The feeling on cold approaches around here...

[HOSS83]

It's amazing to me the amount of times I have read in the past few days that "cold approaches don't work." Huh? Am I missing something? 95% of my approaches are "cold approaches" and I'm having a pretty damn successful time on them.

Do some of you guys only approach girls you are familiar with, for example, you know her through work/class?

 

[Jariel]

My question is, if cold approaches work, why keep doing them?

If you meet a quality girl worth keeping around and who wants to keep you around, then there would be no need to approach again.

 

[HOSS83]

Originally posted by Jariel
My question is, if cold approaches work, why keep doing them?

If you meet a quality girl worth keeping around and who wants to keep you around, then there would be no need to approach again.

because at this point in my life I'm not looking for an LTR...

 

[everywomanshero]

I disagree

You can't just assume that one girl is going to be around forever. That kind of attitude causes you to come across as desperate and creepy. When (and sooner or later she most likely will or force you to) you break up, you'll be left with no resources and out-of-step. If you have a large circle of friends, I suppose this might be less important as long you maintain contact.

I believe men should continue approaching even when in a relationship. You don't need to pickup at all. Just have fun and see what would've happened. It's really just an extension of being friendly.

As far as singling out one woman andforsaking all others, I know some guys here are into that kind of thing. I personally think it's a very, very bad idea. Before long she'll want kids or marriage. No thank you.

 

[HOSS83]

The thing is, I work 8-5, and I'm at the gym every night. If I didn't cold approach, I'd sit at home jerking off every night.

Another thing, what constitutes a cold approach? Is a girl I meet in a bar, talk to for two hours then go fvck her a cold approach? Or do y'all only consider a "cold approach" as an approach where women don't expect to be picked up?

 

[Jariel]

But whether you want a LTR or not, if you meet a good enough woman you should feel satisfied by her to the point where you won't want to approach or pick up more women.

It's like that saying "why have burgers when there's steak at home?"

The impression I get is that cold approaches are only good for flings or one nighters at best, which is why I have no personal interest in them.

 

[Vince]

Originally posted by Jariel
But whether you want a LTR or not, if you meet a good enough woman you should feel satisfied by her to the point where you won't want to approach or pick up more women.

It's like that saying "why have burgers when there's steak at home?"

The impression I get is that cold approaches are only good for flings or one nighters at best, which is why I have no personal interest in them.

True.... but some people want it all....Steak and burgers, and fries and a milkshake.

 

[Marlimus]

Cold approaches work for those who have game. If you have no game, don't diss the cold approach by saying it doesn't work, just improve your game.

END OF STORY.

 

[diplomatic_lies]

First define "Cold Approach".


My definition is going up to someone in public, that you have no association with (ie. no friends-of-friends, or carpool buddies), and getting their number.

I know some guys whose definition is talking to their roommate.

 

[griffon65]

cold approaches dont work for msot guys because its so unnatural. So even when they work up the courage to go up to a girl they choke and say stupid things. Hell I'm used to doing cold appraoces once in a while but I still chke sometimes. Just go up to the girl and talk normally. Its easy, once you can get your legs moving towaards the direction of the girl and your mouth moving.

 

[Bradshaw]

Originally posted by Jariel
It's like that saying "why have burgers when there's steak at home?"

I like my saying better:

Why buy a cow when the milk is free?


Most guys are too pvssy to go out and sarge, so they try to rationalize why they don't do it. They say "I don't need to, because girls at clubs don't even interest me. I got a good girl at home." The reality of the situation is that they probably latched onto the first girl who was above a 7 who would agree to date them.

To me, cold approaches are fun and exciting. I love the fact that you don't know what will happen. Even the bad experiences make funny stories for your friends.

 

[PeoplesChamp]

Or in the words of Norm McDonald,

Why buy the cow, when you have sex with many cows

 

[Verbal]

I have not once even tryed to close on someone i know, its too easy. im in this for the sport. when i go out i cold approach everything i see. this is what we do...approach, open, ATTRACT,close. get it. im not saying cold approaching is a bad thing. i just know im in it for the challenge, and its what im comfortable with.

 

[Jariel]

Originally posted by Verbal
I have not once even tryed to close on someone i know, its too easy. im in this for the sport.

At least you admit to it! I believe a lot of guys here are in it for the sport too, but won't admit to it.

 

[lebRambo]

Originally posted by Jariel
At least you admit to it! I believe a lot of guys here are in it for the sport too, but won't admit to it.

best kind of hunting in the world

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

Cold approaches can lead to relationships. They are good, heck, they can be the primary way for picking up girls for anyone who has solid game.

It all depends on location too. If you keep going to the same venues picking up via cold approach the same types of girls using the same routines/skills you will get the same results.

I wonder if those of you who say cold approaches dont work for relationships, if you just had a bad experience or series of experiences picking up club girls or bar girls and realizing that most of them, especially the attractive ones who like that element, aren't worth it?

If so, try approaching in different venues and go for different girls.

The idea is to get a relationship going, for most guys. But thats not everyone. I myself in the last month or so have been getting #s for the sake of learning and commiting David DeAngelo's material to my automated response.

Its a fun time. Approaching is FUN.

If you are approaching with the need to get something or a specific outcome like having a relationship in mind, where everyone you meet is a potential relationship, you won't have such a good time. Hell, you might even stress out doing it.

If you approach just to practice/see what happens, you will find it to be fun and challenging, and you might even get somewhere.

 

[Consent]

People just like to rationalize things to fit it into their narrow world view. For example if they do a couple of cold approaches and failed then they will say "oh they don't work...it must only work on stupid girls are dumb" because they try to rationalize what just happened.

Marlimus said it right in this post:
"Cold approaches work for those who have game. If you have no game, don't diss the cold approach by saying it doesn't work, just improve your game.
END OF STORY."

 

[Serialized3]

Of course cold approaches work.

Jariel- Some of us like to date multiple women. I've never been "in love" so I'm not sure if it exists and im not sure that i'll ever feel it. If it happens, it happens, but right now might as well just live for the moment. Monogamy is a female institution, polygamy a male institution, so might as well follow my instincts.

Personally, I like warm approaches more than cold. (I consider it a warm approach when the woman gives you "the look" or a smile or some other "IOI)

When you're sitting at the bar or at a baseball game and you meet eyes with a girl, pass a little mutual smile, and then head on over there....damn...that's what i like. And my rejection rate is about 10%, so it's less emotionally and time consuming than going up to the hottest broad in the place and just chatting her up randomly.

Just my personal preferences

 

[don juan jr]

you're going to ask your friend to get her number for you? gtfo

Oh, And It's Really Annoying When People Type Like This For Your Information.

 

[GloriouslyInsane]

Without cold approaching you'll never get the girls YOU actually WANT.You'll have to settle with what's being delivered to you(through work,friends and luck),thus making you reactive to situations.