the 'Game' ends one day...

[frivolousz21]

origionally written by organizedconfusion


the 'Game' ends one day...
THE ENDING OF THE 'GAME'

Okay , one of these days the 'Game' has to end- i hope
everyone knows that. Because when you meet that
one girl you fall on LOVE with, things like compromise,
understanding, patience and sacrifice comes into play.

Don't be fooled or brainwashed into believing that
everything still goes when it comes to serious relationships.
Sure, you still have to be 'Da Man' and hold your ground-
but don't be suprised if you have to compromise your
choices, actions , etc. in order to keep the relationship healthy
and balanced.
Please do NOT be fooled that all it takes is to use
'power plays' or tactics (high value/status)and thats all it
takes to maintain a healthy relationship.

I have been in two serious relationships, both lasting about
3 years ea. I for one , was the 'my way of no way type'.
And it was very very similar to the menatlity they teach in
the DYD programs and also similar to DJ teachings.
Not only til i realized that mentality creates resentment
and alot of anger in the relationship.
Is this a girl that you love and respect?
or is this just 'another girl'.
This dosen't mean dropping your nutts and permanently
gluing you lips to a girls a$$, what it means is that
there must be compromise...
sometimes ALOT of it.

Understanding, emotional/mental support ,patience,
being mature and being a MAN about things.

I have a nagging suspicion that alot of guys that have never
had serious relationships or girlfriends may make alot
of mistakes-fearing that they will be 'AFC' or whatever
non-sense,and that the girl will leave or cheat.
Use your head bro! AFC basicly means anything that translates
into being insecure-That's all. So if you stay clear of doing things
that project insecurity and naturally repell people-it's all good!
By holding back and not fully letting yourself go, it
will totally limit your satisfation and enjoyment of the
entire relationship.

I can't help but laugh in my mind that there are guys
'pulling back' when they really want to talk about things
with their girlfriend or wanting to buy flowers to suprise her
but feel like a chump for doing it-
give me a break!

anyways, for all the guys that has never been in a serious
relationship before..you're in for a really really really
big suprise.Because even if you CAN get the beautyfull
girl , will you know what to do when it comes to
keeping a quality woman and maintaining the
romance and attraction of a long term relationship?

how many more tricks are you gonna have to pull out of the bag?
What are you gonna do when you are faced with a dilema
and you HAVE to be a man and no book no teachings
no routines to help you?
will YOU know what to do?

Are you gonna trust yourself to make the right descision?

Are you gonna be yourself or are you gonna be the 'persona'
or 'pseudo-self'?
And if so , don't you think it's kinda SAD that you have to
put on such an act with someone you love soo dearly?
when she is genuine and real and you are..
ACTING.

Dating and picking up girls is fun and but that's nothing
compared to having a really intense relationship-
were there is actually a connection and bond between the
two of you.Don't be fooled that you have to be some
arrogant jerk off in order to attract, meet and keep
a spectacular girl- if thats who you naturally are-
fantastic.
But if it's just a 'persona'-and it's not how you really are...
what's gonna happen when that persona goes down..will she
still be around?
After all, you did attract her with the little tricks and gimmicks
and 'acting' like an 'alpha' , right?
What's her reaction gonna be when and if you reveil the
real you?
Whatever it may be? however dorky, nerdy, whatever
quirks about you it may be? whatever that makes you unique
and makes you different from every tom,steve and harry out there?

If you guys think that a few magic tricks and
acting 'alpha' is all it takes to be a man and hold
an exceptional woman..you are in for a BIG surpise...

 

[xblitz44x]

Good post. Other than the people who make a business out of this game, you'll notice that most people evolve very quickly on these boards and move on. When it comes down to it, you have don't have to be funny, or ****y, or a magician. You just have to be comfortable being YOU.

 

[Cougar10033]

Kick ass post, that post is just what i needed. I have never had a problem getting girls, my problem comes once i get the chicks heart. Its like im so caught up in DJing and the methods that my brain freezes. I have been in 2 ltr's one lasting 4 years and the other lasting 2 years and the second one i screwed up because of "acting"

 

[B-Lemond]

Originally posted by frivolousz21
origionally written by organizedconfusion

fearing that they will be 'AFC' or whatever
non-sense,and that the girl will leave or cheat.
Use your head bro! AFC basicly means anything that translates
into being insecure-That's all. So if you stay clear of doing things
that project insecurity and naturally repell people-it's all good!
By holding back and not fully letting yourself go, it
will totally limit your satisfation and enjoyment of the
entire relationship.

-------

A good source of LTR material is Doc Love's articles from sosuave.com

Give it a look.

 

[frivolousz21]

they really want to talk about things
with their girlfriend or wanting to buy flowers to suprise her
but feel like a chump for doing it-
give me a break!

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this reminds of a post where atleast 95 percent of sosuavers agreed that ur SO..isnt, cant be, and shouldnt be ur best friend.

so the person you spend ur life with and live with according to this place shouldnt be ur best friend.

I tell my SO everything..even my insecure sides...and she doesnt think oh Im gonna go fyck another man because chris isnt happy about this in life.


I hope this place changes to teach guys to be men with respect and dignity..not Robots.

 

[DJDamage]

I think there are different definitions of what the word "Game" that is floating around.

