The eyes say all (or most) about IOI's

Belmar2009

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If a woman seems to avoid your eyes, SHE IS NOT INTERESTED PERIOD!


1.) If a woman avoids making eye contact with you; she is not interested.

She either does not find you physically appealing or she is already involved with someone.

E.G. At work the other day, there was a volunteer fair. There was a cute girl sitting at one of the desks. She never looked at me all three times I walked by her desk and also seemed to purposely turn her head the other direction to avoid eye contact with me.

Well, maybe she was just shy? No, I do not think so. A shy girl would still look at you; but she would quickly and submissively look down at the ground when your eyes met hers.


If a woman is interested in you, YOU WILL catch her looking at you and SHE WILL look hard and deeply into your eyes.

WIth shy women it will be a little more difficult to tell and won't be as obvious, however you will still catch a shy woman looking at you from afar.


PAY ATTENTION TO THE EYES OF THE WOMAN! IT WILL SAVE YOU THE HASSLE OF APPROACHING WOMEN WHO AREN'T INTERESTED IN THE FIRST PLACE.
 

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Yes, eye contact is THE top and EASIEST means of connecting with a stranger.

Simple, effective, and I make it a point to never break eye contact first.

ps: not to long ago i made eye contact and the girl would NOT let go. I started to feel weird and had to break the contact first. I guess she played me huh? lol :D
 

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lakeshore said:
Yes, eye contact is THE top and EASIEST means of connecting with a stranger.

Simple, effective, and I make it a point to never break eye contact first.

ps: not to long ago i made eye contact and the girl would NOT let go. I started to feel weird and had to break the contact first. I guess she played me huh? lol :D

So ok, i can hold eye contact, but what if like you said she holds eye contact and does'nt look away... i think i'd feel weird. :eek:
 

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I have to disagree slightly. I think the reason they are purposely avoiding your eye contact is because they feel awkward around you. They still may be attracted to you, just uncomfortable. This could be for many reasons. You can't really judge their interest based upon this.

I do agree that heavy eye contact is a definite IOI though.
 

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I thought you guys said don't worry about IOIs? Girls normally don't show IOIs? Approach even if you don't get IOIs.

This forum is so contradictory it's not even funny.
 

Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.

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AlmostThere! said:
I thought you guys said don't worry about IOIs? Girls normally don't show IOIs? Approach even if you don't get IOIs.

This forum is so contradictory it's not even funny.

Nah, I would say 80% of women send IOI's
 

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Belmar2009 said:
Nah, I would say 80% of women send IOI's
Kay, can you please give me a citation for that?


Eye contact is not the easiest way to determine IOIs, kino is still my (and most others) #1 way of determining interest levels.
 

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AlmostThere! said:
This forum is so contradictory it's not even funny.
Well the forum isn't some all knowing, all seeing united being. It's a gathering of different people who have far ranging and widely differing experiences, opinions, abilities and techniques. So yes, you'll have people recommending you telling you different things.

It's up to you to field test things and work out for yourself through thought and action which of the content on the forum is true and which is false.
 

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While eye contact will show you her interest, it isn't the rest of the story. As was mentioned, there are women who will avoid eye contact with you because they are self-conscious.

If she is giving long deep eye contact for none other reason, then you've got it in the bag, all you have to do is not screw it up.
 

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radiodude said:
While eye contact will show you her interest, it isn't the rest of the story. As was mentioned, there are women who will avoid eye contact with you because they are self-conscious.
Some girls are like that, and it will totally put you in a position to control the relationship.

For example, if she TRIES looking you in the eyes but can't hold it (looks down and to the side), that's a HUGE IOI.
 

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tsmith2334 said:
Some girls are like that, and it will totally put you in a position to control the relationship.

For example, if she TRIES looking you in the eyes but can't hold it (looks down and to the side), that's a HUGE IOI.
Yep :up:
 

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Just had an example tonight.

I was in the supermarket and saw some blonde/blue eyed cutie.

I gave her a little smile when we made brief eye contact as we passed.

I was then behind her by one person at the check out line.

NOT ONCE, did she even try to look at me.

She even passed me as she returned her cart outside and looked down at the ground as she did it.

She avoided my eyes, BECAUSE SHE WAS NOT INTERESTED....either because she is already with someone or I did not do it for her physically.

End of story.

Atleast, I can sleep tonigh knowing I did not "blow it".
 

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Belmar2009 said:
Just had an example tonight.

I was in the supermarket and saw some blonde/blue eyed cutie.

I gave her a little smile when we made brief eye contact as we passed.

I was then behind her by one person at the check out line.

NOT ONCE, did she even try to look at me.

She even passed me as she returned her cart outside and looked down at the ground as she did it.

She avoided my eyes, BECAUSE SHE WAS NOT INTERESTED....either because she is already with someone or I did not do it for her physically.

End of story.

Atleast, I can sleep tonigh knowing I did not "blow it".

Actually, I think she liked you but was really shy.
 

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Based on the brief encounter you had there, hard to tell either way if she did or didn't dig you.

Supermarkets aren't really an optimal place to gauage interest level, especially when you have only one glance to work with and another fleeting pass later on.

If she seemed indifferent otherwise and oblivious, then she probably wasn't.

If she looked down and away with a slight smile and blush on her cheeks when she was near you later, she may have.
 

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Realize that sometimes women think you're not interested if you don't make a move.
Besides, you had pretty much ZERO comfort with this woman at the grocery store.

If you don't follow up with an opener, she might think you're a polite wussbag who will let her walk all over you.

In other words, you didn't show her much with that smile, except maybe she thought you were interested or were just a friendly/polite nice guy. She doesn't know who you are and only has this to go on.

You don't have HER INTEREST.

All you did was smile, you pretty much did nothing, and women don't like men just because they're men.

Oh and toothless smiles are somewhat fake; if you show teeth and crease your eyes, without trying too hard and getting cheek cramps, it will demonstrate that you're a friendly and positive person.

In order to start a conversation with anyone, 9 times out of 10, YOU have to TALK FIRST.

You can't expect everyone to initiate, just because you're there or you look at them.
Super confident people will say hi to break the tension if you look at them, but most people generally don't.

Now I have a question for you:
Do you think you were staring at this girl you saw at the volunteer fair?

She definitely had other things on her mind than talking to you, and if she kept turning away from you intentionally, it could have been something that you did unconsciously. Even something as simple as not stopping at the desk to talk to her.

Did you want to talk to her, or did you just want her to look at you?
 
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