The end-result of years of masturbation

[Maxwell]

One issue I have is that in masturbation I can only climax if I go like a jackhammer; I've tried many times but slow thrusts just won't do it.
This concerns me cos in actual sex I'm not sure such rapid thrusts will be possible or viable.
Is this unusual or a serious problem?

 

[Clarky]

i have a similar problem, i'm finding it impossible to come when she jacks me off, i'm guessing this is because my **** isn't used to her hand, if i stop all masterbation and only get her to do it will this solve the problem?

 

[MoveYourAss...]

Fair enough MYA, you do have a valid point. I'm assuming your off topic comments were directed at me?
Usually I wouldn't criticize anyone for trying to help someone out. Not using this as an excuse, but to say I was a little taken aback at the suggestion of investing 80$ into a synthetic clunge would be an understatement.

But hey, who am I to judge? I apologize to LS for my outburst.

Don't worry. No offence taken and none intended.

To be honest, another comment seemed worse to me. Then I just kind of took the road of listing standard-types of posters.

I was quite surprised with LS's post myself. But hey? The surprising, unusual posts from individual experience are often the ones I learn most from. Or did you know you could pay 80 bucks (just kidding)

 

[Rounder]

I apologize if this has been mentioned - I didn't read the other posts - but

get yourself a jack-off toy - specifically, there is one called the "Head Honcho" and it's about $20 - well worth it. You will need some lube to go with it.

I got it a few months ago and it feels as close to the real thing as a toy could I think. It has a soft and loose feel and while you still want to pleasure yourself it will help to remove your "conditioning" to your hand. Becoming conditioned to the toy is far more difficult IMHO because it isn't easy to apply pressure to any one specific place like your hand does. On top of that - it feels close to the real thing, making it easier while you are with your girl.

 

[Magma]

There is some terrible advice in this thread.

First of all, we have the resident 30 year old virgin Luke Skywalker suggesting you purchase a fake snatch. Luke Skywalker will never get laid (without paying for it, that is). Sad, but true.

Second, we have someone advocating to have sex without a condom. NO NO NO NO NO.

Never have sex without a condom. Even if she "says" she is on the pill. If you guys are out there having sex without a condom, you are putting yourself and your future earnings at risk for at least the next 18 years. If you need clarification on this point, reference Mr. Tom Leykis. He will clearly and succinctly spell it out for you.

Bottom line: it's mental. Open yourself up to new possibilities. You mentioned that you already discussed it with your gf. If you have already discussed the issue, then you should both be able to actively pursue the remedy. My hunch is that you have been having very tradtional sex.

Try something new that adds spice to your sexual experiences. We're talking about feathers, handcuffs, blindfolds, candle wax, baby oil, or something else along those lines (preferably all being used at the same time). Maybe you're a kinky s.o.b. and just haven't accepted it. I don't know.

I am by no means a psychologist, and this is just my two cents.

Good luck.

 

[Stud No1]

i doubt that its phsycial mate i think u just have to let go more

 

[tsmith2334]

stop watching porn and you will see how fast you will bust a nut after a week of not jerking off.

We might have our disagreements, but that's the best advice in this thread. Quick fix and it works.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

One word: Lube!!




PIMP

 

[Luke Skywalker]

There is some terrible advice in this thread.

First of all, we have the resident 30 year old virgin Luke Skywalker suggesting you purchase a fake snatch. Luke Skywalker will never get laid (without paying for it, that is). Sad, but true.

What you fail to mention is that I have also rejected people who I could have gotten laid with in late November and possibly December, 2006 when the iron was hot, and that I rejected a 50 year old woman this year, etc....

Where are all the pity-party threads or posts claiming I'm unhappy that I'm not getting laid?

How do you know I'm just not waiting for the right woman and just DO NOT CARE about getting laid with ANYONE? In fact, I'd think someone who just wants to get laid with anyone for the sake of getting laid has a problem.

Let's face it, the fleshlight company is making so many various vagina products that you can virtually have many varities of pssvy, and it gives you more better quality masturbation and porn use than better before. This means, you have holding power and can say no to the pssvy unless you really want to and should be less desperate.

Plus, you use it to have a better performance - or just end up like the OP who is used to his hands that he cant naturally get off on a pvssy. Why not practise on something rather than on someone who could be hurt by something like that?

 

[MoveYourAss...]

Well, now I disagree with LS. STRONGLY.

I thought you advocated artificial pu$$y to solve some acute problem. If you like to use it once in a while AFTER THAT, so what. But do not "give up" on the real thing. Even if it means to temporarily look out for opportunities primarily to train your problem....

