Not to long ago, a young pip-squeak from high school came into the store where I work. I sell clothing at my summer job and he was in my section of the store, and had overheard my talking about the different types of women you meet at a club and why women go to clubs, so wanted my advice because "You sound you know what your talking about."(I like to think I do.) Needless to say he wanted my advice on what kind of clothing to wear, he would have gone with something that looked like he had just come off a construction site, but I steered him towards something nice and cost effective. As I showed him my wares he asked all sorts of questions, he seemed to be an AFC but his heart was in the right place, so I obliged his questions. By the time we were finished I felt that I could put together a book on this one subject after fielding his questions, but then I thought "Better yet I'll make a guide for it so my fellow DJs and DJs in training can have something to get advice from instead of flooding the board every week asking the same question: What do I do on a first date?"
So I proudly present to you, my guide to the first date that will hopefully lead to a second date if she's worth it.
THE APPROACH:
First off, no first date will ever happen unless you ask. I usually find that after building up some rapport with a woman that using the following combination of words seems to get the point across and will lead to a date: "Hey, I just had a great thought, give me your phone number and we can hang out some time." If she says no, eh I don't care anymore what they say, life is to short and I've noticed that there is always another pretty to catch my attention. If she says yes, well then I guess I will have to call her then; because I only ask for numbers if I am really going to call. Woman ask for numbers to keep as trophies, but those women are Wh0res, and your not one of those are you? Of course not so the next thing we should tackle is that first phone call to set up the date.
THE CALL:
Believe it or not, you can put yourself in a hole here that you can't climb out of, or you can seriously improve your chances by how you carry yourself. There are 5 keys to having a sucessful phone conversation for setting up the first date.
1. Wait four to five days before making the first call. It gives you time to figure some stuff out like where to go and what to do. Also you it sets you apart from those desperate AFCs who call the day after they get a number, nobody likes a boot-licker so why act like one by calling her and acting like an attention starved puppy?
2. Be confident. No girl likes to hear "Um gee <her name,> I was thinking, uh, since you gave me this number and all. That well we might, um, go out on, um...a date(said in a meek tone that gives the girl the impression your already curling up in a fetal position to take the blow of rejection which you believe you'll get.) Look you already got her number right? Well son, you just won half the battle right there. The other half is dating and sex, and thats the fun part. So you have every right to be confident, knowing that your training as a DJ has paid off. What a girl likes to hear will sound something like this: (Your asking her if she wants to go out with you in a confident tone, one which conveys your power and pride as a DJ.)
3. Get to the point. No need to build up a rapport, she already knows why your calling. Save all that stuff you would say to build up to asking the question for the date. That way you have something to talk about on your date.
4. Know what you want to do. You call up not knowing what you want to do, and she'll not know why she bothered to give you her number in the first place. Be able to give her the time and place of where the date it is. If you sound like you know what your doing, she'll respect that. Be sure its geared towards something fun, that way you'll have fun no matter what.
5. Keep it short. Whats the point of talking to her after you've got your date all set up? Seriously you got what you want, why d1ck around on the phone longer than you have to? The longer you yap the faster her legs will snap shut on you. Keep the conversation no longer than 15 minutes and thats only if she is squaking her head off. If its a normal conversation it should take about 8 minutes factoring in the questions she'll ask about the date or the obligatory "Oh, we're going to have some much fun." Speeches she is legally obligated to throw out.
Keep these things in mind and you won't go wrong. But, before you can make the call, you have to know what you want to do.
ACTIVITES FOR THE DATE:
A good date is like valuable real estate. Its all about location, location, location. No girl wants to sit around doing nothing, and unless she's a cool gal she may not be enthralled with the idea of just having a quiet dinner at her's or your place. Unlike the movies, doing that quiet dinner in thing is not as entertaining for a woman as you might think. Hence why "going out on a date" means "going out," your changing the scenery because it keeps things interesting. Also she wants to see how you handle yourself in the real world, and you can't do that sitting in either one of your homes. So I will suggest some places to take your date.
1. The Coffee House: Most people drink coffee, the date can be quick and you can chat briefly. This is good for laying out the common ground between you, and will help you set up future dates that tailor to both your interests. You find out she likes the movies, you like th movies, here's a crazy idea go to the movies for your next date. Also the coffee house date can be quick so you can cut out if things take a dive.
2. Dinner: What woman doesn't like a delicious meal and stimulating conversation? By stimulating I mean you her all about her little life while you throw in some of your stories.(Don't give away to much.) If your not a strong conversationalist you maybe out of your depth here.
3. Movies: You spend time together, and yet your engaged by another activity, when your done you can talk about how interesting the movie is going to be. And when its over you can talk about it further. The beauty behind the movie date is that it gives you a common subject to talk about on your way to and from the movie.
