I haven't been consistently posting as i've been busy and I've realized my interest in topics about women has faded. Hearing the same stories over and over again from different posters and sometimes worse.....the same poster (it happens to the best of us) just frustrates me. I also feel it is my duty as a veteran, non afc, and having recovered from a horrible break-up to help educate and teach the young padawans to protect themselves. Ignorance is not bliss when is can cause your entire life to crumble before you.
Many of us have found sosuave by chance due to a girl that rejected us, or failing to achieve success with women in general, and in my case, which i believe some of you can relate to, a bad break-up.
I'm trying to see if anyone can relate here.
I have been educated by sosuave and my fellow dj's. My success has increased significantly with women as well.
I've realized that i hit a complete 180 regarding women. I used to be a complete afc and chased girls like crazy. I fawned over them, wrote them love letters, poems, bought them crazy gifts, embarassed myself chasing them. I had no problem making a fool of myself telling a girl i liked her, etc. Luckily i'm fairly attractive, tall and slender which worked to my advantage. It was all a big game and a very important part of my life.
Ever since this last break-up. I rarely....very rarely chase women for fun or in general chase them at all (the game used to be, get the girl but doing something different from the ordinary guy). Most will now ask me out one way or another. I rarely let anyone get close to me (female) and the ones that i do give the opportunity find some way to turn me off later. I rarely try to meet women anymore and it's not on my to do list. All i do is work, study, read, plan for the future, spend time with friends, work out and more work & studying.
Women are nowhere on my mind. It has taken me 2 full years to fully get back to normal and even now though i am normal, the thought of that particular girl coming back into my life scares me. I have no problem telling her no to her face and that i don't view her the same way anymore but in my mind, it's just a barrier i'm putting up for myself to protect myself from her, a person that is capable of destroying my life into pieces. she's contacted me many times by phone, text, email but eventually i called her out to talk in person and i told her to stop. She stilled called and emailed on rare occassions. I never answered the emails but picked up the calls and kept the convo's short and to the point.
She was the only female i really let into my life, i have dated others and slept with them or hooked up. I've been on so many dates and no girl has really peaked my interest except maybe 2 and those didn't work out. While my friends are chasing girls or the ones that have girlfriends talking about theirs...im kinda like uh i don't want to hear your drama. They ask me about girls whether im interested in so and so, etc. i just don't really care. I am still attracted to women and have approached ones i was interested in but ultimately, i can't help but think........
That i might have been scarred. That i am one of the individuals that was broken by a bad break-up and don't find interest in the stuff anymore, etc. Does anyone else experience this? Or maybe i've just matured and women aren't my main focus and i partition my time out to chase ones i am interested in.
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Many of us have found sosuave by chance due to a girl that rejected us, or failing to achieve success with women in general, and in my case, which i believe some of you can relate to, a bad break-up.
I'm trying to see if anyone can relate here.
I have been educated by sosuave and my fellow dj's. My success has increased significantly with women as well.
I've realized that i hit a complete 180 regarding women. I used to be a complete afc and chased girls like crazy. I fawned over them, wrote them love letters, poems, bought them crazy gifts, embarassed myself chasing them. I had no problem making a fool of myself telling a girl i liked her, etc. Luckily i'm fairly attractive, tall and slender which worked to my advantage. It was all a big game and a very important part of my life.
Ever since this last break-up. I rarely....very rarely chase women for fun or in general chase them at all (the game used to be, get the girl but doing something different from the ordinary guy). Most will now ask me out one way or another. I rarely let anyone get close to me (female) and the ones that i do give the opportunity find some way to turn me off later. I rarely try to meet women anymore and it's not on my to do list. All i do is work, study, read, plan for the future, spend time with friends, work out and more work & studying.
Women are nowhere on my mind. It has taken me 2 full years to fully get back to normal and even now though i am normal, the thought of that particular girl coming back into my life scares me. I have no problem telling her no to her face and that i don't view her the same way anymore but in my mind, it's just a barrier i'm putting up for myself to protect myself from her, a person that is capable of destroying my life into pieces. she's contacted me many times by phone, text, email but eventually i called her out to talk in person and i told her to stop. She stilled called and emailed on rare occassions. I never answered the emails but picked up the calls and kept the convo's short and to the point.
She was the only female i really let into my life, i have dated others and slept with them or hooked up. I've been on so many dates and no girl has really peaked my interest except maybe 2 and those didn't work out. While my friends are chasing girls or the ones that have girlfriends talking about theirs...im kinda like uh i don't want to hear your drama. They ask me about girls whether im interested in so and so, etc. i just don't really care. I am still attracted to women and have approached ones i was interested in but ultimately, i can't help but think........
That i might have been scarred. That i am one of the individuals that was broken by a bad break-up and don't find interest in the stuff anymore, etc. Does anyone else experience this? Or maybe i've just matured and women aren't my main focus and i partition my time out to chase ones i am interested in.
AAA
