BOOK SIGNING FIELD REPORT
I. THE TALK
I attended Style's book signing and just viewing him in person and listening to him speak just blew away any preconceptions of what's necessary to become a PUA. Style has large ears, a big nose, large, sad eyes, and slightly ruddy skin. He looks to be in his early 40's. He's slight of build, perhaps 130 lbs. soaking wet. He looks frail, even wearing a thick jacket. He looks like a film or ethnomusicology grad student. His voice is soft, and he has an amusing 'beavis and butthead' laugh which frequently interrupts his monologue about how he became a successful PUA after years of reading, posting, gaming, and so on. I had a strange and not terribly kind thought that this guy looks like those kids who suffer from Progeria's Disease (premature aging) that you sometimes see on morning television talk shows. That's not politically correct and I don't mean to be harsh, but please realize Style's appearance is dead average at best, and this means ANYONE has a chance to game.
It's very odd, but every time I encounter a PUA grandmaster, my inhibitions about approaches completely vanishes immediately thereafter and I stop censoring my actions and words around women. Same thing this time 'round. I see these guys and think 'damm, if this guy can do it, anyone can.'
Major props to Style for working on his game. He claims he spent up to 16 hours a day reading and posting online about this stuff. Now that's dedication.
II. POST TALK/PRE DINNER
What was terribly odd about his book signing was that he spent about an hour talking about game, warning the audience to look out for community members who game, and told everyone the game was on even after the publication of The Game, but then I saw a very pretty blonde sitting by herself, reading a book, and NO ONE approached her at all after his talk. I mean no one. I was absolutely flabbergasted! I had to open her simply for the sake of protecting this 'community's' reputation. I get interrupted in the middle of the set (a newbie who is doing this to me on a regular basis), and I eject. Terrible. She says: "yeah, I see you have to go with your MALE friends," implying I'm/we're gay. I deserve to get ripped like that. Then again, the community should be ripped for leaving a pretty girl all alone like that imho. The Game was definitely NOT on that night.
III. THE DINNER
A bunch of us went out to eat at a local restaurant. The guys in the community were very 'reverent' towards the guru who published the book that looked like the bible. My feeling was, 'shouldn't I be in a bar or club or anywhere else where there are girls, instead of sitting around a table talking with a bunch of guys?' This contradiction, nor the earlier one, struck any of the guys as problematic.
I also worked up the nerve to talk to Style's toxic girlfriend. She was complaining about how late it was, how tired she was, blah blah blah. I start to tease and neg her.
Me: "Go grab him by his hair and pull him out of the restaurant (Style is bald)."
Her: "Well he doesn't have any hair, you mean by his goatee?" I can't believe it; she's smiling.
Me: "Didn't you take Style's seminar? You need to be more ALPHA..."
Her: "Neil, honey..."
I push out my chair and stand up and much to my relief, I hear a bunch of chairs in unison sliding out from under the table.
I met a third online dating guru at the restaurant. This gentleman is perhaps in his late twenties, near 6' tall, and is easily 100 pounds overweight. He seems like a nice guy, but again, same impression: if he can do it, anyone can. The Hunchback of Notre Dame can, The Beast doesn't need to have one-itis with the Beauty, you get the picture. Another night of shattering illusions.
IV. THE (DYSFUNCTIONAL) COMMUNITY
A final thought: it's clear that the 'gurus' despise both the students and each other. One of the gurus (this guy is conventionally good looking) did a series of impersonations of all the gurus. It was pretty funny, but the sense of community is a pretty nasty and caustic one.
It's a backstabbing, biting, and to some degree a self loathing form of community. Style was constantly ripping his former self for being shy, not getting any action (even at a de facto all girls school), for not being 'alpha' enough, for being an internet and pick up addict, and so on. Whatever Style's improvements to his outer game, he still has an overwhelming inferiority complex that you would have to be deaf, dumb, and blind not to notice.
V. STYLE'S GIRLFRIEND
His girlfriend. Completely toxic personality. Style is laidback, quiet and slight. His girlfriend is loud, abrasive and domineering. This strikes me as a classic co dependent sado masochistic relationship. I'm sure Style got what he wanted: a rocker girl with a feisty streak, but seeing them together gives me a much clearer idea of the type of woman I should avoid. Crazy stuff. Very enlightening, toxic, hilarious, liberating stuff.
Life in LA, man.