To me the word "game" refers to anything that you do to increase/ or maintain a girl's interest level while not compromising your true self or happiness.

Some people think a "game" is to manipulate to be fronting or pretending to be someone else in order to get some ass. In the end of the day they are someone else. That is why many relationships tend to fail, their true self's tend to slowly integreted into their daily lives and show their true colours.

Now in order to have gotten the girl you must have had some type of "game" in order to keep her interested in you. You have gone through different trials and errors to find out enough about the girl to keep her interested and for you to be happy. If you decide to drop your "Game" just because you are in LTR then your girl will lose interest in you since you have shown her a different side of you, the side she never fell for.

Everyone is using game. If you have no game you either lose the girl, never get the girl or have your relationship go to the sh1tter.

DjDamage

P.S

This is the equivelent of a girl not taking care of her body and becoming fat as well as showing her b1tchy side after she get into a LTR or marriage. She was fronting in order to catch the guy but once she has him by the balls, she regurgitated to her true lazy bad self and expect the guy to still love her like he did before.

 

[spitkicker]

Great post brother

 

[frivolousz21]

If you decide to drop your "Game" just because you are in LTR then your girl will lose interest in you since you have shown her a different side of you, the side she never fell for.

this is true..this is why people need to be confident in themselves and not put on a show.befor entering an LTR.


throw the ALPHA crap out.....just be urself with CONFIDENCE...people and women will REPSECT U.

 

[organizedconfusion]

i think some may have TOTALLY misunderstood this post
and took it to a level it was never meant to be disected to.

Look , it was directed at guys that have never had relationships
in the beggining..to not be suprised that it takes more then
what they teach online or in books. Drama unfolds, trouble will
take place and there will be times when you have to make
sacrifices...like listening to her side when you'd rather
just plow on through and 'your way or no way'.
Or when you just have to compromise..sometimes you just have to, not all the time- but use your common sense and i say
pick your battles wisley...it dosen't mean sell out your nutts
just to be with her or idealise the crap out of her.
No way and not at all.

And not every girl is gonna know her role as a partner, not
alot of girls are concious or aware of their roles- there
are alot of girls into this whole equality thing and may
fight with you through all the steps...just be ready to do what
you gotta do to lay down the law!

how many more tricks are you gonna have to pull out of the bag?
What are you gonna do when you are faced with a dilema
and you HAVE to be a man and no book no teachings
no routines to help you?
will YOU know what to do?

Are you gonna trust yourself to make the right descision?

Are you gonna be yourself or are you gonna be the 'persona'
or 'pseudo-self'?
And if so , don't you think it's kinda SAD that you have to
put on such an act with someone you love soo dearly?
when she is genuine and real and you are..
ACTING.

Dating and picking up girls is fun and but that's nothing
compared to having a really intense relationship-
were there is actually a connection and bond between the
two of you.Don't be fooled that you have to be some
arrogant jerk off in order to attract, meet and keep
a spectacular girl- if thats who you naturally are-
fantastic.
But if it's just a 'persona'-and it's not how you really are...
what's gonna happen when that persona goes down..will she
still be around?
After all, you did attract her with the little tricks and gimmicks
and 'acting' like an 'alpha' , right?
What's her reaction gonna be when and if you reveil the
real you?
Whatever it may be? however dorky, nerdy, whatever
quirks about you it may be? whatever that makes you unique
and makes you different from every tom,steve and harry out there?

If you guys think that a few magic tricks and
acting 'alpha' is all it takes to be a man and hold
an exceptional woman..you are in for a BIG surpise...

this was directed at the guys that rely exclusivly on tricks and gimmicks WITHOUT having a stable inner game...

 

[##17]

The Game never stops. Never. However, the rules DO change. There is a difference, think about it.

I'm picking up a lot of frustration in this thread of yours. You not having the success with women you think you're entitled to because you're such a `nice' guy?

 

[SonOfTheMostHigh]

Originally posted by frivolousz21
this is true..this is why people need to be confident in themselves and not put on a show.befor entering an LTR.


throw the ALPHA crap out.....just be urself with CONFIDENCE...people and women will REPSECT U.

Lol just be yourself... right, and what if a confident guy is attractive and is not socially inept, but his idea of the perfect life is to play video games and watch tv all day and take his girl out rarely? Just be yourself is the worst advice ever to someone who is oblivious to how to maintain a healthy relationship.

 

[organizedconfusion]

Originally posted by ##17
The Game never stops. Never. However, the rules DO change. There is a difference, think about it.

I'm picking up a lot of frustration in this thread of yours. You not having the success with women you think you're entitled to because you're such a `nice' guy?

the frustration comes from a need to assert my boundaries
through violence and extreme assertiveness..
being a 'nice guy'? i would'nt mind being a nice guy for a
day , just to see what it would feel like. F*ck woman
don't assume everyone's self worth is between their
legs- because it isn't.

 

[organizedconfusion]

Originally posted by SonOfTheMostHigh
Lol just be yourself... right, and what if a confident guy is attractive and is not socially inept, but his idea of the perfect life is to play video games and watch tv all day and take his girl out rarely? Just be yourself is the worst advice ever to someone who is oblivious to how to maintain a healthy relationship.

thats right, maybe you should compromise your entire life and the
things you enjoy just to be with a girl