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Don Juan
OK I was an AFC until I found this site. I hope the guy who made this site is rich. He deserves to be!
Basically I was with a girl and she was way into me and she is very hot and a really easy chick to hang with. She is also one of those rare ones that you connect with without having to put in a great deal of effort.
Being the AFC that I was I thought that I would try to close the deal, mentioned a relationship, gave her too much attention, started feeling insecure and put her on a pedestal.. You know the drill we have all done it before otherwise you wouldn't be on this site. Basically she lost romantic interest because the challenge was gone. I became one of her many puppy dog admirers wanting to jump into a deep relationship and the sex and fooling around dissapeared.
Now looking back it is no suprise that I got the LJBF line. To make it worse I lost my cool and basically asked her to explain why she doesn't find me attractive any more trying to find some logic in the situation. I went along with the LJBF stuff for a while cause I felt that there was still some sexual tension and that she would change her mind. I brought up taking it further a couple more times and she mostly cut me down except we made out a couple of times since the LJBF incident.
I then found this site. I've stopped acting like an AFC and more like a DJ but I can't get her to see me in this new light. She still sees me as an extended brother. I am at the point of confronting her to end the friendship.. It sucks being the boy friend who doesn't get any. I think that she thinks that I still want a LTR when now I just want to hang out and give it to her every now and again.
Do you think that there is anything that I can do to "clean the slate" so that I can start fresh and not fvck things up this time?
Has anyone out there got out of the deadly LJBF zone? If I end the friendship should I just disappear of the face of the earth or tell her up front that I don't want a LTR but am not interested in being friends unless it is friends with benefits?
I should also mention that allthough it's a LJBF relationship now. She still really likes me as a person and basically wants me as one of her closest friends. The interest and love is there just not the romantic love that gets us action. I need to be a challenge to her again to get her romantic interest back. I've cut down the amount of attention which I give her, have got her off the pedestal and act as though I'm the prize around her. I am dating other women allthough she doesn't know that. I always feel as though I'm close but I never quite get there.
Basically I was with a girl and she was way into me and she is very hot and a really easy chick to hang with. She is also one of those rare ones that you connect with without having to put in a great deal of effort.
Being the AFC that I was I thought that I would try to close the deal, mentioned a relationship, gave her too much attention, started feeling insecure and put her on a pedestal.. You know the drill we have all done it before otherwise you wouldn't be on this site. Basically she lost romantic interest because the challenge was gone. I became one of her many puppy dog admirers wanting to jump into a deep relationship and the sex and fooling around dissapeared.
Now looking back it is no suprise that I got the LJBF line. To make it worse I lost my cool and basically asked her to explain why she doesn't find me attractive any more trying to find some logic in the situation. I went along with the LJBF stuff for a while cause I felt that there was still some sexual tension and that she would change her mind. I brought up taking it further a couple more times and she mostly cut me down except we made out a couple of times since the LJBF incident.
I then found this site. I've stopped acting like an AFC and more like a DJ but I can't get her to see me in this new light. She still sees me as an extended brother. I am at the point of confronting her to end the friendship.. It sucks being the boy friend who doesn't get any. I think that she thinks that I still want a LTR when now I just want to hang out and give it to her every now and again.
Do you think that there is anything that I can do to "clean the slate" so that I can start fresh and not fvck things up this time?
Has anyone out there got out of the deadly LJBF zone? If I end the friendship should I just disappear of the face of the earth or tell her up front that I don't want a LTR but am not interested in being friends unless it is friends with benefits?
I should also mention that allthough it's a LJBF relationship now. She still really likes me as a person and basically wants me as one of her closest friends. The interest and love is there just not the romantic love that gets us action. I need to be a challenge to her again to get her romantic interest back. I've cut down the amount of attention which I give her, have got her off the pedestal and act as though I'm the prize around her. I am dating other women allthough she doesn't know that. I always feel as though I'm close but I never quite get there.
