The more I read blogs, books, forums, and field reports...the more I think something is off for me when it comes to receiving IOIs.
Short version: I don't get them. Or it's super rare.
Longer version: whether its day game or night game or just being present anywhere I'm not receiving IOIs like you hear and read about. All I read is "strong IOIs from the girl in Nordstroms" or "at the bar and the girl across from me gave me a bunch of IOIs" etc etc.
I hold eye contact always. Rarely do I get a second look. Now before an assumption is made that I'm just one ugly bastard...I'm not. Been told time and time again I'm handsome. Feedback over the years has me somewhere in the 7 to 8 category in looks. I also dress right. Fitted clothes always. Hair neat and style. Still have a head of hair. Very fit. 5'11. Good posture and all that confidence stuff without looking like a try hard.
I'm 47 and tested the IOI thing on all ages in all venues. If anything I'll get the occasional genuine IOI from younger girls surprisingly but nothing like what everyone else is experiencing.
If I do get eye contact it's usually once. No second look. No smile. Or if during the day usually a "friendly smile" and never a look again. No hair tugging. Nothing.
I even dropped my targets to 4s to 6s and fattys for IOIs just to gauge if I was over reaching and I'm not getting any from them either. So this tells me something is off.
I'd also say it's an age thing. But I don't get them from 22 year olds up to 55 year olds.
I do have resting miserable face. I have a thug italian mobster look. So sometimes I think I may come across unapproachable. At the same time I have a big smile that can light up a room. I've been told this since I was 5 years old. My smile in the past has sealed deals for me. Problem is i can't walk around looking the like joker all day and night its weird. Smile has to be genuine.
Since I'm still new to approaching and still have approach anxiety I'm trying to learn and expose myself to as much as I can. And IOIs throw me for a loop. I know I could just cold approach everyone but I have to admit no IOIs is getting in my head and raising my approach anxiety. It's making me doubt myself.
Anyone have experience with this?
Short version: I don't get them. Or it's super rare.
Longer version: whether its day game or night game or just being present anywhere I'm not receiving IOIs like you hear and read about. All I read is "strong IOIs from the girl in Nordstroms" or "at the bar and the girl across from me gave me a bunch of IOIs" etc etc.
I hold eye contact always. Rarely do I get a second look. Now before an assumption is made that I'm just one ugly bastard...I'm not. Been told time and time again I'm handsome. Feedback over the years has me somewhere in the 7 to 8 category in looks. I also dress right. Fitted clothes always. Hair neat and style. Still have a head of hair. Very fit. 5'11. Good posture and all that confidence stuff without looking like a try hard.
I'm 47 and tested the IOI thing on all ages in all venues. If anything I'll get the occasional genuine IOI from younger girls surprisingly but nothing like what everyone else is experiencing.
If I do get eye contact it's usually once. No second look. No smile. Or if during the day usually a "friendly smile" and never a look again. No hair tugging. Nothing.
I even dropped my targets to 4s to 6s and fattys for IOIs just to gauge if I was over reaching and I'm not getting any from them either. So this tells me something is off.
I'd also say it's an age thing. But I don't get them from 22 year olds up to 55 year olds.
I do have resting miserable face. I have a thug italian mobster look. So sometimes I think I may come across unapproachable. At the same time I have a big smile that can light up a room. I've been told this since I was 5 years old. My smile in the past has sealed deals for me. Problem is i can't walk around looking the like joker all day and night its weird. Smile has to be genuine.
Since I'm still new to approaching and still have approach anxiety I'm trying to learn and expose myself to as much as I can. And IOIs throw me for a loop. I know I could just cold approach everyone but I have to admit no IOIs is getting in my head and raising my approach anxiety. It's making me doubt myself.
Anyone have experience with this?