kinda awkward at the end. No sex for me. Anyway, I texted her later saying I'd take her out again sometime.

Then tonight, with my roomate gone till twelve, I tell her "Hey, u should come over later". That gets me: "Heyy, I already made plans for tonight. Although, I also kinda dont think we should hook up anymore". That gets a "K. Have fun." from me.....but.......how did this go south after (seemingly) starting so well? I've looked though the DJ bible, and aside for maybe opening myself up a bit too much when we were walking down the street (this "date" lasted maybe an hour), I can't think of where I went wrong......:cuss:

Advise for the future plz.....thanks

 

[Radharc]

The text you sent saying you´d take her out again was a mistake. Then you called her to come to your place. Made you look too desperate for sex.

Also it looks a bit like what you had with her was going the way of a ONS but when that didnt happen she probably changed her mind. With some girls it either happens right away or they start to have second thoughts.

In my experience you can only expect that kind of availabilty for sex from a girl with whom you have a lot of rapport allready.

Thats what I can think of. Or she just met someone she was more into. Could be lots of things actually.

 

[Chromeo]

1. you werent leading her

"she wanted to leave"

2. you showed way to much interest, you dont need to be taking girls on dates who live in dorms unless they ask to be your girlfriend.

She simply was not as interested as you perceived, shes in college, unless your the best sh!t around shes gonna look around.

 

[Tesl]

For me I think you need to be careful not to overanalyze here. The other feedback may be accurate, but I sense its likely something else. Is it possible she has another boyfriend perhaps and is now feeling guilty? I can't think of many reasons for there being such a turnaround otherwise.

 

[goldStandard]

**** it bro, NEXT girl...

 

[PapiChulo]

Its buyer's remorse.....the cause we can just keep guessing.

 

[kingofstl]

The text you sent saying you´d take her out again was a mistake. Then you called her to come to your place. Made you look too desperate for sex.

Damn it. Thought I was leading her with that.

1. you werent leading her

Lol. In retrospect I should've f-closed when the gym was closed. Hell, I should've closed at the damn party. Maybe taken her out to the dock, and then instead of the date thing along the street, take her straight back to the dorm, and her room after a while. Well yeah, NEXT. I'm still working on the beginning stages of my game, it is still difficult for me to approach women and not just stand there like an idiot. This one, at the party, it seemed like I did everything right. Ah well.

 

[maqnetik]

For me I think you need to be careful not to overanalyze here. The other feedback may be accurate, but I sense its likely something else. Is it possible she has another boyfriend perhaps and is now feeling guilty? I can't think of many reasons for there being such a turnaround otherwise.

exactly...

another thing to keep in mind is rythm and timing: stop trying to shift from 1st to 5th or vice-versa and you wont drop your transmission.