please don't look at this post as a request for some magic advice to win a girl back or anything. we are all in this community to learn and anybody can feel free to share their advice. let me tell you guys what's going on for a second. I am an ABC (american born chinese) studying overseas in a China university. I am the only american here, that is a student, and i look chinese so it's something different. I have always been kind of lucky with women, probably because i have some ok looks I have successfully picked up a few dates (dates only). I love asian girls...and I game them.
A little while ago, I decided the success i was getting wasn't enough, it would always just end up with them slowly drifting away and not even a kiss or anything like that...I only got one lucky kiss in a club and that's it...i would have times where women would shut me out and reject me completely so you could say i was the chump. so decided to start reading a lot of pick-up material like TMM, Juggler (my favorite), David Deangelo, Carlos Xuma, Ross Jefferies etc......... I kept persisting with women trying a little bit of this and there and I finally (and I mean FINALLY..i'm talking almost about years) got the kind of success I wanted with a woman.
I met this girl walking on the same road as I. I spit out my oh so suave pick up line: "hey do you kno where's the jing guan building?"... she said it was over there and i proceeded to get her number.
So me and Heidi had a first date at school. I took her to some hotel lobby to enjoy some upper class scenery, and then for some tea and then walk around shopping everywhere and talked a lot tried to gain rapport, didn't get anything but some touches from her but she was accepting a lot of my commands. Highlight of that night was having her give me a back massage for a bunch of calculus notes! (credit Juggler)
I built up the courage to quickly ask for another date 2 days later and it was a killer...i took her to downtown city, I told her to help me buy some clothes because I was afraid of getting ripped off (credit David Deangelo). And man..... it was going great even after failing a **** tests. She asked me if i knew how to sing and I actually started singing for her in a public bus, total loser "afc" move... but anyways...my humor was strong and my freaking lead on the girl was awesome. I told her stories I talked about feelings amped up a lot of attraction with some push/pull. i used every damn trick in the book. the rapport was thumbs up. So, when I got a chance to.. I moved up to getting some holding of hands, and then when I approached a random moment i used a mystery kiss close (letting the conversation drop and when she reinitiated it, I said "shhhhh" and kissed her right there).... pow! instant confidence.
ok...so here's the point of the whole nite: we kissed somewhere else and took her to some disclosed bar and I was fingering her for a little while but I couldn't get some real action because there were people around. i woulda start eating her out there! couldn't get a lay for that night but i was playing with her tits in the taxi. The point is..i got a lot of foreplay. good thing? should be.
also, the next day i didn't call her but she sent me some crazy text message asking for my email and then called me a day later to see if I Received her email. Ending the phonecall and rushing to check it, I was expecting some kind of love letter or some friendly email to see how i was doing or how much fun she had last night...but It turned out to be some lengthy essay all about her in an application to another college. coincidently it turned out to be April Fools day that day too. Anyway, when she asked me to correct it for her i agreed and the communication between us went dead for a day. I decided not to call her.
and so the next day... And i'm telling you I could not get this girl off my mind. I was addicted to her. I don't know what the hell it was but dude.....i was whooped.
Questions:
Does Oneitus occur in that way that it is said to be even after you have had some foreplay with a special woman that you are really attracted to? is it supposed to be a bad thing?
Anyway, i happened to call another girl her name is Pan Pan just for the sake of trying to fight against my feelings. I happened to have this other girl agree to take me out on a wednesday, But, unfortunately this HB 9 didn't pick up my phone and sent me a text message saying she was in class!!! I responeded with something like "You said you were free on wednesday?"
I'm standing in front of my dorm. Locked out because I lost my keys. THe night was young and having a date getting cancled on you just makes you want to hit up some other chick instead, so naturally, the thought sprung up to just call the main chick Heidi I've been working on... I hit her up and just asked her "hey there's a basketball game going on, you should come keep me company." I was practically walking over to her dorm assuming that it was going down.
"I'm sorry I'm busy I'm about to go see friend(s)"
dude .. what? this can't be happening! i was thinking to myself. "what do you mean?" I basically started handling all of her objections. No way i was about to get handled on this one.
Persistance is always the key. "I just can't...sorry" she kept saying. My mind was racing with insecurities like she doesn't like me, she's losing interest...all these freaking things were tempting me to just say "ok" i guess some other time but I just kept on talking to her saying stuff like "You said you were free the other day what happened?" and stuff like assuming that we were going to go out. all the time I was running full speed to her dormintory. That's right, it's Gunwich time baby. make the ho say no. jk.
