dat azz said:
You want her back? Ok. GO with a hot girl friend and be affectionate so that your 7yearlove will get jealous. Girls get jealous very easily. If you pull this off, she will get jealous, develop feelings for you, dump her bf, and get with you. I'm being completely serious. This will work. But what I wrote was really optimistic and the reality is that you've known this girl for 7 years and haven't gotten with her so that means you are really scared of her.
the thing is. i don't want her back. i'm down with her. it's time to move on.
@ PectoralisMajor
you missed the point. she has set up drinks with her friends. and i'm her friend and am expected to go. her bf. just happens to be going as well.
i have given it so thought and i think i might skip it. IF i can find something better to do witch wont be THAT hard.
f283000 said:
A Don Juan puts himself in +EV (even money) situations. Just remember the rule.
You + female = +EV situation, romance
You + female + her obnoxious girlfriends = -EV situation
You + female + her obnoxious girlfriends + her bf = HIGHLY -EV SITUATION!
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if this girl knows you like her (she was your former gf?) and she invites you to hangout with her + her boyfriend that is like she spitting in your face.
now i am a poker player and this is something i understand.
so i just don't go. could stay home and read the book of pook. would be more better use of my time.
she wasn't my gf. we had a thing for a while. after she broke up from her last bf. we just had lots of sex. was good. tho my feelings did get in the way a bit lol
Pimp-sicle said:
Damn this is truly sad for many reasons....
1) One he knows he's chumpin' it but still ignores his better judgment
true
2) He's been obsessed with this girl for 7 years!!!
i say 7 years. cos thats when i started to like her. i did have a gf and stuff throughout those 7 years. plus for 3 of them she was't around. so it's more like 2 at the start 2 at the end. maybe.
3) He's playing mental tug of war in his own head, one side screaming "WTF are you doing!!" The other side hoping if he just keeps hanging around her "she'll eventually like him like that."
this is true. but lately the left side is winning. i just have to work out what side the left side is on.
Dude tough love here from me, but your being an ABSOLUTE doormat! Get your head out of the sand and if you want to get out of this rut, do as others have said
zekko said:
Yeah, this whole thing is pointless.
And the fact that you need to get hammered before you even go just proves it. Obviously you find meeting her and her boyfriend there painful, or you wouldn't need to get high and drunk before showing up. I suppose you want her to see how wasted you are and want her to feel sorry for you. Well, I got news for you: Girls are not attracted to guys that they pity.
Take your six months no contact now, or better yet the rest of your life. Forget this pointless, dramatic, one final meetup garbage. It's been seven years, better start getting your act together.
i know it's pointless but i still do it.
the thing is tho. she is a good friend. i have fun with her. but i'm not sure if thats because i like her. or because she really is a good friend. i have made the realization that things need to change. but i still want her to be my friend. i just don't want to like her anymore. and i'm not sure if i can have both. then again. i'm just playing into her hands because this is what she will want too.
i think all in all, this thing is so stupid. a part of me really wants her as a friend. cos we have been threw so much together. like... i just want her in my life. even if i can't be with her. it doesn't matter. this could just be the oneitis talking.
