Reyaj
Master Don Juan
You can put in a lot of time and effort to pursue a girl.... raise her IL.... and seem to be on the right track.... They can flake or lose IL in an instant!
Agreed.Boilermaker said:Not at all hard to accept.
The contemporary understanding of this, especially in this forum, is that you should not care about flakes or "failures" because you shall strive to be that fantabulous man you know you can be. Ultimately, you must either be too cool or too happy to give a fvck.
Then individuals from the hordes shall become insignificant because their true values will be coldly judged with a rational and content mindset.
In short, this is accepting the reality and taking it as it is.
Caring about a woman who you don't even know and feeling bad about her flakiness, therefore, is pure folly and nothing more.
Yes this is the underlying theory this forum preaches... I think it is the right approach as well. However when you do put some effort in, and it seems like you are making progress only to have it crash and burn so rapidly does get a bit discouraging. I am just stating that this reality of the game is difficult.. especially if you are human. The worst is when you can't explain what happend.... I like to know everythingBoilermaker said:Not at all hard to accept.
The contemporary understanding of this, especially in this forum, is that you should not care about flakes or "failures" because you shall strive to be that fantabulous man you know you can be. Ultimately, you must either be too cool or too happy to give a fvck.
Then individuals from the hordes shall become insignificant because their true values will be coldly judged with a rational and content mindset.
In short, this is accepting the reality and taking it as it is.
Caring about a woman who you don't even know and feeling bad about her flakiness, therefore, is pure folly and nothing more.
runner83 said:Agreed.
Girls will flake always at various time for various reasons.
If you can't accept that it's her loss and move on to the next hot girl, you will get too emotionally attached, rather than playing the numbers.
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
It's a little strange to tell guys what emotions they "should" feel. That's like telling them when they "should" be hungry or when they "should" have to use the bathroom.The contemporary understanding of this, especially in this forum, is that you should not care about flakes or "failures" because you shall strive to be that fantabulous man you know you can be.
Abso-fvcking-lutely!!!Reyaj said:Do you have to keep all your emotions guarded at all times??
Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Haha, yeah I can see why you are sensitive about the issue.Zarky said:. I've been flaked on, and it sucks.
^^Slickster said:Abso-fvcking-lutely!!!
It doesn't matter how great or strong your relationship seems. Always, always, always protect your yourself.
Sure it seems unfair or ironic the way things happen sometimes. We as men have to be stronger. Women seem to be able to shrug off a man's flakiness without problem. Learn from that and those little scars will get smaller and smaller.
Eventually you will meet a woman who is "ready" to be real. Will you?
This is the best.Slickster said:Abso-fvcking-lutely!!!
It doesn't matter how great or strong your relationship seems. Always, always, always protect your yourself.
Sure it seems unfair or ironic the way things happen sometimes. We as men have to be stronger. Women seem to be able to shrug off a man's flakiness without problem. Learn from that and those little scars will get smaller and smaller.
Eventually you will meet a woman who is "ready" to be real. Will you?
Channel your excited feelings into positive thoughts and behaviors. You will attract women by being enthusiastic, radiating energy, and becoming someone who is fun to be around.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
I do agree it can be really frustrating, sometimes quite hurtful if you really like a girl, but the lesson here is not to put too much emphasis on her and to treat every approach, date, escalation etc as an experience.Reyaj said:However when you do put some effort in, and it seems like you are making progress only to have it crash and burn so rapidly does get a bit discouraging. I am just stating that this reality of the game is difficult.. especially if you are human. The worst is when you can't explain what happend.... I like to know everything
The difference is that a girl isn't one of your "buds". If she flakes, she gets replaced. If there's a commitment...I wouldn't be committed to a girl who pulls that crap. And if she does, I WOULD let her know it's not cool, but I'd consider it partly my fault for not seeing it coming.Solomon said:Flaking isn't black and white
You can't always move on and guys who say they aren't affected by this are lying or don't get flaked on(which I highly doubt unless you Brad Pitt Status). The reality is Flaking is disrespectful, and depending on the disrespect you may take it personal or not. When my buddies flake on me, i don't just "ignore" it, I call them out on it. Sometimes I do the same with women but most of the time why bother. The thing is you can't get emotionally invested however even for those most seasoned of gamer this can throw him of when he has a girl with high IL flake out the blue.
That's the right attitude to have.The best thing you can do is have a mentality of abundance and know that there more women out there!
My mentally is always, I'll meet another she may not be as hot as this one but eventually I will meet another one just as hot or hotter!
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.