"Just come down and talk to me I'm right down stairs..."
My mind started racing. but luckily I remember a successful old friend of mine and how he started acting when the girl was rejecting him. The time flew by. Is she coming down? finally she came down dressed in yellow and boots looking like a bombshell. "I'm sorry." she said "I'm planning on going out tonite with friend(s) so I can't tonight"... hell no. i won't take that. just right then Pan pan, who just cancled my date earlier texted me "Are you free next tuesday night?" Already playing games... i didn't need her anyway, I had Heidi right beside me.
"Introduce me to your friends, it's the polite thing to do. I love to make new friends" ... she refused but after a few more tries she called to set it up , I was expecting some other chinese guy trying to snatch this one up. I was expecting a night having to use my AMOG destroy lines and competing for whoever was most fittest for her.
"He's studying Economic Law." she said to me. I was furiated that she was talking about another guy in front of me. I snapped back with a vengengeance,
"well, then he'll be just the right kind of guy for you."
Turned out to be some student type classmate with his newspaper-reading girlfriend. Releived, I sat down and played cards for a while. I kept everything mellow. I tought them how to play the American style "Big 2" and at the whole while I was keeping distant from her. cracking jokes once in a while. Not hitting on her too much just kind of kicking back with my eyes fixed on her to amp up the sexual tension. she kept looking at me with that sexy look and giving me those very subtle IOI body clues. boots pointed at me... ok! i'm not in the zone!
she was laughing, having a whole lot of fun talking to her friends and after a few hours I felt as if I had won her friends over. We walked bakc together and again... I kept distance. She crossed her arms as if she was really cold but I stayed back. I didn't want to mess up any kind of lead i was having.....so I ended up leaving first and walking home alone. But instantly i felt some sort of pull in me, The whole time i was thinking to myself..."Should i call her?" i wanted to see her alone. right then and there. I needed her affection. Just right then and there, a phone call from her:
"have you gotten to your dorm yet? what are you doing? "
I snatched the opportunity in a flash second. "I haven't come too far from your dorm. Come downstairs" she agreed...
We were there face to face. Talking about her stupid email. talking about some random bs.....but in a romantic way. it was fun, it was sexy, it was one of those things that I never really did before. I moved in for the kiss.
DODGE! "not here!" she said "there's people around here" she grabbed my hand and we started walking to the back where a playground was. We started talking about things but most of all we started talking about us. I remember a little question from Juggler "are we supposed to be seeing other people?" She didn't know how to answer "Huh???" she replied. i told her,
A little while ago, I decided the success i was getting wasn't enough, it would always just end up with them slowly drifting away and not even a kiss or anything like that...I only got one lucky kiss in a club and that's it...i would have times where women would shut me out and reject me completely so you could say i was the chump. so decided to start reading a lot of pick-up material like TMM, Juggler (my favorite), David Deangelo, Carlos Xuma, Ross Jefferies etc......... I kept persisting with women trying a little bit of this and there and I finally (and I mean FINALLY..i'm talking almost about years) got the kind of success I wanted with a woman.
I met this girl walking on the same road as I. I spit out my oh so suave pick up line: "hey do you kno where's the jing guan building?"... she said it was over there and i proceeded to get her number.
So me and Heidi had a first date at school. I took her to some hotel lobby to enjoy some upper class scenery, and then for some tea and then walk around shopping everywhere and talked a lot tried to gain rapport, didn't get anything but some touches from her but she was accepting a lot of my commands. Highlight of that night was having her give me a back massage for a bunch of calculus notes! (credit Juggler)
I built up the courage to quickly ask for another date 2 days later and it was a killer...i took her to downtown city, I told her to help me buy some clothes because I was afraid of getting ripped off (credit David Deangelo). And man..... it was going great even after failing a **** tests. She asked me if i knew how to sing and I actually started singing for her in a public bus, total loser "afc" move... but anyways...my humor was strong and my freaking lead on the girl was awesome. I told her stories I talked about feelings amped up a lot of attraction with some push/pull. i used every damn trick in the book. the rapport was thumbs up. So, when I got a chance to.. I moved up to getting some holding of hands, and then when I approached a random moment i used a mystery kiss close (letting the conversation drop and when she reinitiated it, I said "shhhhh" and kissed her right there).... pow! instant confidence.
ok...so here's the point of the whole nite: we kissed somewhere else and took her to some disclosed bar and I was fingering her for a little while but I couldn't get some real action because there were people around. i woulda start eating her out there! couldn't get a lay for that night but i was playing with her tits in the taxi. The point is..i got a lot of foreplay. good thing? should be.
also, the next day i didn't call her but she sent me some crazy text message asking for my email and then called me a day later to see if I Received her email. Ending the phonecall and rushing to check it, I was expecting some kind of love letter or some friendly email to see how i was doing or how much fun she had last night...but It turned out to be some lengthy essay all about her in an application to another college. coincidently it turned out to be April Fools day that day too. Anyway, when she asked me to correct it for her i agreed and the communication between us went dead for a day. I decided not to call her.
and so the next day... And i'm telling you I could not get this girl off my mind. I was addicted to her. I don't know what the hell it was but dude.....i was whooped.
