The EX- why am i an idiot, and weak?

[Fingerling]

Hello again,

I split with my ex a few weeks ago but last week I got a text from her about the camera charger as we shared a camera. ( at this point I was meant to be doing NC) for some reason I replied an we just started texting again. (yes I was weak) anyway we ended up going for a drive to talk things through, ended up going round in circles. We both made plans to go the cinema a week later which was yesterday.
We went for something to eat then to see the film. At the end of the night I dropped her off and she said something along the lines of
"my heads still all messed up" meaning us
I said to her that I think she's changed in the fact that she's more seroious about things an needs to lighten up. To which she replied
"yeah we started going out when I was 18 people change"
I just said well you haven't got feeling for me anymore so lets call it a day, go our separate ways and move on.
So at that point she scrambled out the car and ran inside her house without a word from her.
I was a bit puzzled but drove away feeling pretty good knowing the girl I used to date had changed into a boring freak. (well I think she changed, she could have always been like that but you get caught up an never realise)

I know I shouldn't have responded to her first text and I feel a bit of a mug for that.and i shouldn't have taken her out i should have taken everyones advice here and even my own advice to move on.

 

[Formico]

You could beat yourself up with the word "should/shouldn't" until you're blue in the face. You've made your mistake and you learned from it, which is better than most people. I used to hate making mistakes and losing material things. Now, I realize that everything that I don't have materially I have spiritually. Ex-girlfriends are like drugs. You know you're supposed to stay away from them, but sometimes, they're just too good to resist.

 

[Fingerling]

i know. I failed the No Contact. i'm meant to be moving on and i was.

and whats with the flying out the car without even a goodbye lol.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn.

That's the beauty of this. You will and are able to instantly recognize things that you wouldn't have, unless you lived through them. No need to beat yourself over it. Only learning at this pont.

 

[KontrollerX]

Well you weren't an idiot and weak anymore than anyone else who first goes through this.

Its kind of like say if you were a little kid learning to ride a bike for the first time.

If you fell down or struggled at it before mastering it this didn't make you weak so much as inexperienced.

So with what you went through just now it adds to your experience and knowledge to do things better next time.

 

[Fingerling]

yeah thats the way too look at it. move and an just get on with life. no point looking back too the past too much or it'll eat me alive

thanks for the help guys