B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
From the DJ tip of the Day (6-20-2006)
Justin said:** The Game **
About four years ago I stumbled onto a phenomenal game that makes
meeting women a breeze.
It started when I was out at a nightclub with a girl I had just
started dating (we'll call her Amy). Things were going poorly for
me because I'm rather quiet and shy around most people, and Amy was
the exact opposite.
I spent several hours watching her hang all over other guys and
feeling worthless in terms of my own ability to pick-up women.
Obviously things didn't last too long with that relationship, but
this girl taught me something that has proved very valuable for me
and any other guys who struggle with confidence.
Getting back to my story, we decided to go to one last bar with
another couple before calling it a night. Our conversation shifted
to what we could do to spice up the evening since it was a Wednesday
night and most places were slow.
We had just come from 80's dance night at the last club and heard
the song Jenny (867-5309) by Tommy Tutone. For anyone who doesn't
recognize or remember that song, it was a popular rock tune in which
the chorus is 867-5309 (a girl's phone number).
Anyway, we decided to have a contest at the next bar to see who
could give out that fake phone number to the most people. We
quickly realized that idea sucked and changed it to a contest to see
who get the most phone numbers from people of the opposite sex.
We chose a popular sports bar that was not exactly packed, yet
always had plenty of attractive women.
Amy and I were the only ones
who ended up playing the game since the other couple thought it was
a waste of time. I figured I really stood no chance against a girl
with such social skills, but I was pissed off and really wanted to
salvage some pride by showing this girl I had some skills.
When the game ended I had the phone number of every girl in the
entire bar. Amy had just two numbers and both were from guys that
were total dorks.
She was stuck talking to some fat, drunk guy who could barely stand.
Meanwhile I was looking over my huge list of about 25 names trying
to decide who to go back and flirt with some more. I know this
sounds like total BS and at this point I will try to explain what
approach I used and why it works so well.
There are many different strategies you can use and various rules
you can add to this game. It can be done by yourself or with a
group of guys. I have done it successfully at parties, bars, dance
clubs, weddings, and any other social situation where enough
attractive women are present to make it worth the effort. Anytime I
get into a slump with women, end a relationship, get dumped, or just
need an ego boost, this game works like no other.
To play I would suggest picking a decent club that has at least
50-100 single women. Go there a little before it starts to get busy
with about 3 other friends. It's important to dress well and show
up in a positive frame of mind that you are going to have some fun.
All you need is a pen and one of those tiny notebooks. Have a few
drinks before starting, but don't get hammered. In fact, I often
make the reward for winning the game a free pitcher of beer or
something along those lines.
On the way to the bar explain to everyone that you want to try
something new and play this game. Your friends may or may not be
interested in trying it. However, the key is for you to show them
how much fun it is the first time, and they will catch on soon
enough.
When I get to the bar I try to start almost immediately. If your
friends are like mine, at least 50% of them will chicken out. They
will say the game is stupid, there are not enough hot chicks to
bother, it's too early, they want to get drunk first, etc.
Basically they will give you 50 reasons why it will never work or
try to postpone things.
I actually use this criticism for motivation. They say I can't do
it, so I prove them wrong. Instead they would rather waste another
night spending too much money, not meeting anyone and complaining
about women. So I set off on my own or with the one friend who has
faith and start the game.
Competition motivates me more than anything and the prospect of free
beer doesn't hurt either.
My approach is simple and effective. I am overly polite,
apologetic, down to earth, friendly, and thankful. There is no need
to lie, use any pick-up lines, carry on a lengthy conversation or
overstay your welcome.
Here is a sample dialogue from a typical approach in which two women
are sitting alone at a table.
You: "Hi, My name is Jim. I hate to bother you, but I need your
help with something that will just take a few seconds of your time."
Girl 1: "Yeah sure, have a seat. My name is Mandy and this is my
friend Stacy."
You: "Nice to meet you Mandy and Stacy (smile, shake their hands,
look them in the eyes). The reason I approached you is I'm trying
to win a contest with my friends to see who can get the most phone
numbers by 11:30. The winner gets (free drinks for the rest of the
night, a ticket to the Lakers game, etc.) so I'm really just trying
to get phone numbers as fast as I can. Do you mind writing down
your name and number on this piece of paper for me? If you do mind,
just make up a name and number that seems believable."
Girl 1: "OK, I guess I can do that."
You: "Hey, thank you so much for helping me out. Have a good night"
That is obviously a very abbreviated version of the conversation and
is the most basic example of how to approach someone you really have
no interest in dating or talking to aside from getting their number
to win the game.
If you are truly interested in a girl there are many slight
modifications to the above situation. I normally talk a little bit
more and explain the game and how it makes going out more fun. It's
easy to slip in compliments with this game because you are talking
to so many people.
You can mention they have a better sense of humor about it than the
last table. Or they are the best looking girl you have talked to
all night. Basically all you need to do is imply that were it not
for time constraints you would be happy to spend the rest of the
night talking to them, and throw the rest of the numbers away.
This tends to make a great impression as long as you talked just
long enough to learn a few things about them, but didn't hang around
too long. If you stick around for 20 minutes they will assume your
story about playing a game is completely bogus and not trust you.
You have to get in, explain just enough to get their number, and
keep moving.
I sometimes mention that they can put a star beside their name if
the name and number they wrote down is actually real. This would
indicate to me in a subtle way that they would not mind seeing me
later or getting a call.
This game can evolve and change to meet the situation. The key is
to approach each and every girl in the bar, not just the hot ones or
the ones you don't feel threatened by. There will be large groups
of girls, couples, waitresses, etc. Each involves a slightly
different conversation and set of circumstances.
You learn to be very fast on your feet and adjust to how people
react. If a woman acts nervous or clearly does not want your
company, it's up to you to adjust your technique. Just tell them
you have no intention of actually calling any of the numbers anyway.
All they have to do is take a few seconds to write down what you
need and they will never have to talk to you again.
By offering the option of making up a fake number and name they have
no real reason to shoot you down over fear of giving that info to a
stranger. Just tell them to make it believable (women tend to get a
kick out of putting down stripper names like Candy or Jezebelle).
The idea is to win the game with as many real numbers as possible.
If the girl is obviously in a committed relationship tell her to put
down the name and number of one of her friends. If the boyfriend of
a girl is sitting right next to her, approach him and explain your
situation. No guy in his right mind would prevent you from winning
free beer by getting upset about his girlfriend giving you a fake
number.
For larger tables I tend to grab the girl on the end who looks the
most approachable. Spend a little longer with this girl, and as
soon as you win her over it's a safe bet the rest of the table will
follow her lead.
Most women start out skeptical in terms of your true intentions and
whether or not you were actually trying to pick them up. This
changes when you quickly move to the next table and do the exact
same thing. They can literally sit and watch you work the room like
a professional salesman.
You will appear to be very confident in their eyes. The fact that
you have an entire list of numbers and the balls to talk to every
girl in the bar sends a very clear message. Any girl you later
approach again will feel like she won the game because you chose her
over the numerous other girls you could have gone after.
Now you are probably wondering what good does a list of fake names
and numbers do?
Actually you will be amazed at how many are not fake. You will know
they are real because the women literally tell you that as they are
writing them down.
Remember, you are approaching every woman in the bar. A
considerable number of them are in a rut just like you. They may
not have had a guy ask for their number in months.