I agree it's good not to have a desperate ego-need to get laid. On the other hand, on the journey from AFC to DJ it might be natural to experience a phase of exaggeratedly strong "goal orientation". Was for me, at least.

I strongly reject the idea of getting too laid-back about it and say: Well I got my nice little toy.... . "possibly maybe gotten laid 2 years back" - that's not really the level I would be satisfied with and relax with the idea of once in a while using your little, admittedly non-*****y, "girl-friend".

If this is the standaed you claim for yourself I strongly advocate to get rid of that thing NOW. You might well be addicted to it. And start working on yourself.

At least that's my 2 ct.

To the OP: Just RELAX with the whole thing and find a girl which is able and willing to work on that WITH you.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Well, now I disagree with LS. STRONGLY.

I thought you advocated artificial pu$$y to solve some acute problem. If you like to use it once in a while AFTER THAT, so what. But do not "give up" on the real thing. Even if it means to temporarily look out for opportunities primarily to train your problem....

Nobody is giving up on the real thing. In fact the use of the FL is governed by a system where I do have to make a minimal effort to go after qualified women who has shown interest in me.

For example, there is a Spanish co-worker (agent) at my office. I 'have' to make attempts to ask her out, ask her out effectively, follow up with her until I'm satisfied there is a clear rejection from her. So far, I'm just getting mixed-messages. If I fail to make an effort on her, the FL could be placed in the basement or destroyed. If I really get turned down by her (i.e. no acceptance or volley back from her), I keep the FL without risk of being under the 'default gun' unless another girl challenges the system.

Another girl was rejected because she was a smoker (i.e. smokes cigarettes). I don't want to go out with a smoker -- but I did take her out or will take her out for social experience.

These are examples where the FL when governed by a system can actually prove to be a beneficial tool since if you fail to make even minimal efforts, especially where opportunity presents itself, it could be dismantled by reasons of being on default.

I agree it's good not to have a desperate ego-need to get laid. On the other hand, on the journey from AFC to DJ it might be natural to experience a phase of exaggeratedly strong "goal orientation". Was for me, at least.

It all depends on life situation and state. I was goal orientated earlier this year, but then decided, it just doesn't really fit into my life at the time. I decided I wasn't interested in going after a 50 year old woman, although it may have fit into the 'goal orientation' mold. I've decided that after asking a girl out three times and not properly following up with it (same Spanish girl earlier this year - but she volleyed interest back by asking me out later, etc...), that I cant push myself if it's not naturally part of the flow of my life.

I strongly reject the idea of getting too laid-back about it and say: Well I got my nice little toy.... . "possibly maybe gotten laid 2 years back" - that's not really the level I would be satisfied with and relax with the idea of once in a while using your little, admittedly non-*****y, "girl-friend".

Again, this has to be part of the natural flow of life. If you got other issues, such as when you are making the next deal, the living situation where you are living with parents, dealing with lawsuits, etc... it could really put you out of a frame of mind where that would be a priority.

Anyway, for the record, I am cultivating friendships with various women, both overseas and local and believe that is a priority, but getting laid is not a priority with me at all. I understand I didn't grow up with a sister, or have much female influence in my life, so I think this is necessary.

 

[MoveYourAss...]

Sorry dude (LS) (and the others),


This is the last response I make to this thread, it was hijacked enough. And I gave all the advice I could to the OP I possibly could.

I haven't been here for some years, since I started (from scrap). I had no idea of your story. That is why I was a bit unhappy with some other guys responses (like "assuming" 30 year old virgin). To me, it sounded like arrogantly quick, possibly narcissistic replies.

I looked through some of your posts/threads and I have to admit: they were right.

You remind me of a wanna-be PUA (not even speaking of DJ) I met personally, "knowing" everything, but not EXPERIENCING it. It's EXPERIENCE, not thought. Believe me, I know exactly what I'm talking about here.

I do not know WHAT you are afraid of.

The last and only advice I can give and will give you in this thread is something I read somewhere else (unfortunately can't give credit, don't remember)

"Don't manage yur horniness. Let your horniness manage YOU."

Trust nature.

out.....MoveYourAss

 

[SoldMySoul]

Might I suggest the pull and jerk method??? Get enough stimulation to almost climax and pull out and finish yourself off on her. When I have done stupid things and not used a condom (I hate them) I do this a lot! Or when she is performing oral sex, you masturbate along with it. Feels great, less filling????

Just a suggestion. Even if it takes a minute to come, at least you will. Don't be afraid to do it in front of a woman. Some love it and it shows you are comfortable with yourself. I am a MAN about all my shyt!

Not to sound foul, but it will help you.