4. Mini golf, and bowling, pool hall: Action dates, excellent chance your kino as you rub up against her body as you instruct her how to play better.(And play the right way for that matter.)
5. Bars and Clubs: I'd steer away from this one as bars and clubs may be a bit to noisy to have a "meaningful" conversation in. But the alcohol and the atmosphere of the establishment will deflate some of your anxiety. Also dancing, needless to say, give you great oppurtunity for kino and shows her how good in bed you can be.(Women believe that you dance like you make love.)
Whether you choose an "action date" or the cliche "dinner and a movie" it doesn't matter to much, because she is on the date to see and know you. In the end your going to have to show her that in any situation your impressive. Whatever you choose to do, pick something you'll have fun at, if she doesn't enjoy herself then there might be something wrong with her attitude.(But honestly if you set your date up as going to a comic book convention expect to return to the fortess of solitude, alone again Poindexter.) Of course going out in public means you have to have clothes and looked well groomed, otherwise people will wonder what desert island you were stranded on.
CLOTHES AND GROOMING:
First you should always groom yourself before the clothes go on. You don't want to drip toothpaste, mousse, gel, shaving cream or shampoo on what your going to wear.(If you dripping shampoo on your clothes you may want to take your clothes off, before you take a shower.) Wheither or not you have a beard, goatee, moustache, soul patch whatever, looked clean shaving. If a guy can get past the hair between a girls legs to service her, I think a woman can deal with a little facial hair. Brush, floss, apply deoderant and colonge. A note on colonge, colonge shouldn't be applied so that you leave a vapor trail where ever you go. It should be faint, and only really detectable when she gets real close to you, that way if she likes the smell she has to stay real close otherwise she can't enjoy the olfactory sensation you give her.(Translation: you smell good so she sticks close to smell that wonderful odor, just don't fart.)
IF THERE IS ONE THING YOU TAKE AWAY FROM THIS ARTICLE LET IT BE THIS: Clothes DON'T make the man. The man makes the clothes look GOOD. The clothing you wear is only a phyisicall manifestation of how you feel about yourself. Wear something nice, crisp and sharp and you saying your a confident guy with all his sh1t together. Wear wrinkled, tasteless, and ragged clothing your saying that mom hasn't gotten around to doing your laundry yet. I prefer clothing that is soft to the touch like silk, microfiber, cotton and linen blends that have been softened. Why you ask? It gives woman a reason to touch you. And when they find that touching you and clothing feels good, the associate that touching you feels good. The more touch and for that matter the heavier the touching the more pleasurable it will be for them. Okay so your dressed, you made your plans and called and she wants to go, know you wander what you should do on your date? Well thats going to be answered on the next post.
-Grey Fox
So I proudly present to you, my guide to the first date that will hopefully lead to a second date if she's worth it.
THE APPROACH:
First off, no first date will ever happen unless you ask. I usually find that after building up some rapport with a woman that using the following combination of words seems to get the point across and will lead to a date: "Hey, I just had a great thought, give me your phone number and we can hang out some time." If she says no, eh I don't care anymore what they say, life is to short and I've noticed that there is always another pretty to catch my attention. If she says yes, well then I guess I will have to call her then; because I only ask for numbers if I am really going to call. Woman ask for numbers to keep as trophies, but those women are Wh0res, and your not one of those are you? Of course not so the next thing we should tackle is that first phone call to set up the date.
THE CALL:
Believe it or not, you can put yourself in a hole here that you can't climb out of, or you can seriously improve your chances by how you carry yourself. There are 5 keys to having a sucessful phone conversation for setting up the first date.
1. Wait four to five days before making the first call. It gives you time to figure some stuff out like where to go and what to do. Also you it sets you apart from those desperate AFCs who call the day after they get a number, nobody likes a boot-licker so why act like one by calling her and acting like an attention starved puppy?
2. Be confident. No girl likes to hear "Um gee <her name,> I was thinking, uh, since you gave me this number and all. That well we might, um, go out on, um...a date(said in a meek tone that gives the girl the impression your already curling up in a fetal position to take the blow of rejection which you believe you'll get.) Look you already got her number right? Well son, you just won half the battle right there. The other half is dating and sex, and thats the fun part. So you have every right to be confident, knowing that your training as a DJ has paid off. What a girl likes to hear will sound something like this: (Your asking her if she wants to go out with you in a confident tone, one which conveys your power and pride as a DJ.)
3. Get to the point. No need to build up a rapport, she already knows why your calling. Save all that stuff you would say to build up to asking the question for the date. That way you have something to talk about on your date.