Questions:
Does Oneitus occur in that way that it is said to be even after you have had some foreplay with a special woman that you are really attracted to? is it supposed to be a bad thing?
Anyway, i happened to call another girl her name is Pan Pan just for the sake of trying to fight against my feelings. I happened to have this other girl agree to take me out on a wednesday, But, unfortunately this HB 9 didn't pick up my phone and sent me a text message saying she was in class!!! I responeded with something like "You said you were free on wednesday?"
I'm standing in front of my dorm. Locked out because I lost my keys. THe night was young and having a date getting cancled on you just makes you want to hit up some other chick instead, so naturally, the thought sprung up to just call the main chick Heidi I've been working on... I hit her up and just asked her "hey there's a basketball game going on, you should come keep me company." I was practically walking over to her dorm assuming that it was going down.
"I'm sorry I'm busy I'm about to go see friend(s)"
dude .. what? this can't be happening! i was thinking to myself. "what do you mean?" I basically started handling all of her objections. No way i was about to get handled on this one.
Persistance is always the key. "I just can't...sorry" she kept saying. My mind was racing with insecurities like she doesn't like me, she's losing interest...all these freaking things were tempting me to just say "ok" i guess some other time but I just kept on talking to her saying stuff like "You said you were free the other day what happened?" and stuff like assuming that we were going to go out. all the time I was running full speed to her dormintory. That's right, it's Gunwich time baby. make the ho say no. jk.
"Just come down and talk to me I'm right down stairs..."
My mind started racing. but luckily I remember a successful old friend of mine and how he started acting when the girl was rejecting him. The time flew by. Is she coming down? finally she came down dressed in yellow and boots looking like a bombshell. "I'm sorry." she said "I'm planning on going out tonite with friend(s) so I can't tonight"... hell no. i won't take that. just right then Pan pan, who just cancled my date earlier texted me "Are you free next tuesday night?" Already playing games... i didn't need her anyway, I had Heidi right beside me.
"Introduce me to your friends, it's the polite thing to do. I love to make new friends" ... she refused but after a few more tries she called to set it up , I was expecting some other chinese guy trying to snatch this one up. I was expecting a night having to use my AMOG destroy lines and competing for whoever was most fittest for her.
"He's studying Economic Law." she said to me. I was furiated that she was talking about another guy in front of me. I snapped back with a vengengeance,
"well, then he'll be just the right kind of guy for you."
Turned out to be some student type classmate with his newspaper-reading girlfriend. Releived, I sat down and played cards for a while. I kept everything mellow. I tought them how to play the American style "Big 2" and at the whole while I was keeping distant from her. cracking jokes once in a while. Not hitting on her too much just kind of kicking back with my eyes fixed on her to amp up the sexual tension. she kept looking at me with that sexy look and giving me those very subtle IOI body clues. boots pointed at me... ok! i'm not in the zone!
she was laughing, having a whole lot of fun talking to her friends and after a few hours I felt as if I had won her friends over. We walked bakc together and again... I kept distance. She crossed her arms as if she was really cold but I stayed back. I didn't want to mess up any kind of lead i was having.....so I ended up leaving first and walking home alone. But instantly i felt some sort of pull in me, The whole time i was thinking to myself..."Should i call her?" i wanted to see her alone. right then and there. I needed her affection. Just right then and there, a phone call from her:
"have you gotten to your dorm yet? what are you doing? "
I snatched the opportunity in a flash second. "I haven't come too far from your dorm. Come downstairs" she agreed...
We were there face to face. Talking about her stupid email. talking about some random bs.....but in a romantic way. it was fun, it was sexy, it was one of those things that I never really did before. I moved in for the kiss.
DODGE! "not here!" she said "there's people around here" she grabbed my hand and we started walking to the back where a playground was. We started talking about things but most of all we started talking about us. I remember a little question from Juggler "are we supposed to be seeing other people?" She didn't know how to answer "Huh???" she replied. i told her,