The Ex BF

[Remulak]

What do you do when your seeing a girl and the ex bf rears his ugly head and tries getting back in the picture? Do I play the indifference card? Stories of situations such as this would really help me.

 

[DonJuanByNature1978]

Yo, you say it how it is... If you and her have a relationship then it should be what it is, i.e. something that doesnt invovle x's... So, let her know how you feel, but also let her know she is free to do what ever she wants, but you will also then react accordingly.. i.e. let her know... look if you not ready to be in a series relationship, we can start dating other people etc... look... dont be a *****... trust me, if a girl is really into you, her x's would be out of the picture quick... and if that is not the case.. find another girl.. keep your options open, it will make you look and feel less of needy...

 

[Yuriy777]

Yo, you say it how it is... If you and her have a relationship then it should be what it is, i.e. something that doesnt invovle x's... So, let her know how you feel, but also let her know she is free to do what ever she wants, but you will also then react accordingly.. i.e. let her know... look if you not ready to be in a series relationship, we can start dating other people etc... look... dont be a *****... trust me, if a girl is really into you, her x's would be out of the picture quick... and if that is not the case.. find another girl.. keep your options open, it will make you look and feel less of needy...

(Treat the underlined as a strikethrough)

Pretty solid advice, although I wouldn't go into the ‘tell her how you feel’ stuff...
I really wouldn't pay it much attention.

Worse come to worse, you’ll get to enjoy single life again.

 

[DJDamage]

trust me, if a girl is really into you, her x's would be out of the picture quick... and if that is not the case.. find another girl.. keep your options open, it will make you look and feel less of needy...

I like the last part.

A girl who is really into a guy who has plenty of other options, knows that he can drop her with a snap of his fingers if she doesn't make him happy and having an EX back in her life won't make any guy happy. Girls who do that know that they hold the upper hand in this relationship and the reason they do that is that they are not really afraid of losing you or do not really care about losing you.

 

[Remulak]

Good points guys,

He's not back in her life but I see the beginnings of him trying to creep back in. She's really into me but he leaves her messages on her myspace and stupid stuff like that. I just wanted to know the correct response for an issue like this if anything progresses..

 

[Yuriy777]

Good points guys,

He's not back in her life but I see the beginnings of him trying to creep back in. She's really into me but he leaves her messages on her myspace and stupid stuff like that. I just wanted to know the correct response for an issue like this if anything progresses..

Poor bastard (Him not you).
I feel kind of bad for him not being able to let go and move on.

Somehow the pity reaction comes to mind. lol

 

[Tomatoes]

You need to provide more infomation.

For Eg. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=105969

In this thread.....The Truth was worried about his girl. It was fairly simple for us to see that she was acting ok. (The Truth i know what its like when your emotions are all over....its hard to see the simple truth of a matter)


However.....

My wing just split up with his GF yesterday.....i saw it happening a week ago. Why?

Well once again it was obious. He had been going out with her for 1 month now....Her ex BF of 5 years who she was going to get married to that dumped her came back into the scene a week ago to "pick his stuff up" and she was acting wierd ever since until yesterday where she told him......


Give more infomation and we can give you a more valid case on whats happening and what to do.



Sarge On!