4. Know what you want to do. You call up not knowing what you want to do, and she'll not know why she bothered to give you her number in the first place. Be able to give her the time and place of where the date it is. If you sound like you know what your doing, she'll respect that. Be sure its geared towards something fun, that way you'll have fun no matter what.
5. Keep it short. Whats the point of talking to her after you've got your date all set up? Seriously you got what you want, why d1ck around on the phone longer than you have to? The longer you yap the faster her legs will snap shut on you. Keep the conversation no longer than 15 minutes and thats only if she is squaking her head off. If its a normal conversation it should take about 8 minutes factoring in the questions she'll ask about the date or the obligatory "Oh, we're going to have some much fun." Speeches she is legally obligated to throw out.
Keep these things in mind and you won't go wrong. But, before you can make the call, you have to know what you want to do.
ACTIVITES FOR THE DATE:
A good date is like valuable real estate. Its all about location, location, location. No girl wants to sit around doing nothing, and unless she's a cool gal she may not be enthralled with the idea of just having a quiet dinner at her's or your place. Unlike the movies, doing that quiet dinner in thing is not as entertaining for a woman as you might think. Hence why "going out on a date" means "going out," your changing the scenery because it keeps things interesting. Also she wants to see how you handle yourself in the real world, and you can't do that sitting in either one of your homes. So I will suggest some places to take your date.
1. The Coffee House: Most people drink coffee, the date can be quick and you can chat briefly. This is good for laying out the common ground between you, and will help you set up future dates that tailor to both your interests. You find out she likes the movies, you like th movies, here's a crazy idea go to the movies for your next date. Also the coffee house date can be quick so you can cut out if things take a dive.
2. Dinner: What woman doesn't like a delicious meal and stimulating conversation? By stimulating I mean you her all about her little life while you throw in some of your stories.(Don't give away to much.) If your not a strong conversationalist you maybe out of your depth here.
3. Movies: You spend time together, and yet your engaged by another activity, when your done you can talk about how interesting the movie is going to be. And when its over you can talk about it further. The beauty behind the movie date is that it gives you a common subject to talk about on your way to and from the movie.
4. Mini golf, and bowling, pool hall: Action dates, excellent chance your kino as you rub up against her body as you instruct her how to play better.(And play the right way for that matter.)
5. Bars and Clubs: I'd steer away from this one as bars and clubs may be a bit to noisy to have a "meaningful" conversation in. But the alcohol and the atmosphere of the establishment will deflate some of your anxiety. Also dancing, needless to say, give you great oppurtunity for kino and shows her how good in bed you can be.(Women believe that you dance like you make love.)
Whether you choose an "action date" or the cliche "dinner and a movie" it doesn't matter to much, because she is on the date to see and know you. In the end your going to have to show her that in any situation your impressive. Whatever you choose to do, pick something you'll have fun at, if she doesn't enjoy herself then there might be something wrong with her attitude.(But honestly if you set your date up as going to a comic book convention expect to return to the fortess of solitude, alone again Poindexter.) Of course going out in public means you have to have clothes and looked well groomed, otherwise people will wonder what desert island you were stranded on.
CLOTHES AND GROOMING:
First you should always groom yourself before the clothes go on. You don't want to drip toothpaste, mousse, gel, shaving cream or shampoo on what your going to wear.(If you dripping shampoo on your clothes you may want to take your clothes off, before you take a shower.) Wheither or not you have a beard, goatee, moustache, soul patch whatever, looked clean shaving. If a guy can get past the hair between a girls legs to service her, I think a woman can deal with a little facial hair. Brush, floss, apply deoderant and colonge. A note on colonge, colonge shouldn't be applied so that you leave a vapor trail where ever you go. It should be faint, and only really detectable when she gets real close to you, that way if she likes the smell she has to stay real close otherwise she can't enjoy the olfactory sensation you give her.(Translation: you smell good so she sticks close to smell that wonderful odor, just don't fart.)
IF THERE IS ONE THING YOU TAKE AWAY FROM THIS ARTICLE LET IT BE THIS: Clothes DON'T make the man. The man makes the clothes look GOOD. The clothing you wear is only a phyisicall manifestation of how you feel about yourself. Wear something nice, crisp and sharp and you saying your a confident guy with all his sh1t together. Wear wrinkled, tasteless, and ragged clothing your saying that mom hasn't gotten around to doing your laundry yet. I prefer clothing that is soft to the touch like silk, microfiber, cotton and linen blends that have been softened. Why you ask? It gives woman a reason to touch you. And when they find that touching you and clothing feels good, the associate that touching you feels good. The more touch and for that matter the heavier the touching the more pleasurable it will be for them. Okay so your dressed, you made your plans and called and she wants to go, know you wander what you should do on your date? Well thats going to be answered on the next post.
-Grey Fox
