First of all this is an incredible post, full of really useful content.
Guys view attraction as some sort of hierarchical ladder that they could climb. This is just the male brain at work. In fact, thinking this way actually makes you vulnerable to women's manipulations. You can tell the illusion that people call "hypergamy" was created by a male.
If you can just accept the fact that you will be some women's type and not others, then noone can run game on you. You would actually know what real attraction from women looks like.
Agree. For me it's 5-10% of babes already like me, there's not much to do, maybe 80% mediocre, and 5-10% don't like me, and like me even worst when I am at my BEST. Trying to work outside of what works for me have caused most of my suffering and pain.
This is why I am totally impervious to women's signs of interests. There is nothing in me that wants to be attractive. I'm not looking for any windows to approach and entertain women. I already know there are a subset or wavelength of women out there that I connect with seamlessly. And I usually meet them a dozen times a year, which is enough for me.
6-12 times a year is perfect. After 10 years that's 50-100 positive contacts. Keep in mind the entire game isn't getting ladies to lay down in the bed, but adding quality connections to your social fabric.
The guys who get run by women are the ones who seek to be universally attractive. This is an exploit in his armor. A vulnerability. This is also feminine thinking. Trying to get validation from people will get you into all sorts of trouble.
She senses you want her too much, and will do anything and hence are very vulnerable to her exploits.
Most fvcked up relationships and marriages could actually be avoided if the two involved simply accepted the fact that some people will be in their wavelength and some people won't.
But what happens in 99% of failed relationships is two people putting on an act to impress the other at the beginning of the relationship. After awhile, each party gets tired of having to put up an act so they start to be themselves. This is when the chemistry usually dies (chemistry that was forged through contrivance) and each person feels the other has "changed," but in reality, they've never really been themselves until now. This is what people call love. It's insane and doesn't work. Just look at the divorce rates.
Normal dating in our culture is "putting their best foot forward", but I do agree you won't know the real them until later, and the real them can be contrary to you.
This is 99% of romance for most people. It is unenlightened, comical, and silly.
If more people would just accept that there will be a subset of people in their wavelength that naturally connect with them and people that that don't, they could avoid most relationship blunders.
Most women cannot avoid this. They are inherently validation seeking. Their entire lives are based off of public perception. That's why most of their relationships end up exactly how I described. Just look at all the "My ex was the biggest BPD, narcissist, pathological liar who is currently serving prison time for sleeping with a minor" horror stories out there. Women claiming they are successful with romance yet have the most fvcked up horror stories.
If public or group approval is someones most prized commodity they WILL THROW YOU UNDER A BUS to save face. A great many people operate like this and would never venture outside of this viewpoint.
That's why it's the man's job to set the proper frame from the very beginning. The first step it so dismiss all women that are not on your wavelength. Ignore all signs of interests from them. It valueless. The end result is two people with no chemistry. How many times do you have to go down that road until you realize it is fruitless?
Especially in 2019. When they really like you it will be obvious and they will want to give you some puzzy.
The second step is to recognize women that are on your wavelength. With these women, there is no game involved. Don't let the non-wavelength women jade you to the point where you lump all women together. This does happen to male seducers/guys who seek to be universally attractive. They become jaded from all the failed romances.
Enough rejections or bad experiences and a man will group all women together. It is a mistake, but for the short term might be acceptable while a man readjust his bearings.
And the third step is be yourself. Don't put up a front. There is no such thing as "women are attractive to this, women are attracted to that." Get rid of that mentality. Incidentally, this is the PUA menality. They have no idea how to find chemistry and lump all women together. This is why they all burn out eventually.
As you explain This is a feminine mindset. The woman will like your style of masculinity or she will not. There is nothing to prove or to force.
There is no calibrating to women whatsoever. There is only being 100% authentic and letting the chips fall. This is the only true way to find chemistry. Trying to be attractive is another illusory matrix that humans create for themselves.
You can't control/manipulate chemistry. By accepting what is, you are also free from women's manipulations. You know that for women outside your wavelength, nothing they do matter. And for women inside your wavelength, neither party has to do anything special to appeal to the other. It is natural and God given. The underlying sexual tension is built-in. There is no "creating attraction."
Agree 85%. If there are a few things about yourself that are "sloppy", and you take care of it it will make you more attractive.
For all the experts in seduction, and all women that are "winners" in romance, look at where they are now. If they haven't burned out already, then they will all whither away in time.
No amount of game can compensate for lack of chemistry. And when there is chemistry, no game is needed.
WIth strong chemistry you can do a lot of stupid shyt and you will be fine. Keep in mind there is a limit to "stupid" shyt you can do. Just like there is only so much teflon coating in the pan.
Some women in your wavelength have been playing the game for so long, they will make the mistake of lumping you in with the rest of the males too. Many women let the "one" get away. They have no idea what they are doing. They think they are experts in dating and then proceed to chase after the wrong guys and fvck up with the right guys.
Yes, most women especially "daters", have a process they run on EVERY MAN. The only ones who slip thru the process are the ones they REALLY WANT. They pull out the stops for these guys, will back bend, will supplicate and support them. I view the process they run on 95% of men as a SCAM. It provides them elevation at your expense, and it builds her up for the guy she wants to give the goods up for. IMHO traditional dating is a SCAM. WOMEN, especially in 2019 KNOW WHO THEY WANT TO FVCK. They will date the other guys to entertain her and make it easy for you if your the guy.
As man it is your duty to lead the relationship. This is why ultimatum works. It's like slapping her on the a$$ cheeks and telling her "Listen if you don't act right, I;m gone. This is as good as it gets. Don't lump me in with all the other guys." I've done this many times and the female games usually disappear. She realizes what is in front of her is serendipity and there is no "gameplan" for that.
You shouldn't really threaten them. Just let the actions speak. When you do this to a few babes, they will learn about how you are from the others.
