The First Move

Confident1

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Hi again guys,
Maybe I'm the only jackass that has this problem, but according to my last question thread this is my problem, so I leave it in you guys' capable hands.

I can't make the first move... I know these girls want me and think I am cute and all that bull, but what do I do in the situation. How do I know? Is there a way? No? As per my writing style here is an example of something that happened to me last night.

There is this girl, same girl I have wanted for about a week now. I know she wants me it is obvious. So I call her (hadn't seen her in about two days, though she called me both times). I tell her that "one of my less cool friends is having people over, so I figured I could see how you act around my buds, before you I introduce you to my cool friends, I don't want you to embarass me." She ignored it, but whatever. She called me back later said that her and her friend are up for it. (That was just for you guys to critique)

EXAMPLE
So I am bored at the party, she is sitting next to me. I say "ok I'm bored I'm going to the third floor." She decides to follow me. I look her right in the eyes as we are going up stairs. She smiled at me and I knew she wanted me. We go and sit on the bed. Of course I froze... I didn't know what to do. I kid you not when I say that this exact phrase was going through my brain "She wants you, hook up with her, DAMN IT!" WHAT THE HELL DO I DO!?

Oh, and one last thing. Not too long after, her friend busted in on us and said it was boring down stairs. How do you deal with the c-ckblock friends? Though this girl is really actually quite awesome. So preferably no tar and feathering. Plus you can't be too mad at the c-ckblock, I mean nothing was going on.

In summation: WHAT THE HELL DO I DO?

Sorry I am long winded when I get frustrated, you should have seen my history exam.
 

Nexxus

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wtf?!?!

you get her in a bed and you KNOW that she wants you because she follows you up to the bed, she wants to **** you and when you two are lying on the bed you do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING?????

I mean how hard can it be to start making out... You didn't have to say anything too big since she was already totally into you, all you had to do was go for the kiss then start pulling her clothes off
 

Cheatz

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Haha I remember I was exactly like this when I was going for my first makeout session. This chick liked me alot, all my mates were telling me she thinks I am hot and wants to go out with me. I didn't seem to mind that idea as all I wanted was to get some action.

Anyway my mates slyly got us in a room together and i felt a bit awkward after this as we were sitting on the bed together and i felt very nervous. I had a battle plan going on in my head but my body didn't want to do it. I had the perfect thing to say and execute a kiss but somehow I was locked up inside. We were on the bed talking for what seemed like an eternity until suddenly, something deep within me screamed "dude just ****ing do it man, who gives a **** what happens next". And that I did, I moved in and she responded very positively.

I was nervous for a fear of rejection ,despite I subconsciencely know she wants me, that I forgot to rationalize the situation on how miniscule it really is. What i'm saying is don't get caught up with what's going to happen next, just take things as they come, relax, and grab your balls to not give a ****.

Believe me it gets hell of alot easier the next time you do it. I never want(ed) to face rejection and I still havn't but i'm accepting the fact that if it does happen you really didn't have anything to lose but gain more experience and learn from your mistakes.

I just thought i'd share my experience since I can relate to what you felt in your story.
 

dannowillbookem

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k i didnt put the time into reading the other replies but here it goes:

i read a while back one of the most genius articles ever. this may sound stupid, but just try it. okay, in ancient china the people (retards like most ancient people) believed that fear was a demon. literally, and whenever they felt fear they would know its just a demon making them feel afraid.

well although i think thats idiotic, they had something there. what they did was they took their fear outside of their bodies and made it into something they were used to divorcing.

so should fear be a demon?

nahhh, i use a really ugly chick. with glasses. and 100 extra pounds. and ****ty clothes. and bad acne. i imagine her whispering in my ear "danno, she doesnt want you. dont do it, u'll look like an idiot. your mine, not hers, and if u ever try to shoot higher than me your gonna fail." this of course is easy to divorce. i imagine telling her to get the **** out of my life and then i make my move.

may sound stupid and immature (it actually kinda is lol) but it works for me.
 

Confident1

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Thanks guys,

Yea I know, I know, my friends give me **** about it too. However, I was asking what exactly you guys do, to....segway, I guess.

Thanks.
 
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