My 2c.............................
Black_Italian: 1st off, congrats on the relationship.
Secondly, right now you are in the very early stage of the relationship, the stage where you don’t really take it so seriously etc, hence you still say that you don’t believe in love etc.. But, as time will go by, and the two of you get closer, the both of you will start getting attached to one another, and you will each fill up a little space in each others lives. Now.. as for seeing each other often... well, as much as people here say that less is better, I think that that’s bullsh!t. And yes, as AFC as it might sound, FOLLOW YOUR HEART. and yes, BE YOURSELF! ... Think about it... playing all these games, having to make sure that your doing "everything right" ... I mean... wtf? Is that how you want to keep your girl and spend the rest of the relationship? or does just being yourself, doing what u want to do, acting the way you want to act, etc not appeal to you more? .. You need to be in a relationship with a girl that likes who u ARE, not someone that has to "work" and "play games" in order for his gf to like/love him.
You see... what 99% of the people on this forum don’t understand, is that love is a whole different story as appose to being a DJ. When it comes to love, the majority of the chicks will look for the "nice guy" type person, the person that will treat her right, make her feel special, SHOW her that he loves her (and a lot of things that SHOW a girl that she is special might come out as looking AFC, hence I say the "love game" is a whole different ball-game)...
People like
Hunchback are the people that still have a lot to learn about love, and I guarantee you, that he has never felt true love... and as much as he might claim that he has, he has NOT. If you truly like a chick, and even more so, when you truly
love a girl, if the hottest babe in the world had to come to you and pull into you, you would pull out and say "I have a girlfriend" and walk away. Sounds ridiculous, right? Well, it will only sound ridiculous to those of you here that have never truly loves a woman before. Some people say they don’t believe in love... but I know that there is a thing called love, and I know that its the strongest "force" that I have ever experienced, and its power has driven people to happiness that no other thing in the world could give you, and it has also driven people to kill themselves.
Hunchback: You see, You are still young and immature (no offence), and I'm telling you that you are FAR from knowing what love is, and I am also telling you that one day you will look back at what you did (cheat on your girlfriend) and you will regret it. No one else will make you regret it, but the guilt will catch up to you, and that’s something I can guarantee you that will happen. Cheating is not "kewl", it does not make you "popular" and sure as hell doesn’t make you a "playa". Its makes you a heartless moron that thinks he is being kewl by cheating on his gf. I am not trying to be harsh on you, I'm just laying it down AS IT IS and as it is looked upon by most people.
My advice to you,
Hunchback, is to go tell your gf that you cheated on her, hope that she stays with you (which I don’t think she should want to, and I don’t think u deserve for her to stay with you), and never cheat again.. And just something to think about... Have you ever REALLY liked a chick? No imagine you went out with this chick, you would be SO happy, right? You would think that everything is going perfectly, you are with this chick that you REALLY like, and then one day you find out that she has been cheating on you. How would you feel? This chick that you trusted, that you likes so much, that you maybe even came to love has been going around being with other guys behind your back... I'm sure that it would not be the best feeling in the world, actually, it would probably be the worst feeling in the world. Anyways, I hope I knocked some sence into you.
BigMike: You said:
If you're interested in keeping IL up then don’t spend as much time with her, IMO
Well, not really. If you are able to keep the IL up, then seeing your gf every day is also fine. Its all about your ability to make your company enjoyable by your partner, while enjoying the company yourself. And no, this is NOT just the man's job in a relationship, its both the woman and the man's job. If the woman will expect to be "entertained" by her bf and not also make an effort for her bf to enjoy HER company, then yes, problems WILL come up within time. That’s why they say that in a relationship BOTH the people involved in the relationship need to make an effort to keep that "fire burning", because as soon as one of the people in the relationship stops making an effort, the fire will slowly start dying out, until the file is completely gone (the fire being the relationship).
And trust me, its not hard to keep that fire lit, YES, in the beginning it might be a little hard and tricky, because you don’t exactly know HOW and WHAT to do in order to keep that fire alive, but after you are in a relationship for a while (or after previous relationships that you learnt from), you will slowly start doing things automatically/out of habit.. it will become natural to do.
Things like taking her out by surprise (phone her up, tell her to be ready in 1 hour and pick her up and take her somewhere), or the odd compliment here and there (you would be surprised how many guys neglect complimenting their gf, and you would be even more surprised at how much it means to women to be complimented by their partner) .... After being with a girl for a while, you will learn what she likes, dislikes, her fantasies, her dreams, her favorite color, her fears, her favorite song, everything... from things like her favorite T.V show to how long it takes her on average to take a bath... and You can use a lot of that knowledge to your advantage (as she should be doing as well with you) ... If you know that she likes white roses, then surprise here at times, and get her WHITE ROSES... or... lets say her favorite T.V show is "footballers housewives", then for her birthday get her something to do with her favorite character in that show etc. Get what I'm trying to say?
And also... when two people are truly in love, they wouldn’t mind spending a whole day, just lying down on a bed in each others arms, talking, cuddling, and just holding each other, knowing that they have one another. That kind of love, unfortunately, is rare in the days of today, but the few people that are lucky enough to experience it, are very lucky people. But the only reason that kind of love is hard to find, is because the PEOPLE of today aren’t willing to MAKE that kind of love come alive, they aren’t willing to put in the effort, they are scared of becoming wooses, they care too much about what society will think of them, they prefer to just "not believe in love".
Anyways, I hope that this post helped some of you here. All arguments, comments on this post are most welcome
Laterz...
