The Curse of the Don Juan

[So pimp its scary]

Although there are some great advantages to the DJ lifestyle there are also a few negative things that someone might notice. I'm talking about once you start getting good at attracting women, you start to develop (if you haven't already) what has been referred to as Male Insanity Syndrome(MIS).

What's Male insanity syndrome?

That is the state in which a man is not satisfied with his current situation and must find the next best thing. In the context of this site, this thing would be a woman. The man with MIS will become comfortable with a woman, and once he knows that he has her under his spell, feels the compulsion to find something that is just one notch better.

SO....

There is nothing wrong with wanting to improve your life, that's why most come... everyone wants to be that well known party guy that holds the crowd. To be completely in control of his situation, with a caring woman on his arm.

Then the man's MIS kicks in, and will often 'trade up' his gf, and over and over again, as the DJ increases his skill will he leave a trail of broken hearts. Everywomans knight in shining armour just comes in bringing with life, and gives her all the emotions that she longs to feel in the depths of her gut, just to crush her heart.

This is just a warning the DJ's that you're gonna have to become comfortable breaking a woman's heart... because you can't marry them all.

The term 'Once a player always a player' comes to mind... it might not be intentional, but once you feel the game you become addicted to it, and it becomes harder and harder to let it go when you do find one of those women that gives you those feelings right there 'in the ****els of our hearts'.

Just something I wanted to let out....

 

[captn caveman]

Spoken truth!

 

[High Voltage]

Personally I don't think this is something to be concerned with.

If you did constantly upgrade your girls, after many girls I imagine you would get tired of it and look to settle down. This may be in like 20-30 years but who cares? Have fun while you're young! Be selfish!

As for breaking girls hearts - big deal. Girls know there is an element of risk in seeing any guy. Think you're the first guy who has hurt her? Nope! Think you'll be the last? Nope! Besides, its not like girls have never hurt guys.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but when we are good at our game we will only be getting really hot girls. These girls *already have* a trail of broken hearts behind them, all the AFCs that she used. Just think, if you break her heart her AFC friends will rejoice! They get to spend quality time comforting the girl of their dreams. "If I go to her house 1 am Saturday morning I know she will love me!"

I find it ironic that what is described is termed "male INSANITY syndrome". What is it for hot girls? Women's perogative? Being picky? Certainly not insanity. Just a thought.

- HV

 

[DankNuggs]

Better to be 'cursed' than to settle in life....

 

[Hot Ice]

ah, broken hearts...

Who cares.
A sickness of a weak AFC.

 

[So pimp its scary]

If I was referring to just the dime a dozen girls that you run into on a daily basis, who are irrelevent to your happiness in life, I wouldn't have bothered making this thread....

What I'm referring to is the special women that you are bound to run into, the ones that have unquestionable interest, the ones that are totally in love, that meet all of your needs from a woman, these few shining examples of womanhood that are worthy of our love. When you are in a relationship with one of these girls and then all of a sudden you are hit with the bug that tells you to go out and find others and to continue in the lifestyle of meeting women, date, and ƒucking them with no worries.

It's not a simple task to break the heart of someone that you have feelings for, shattering the trust that they have in you. Especially when it comes as a whim.

I call it a form of insanity because the sane man would simply stick with a loving relationship where there are few problems rather then end it for the single life.

This partly stems from compassion, the feeling of not wanting to hurt another human being to fulfill some 'selfish' (?) desires, if this counts as weakness then so be it. I'm sure that when the time comes you will feel the emotions that I'm talking about.

I'm not talking about something to be concerned with, I'm talking about something that the DJ's should be prepared to deal with on their journeys. That is all...

peace.

 

[crowes22]

So Pimp, In my mind, you are wise beyond your years, miles ahead of many, at least from what I read here in this thread. I wish you all the best.

--Crowes

 

[Hot Ice]

Originally posted by So pimp its scary
these few shining examples of womanhood that are worthy of our love.

errrr... haven't really met 'em yet.

I got your point now.
The solution is to stay single as long as you can/want and then settle down for at least for a while and continuing this till you are too tired of this **** and give yourself up to one special woman.
I don't call that a curse really.

If you take the path of a DJ, you gotta break some hearts.
You can't avoid it. Your choice.
It's a rough world and so should you be too.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

You know what the other curse is? AFC Guys wanting to beat the **** out of you all the time. They'll even resort to ganging up on you just to make you look bad. They'll tell little girl style lies about you and start rumours to discredit you until you take a hike from a particular sarging spot. Anything they can to ostracise you.

 

[MacDonald]

Originally posted by So pimp its scary
If I was referring to just the dime a dozen girls that you run into on a daily basis, who are irrelevent to your happiness in life, I wouldn't have bothered making this thread....

What I'm referring to is the special women that you are bound to run into, the ones that have unquestionable interest, the ones that are totally in love, that meet all of your needs from a woman, these few shining examples of womanhood that are worthy of our love. When you are in a relationship with one of these girls and then all of a sudden you are hit with the bug that tells you to go out and find others and to continue in the lifestyle of meeting women, date, and ƒucking them with no worries.

It's not a simple task to break the heart of someone that you have feelings for, shattering the trust that they have in you. Especially when it comes as a whim.

I call it a form of insanity because the sane man would simply stick with a loving relationship where there are few problems rather then end it for the single life.

This partly stems from compassion, the feeling of not wanting to hurt another human being to fulfill some 'selfish' (?) desires, if this counts as weakness then so be it. I'm sure that when the time comes you will feel the emotions that I'm talking about.

I'm not talking about something to be concerned with, I'm talking about something that the DJ's should be prepared to deal with on their journeys. That is all...

peace.

Very good and true post! I know exactly what you mean, unfortunatly.

 

[NewMan]

The question is, is this sue to our insecurities? our quest for the unreachable - or is it genetic within men?


No matter who the woman, there comes a time when things become stale - and no matter what you do, fvcking the same chick week in, week out - get old. Time for a change I hear you cry!!!!

It's all well and good - a change of scenery so to speak - but even that gets old.

I'm in my 30's - and it does get tiring after a while - problem is, It's been a while since I've found a girl thats relationship material - and going out with girls that don't cut the mustard, is just losing it's appeal.

We sometimes don't relaise what we have until it's gone. We don't appreciate it.

Another saying which goes well with this - The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.

 

[LogicalOptimist]

It's all well and good - a change of scenery so to speak - but even that gets old.

We sometimes don't relaise what we have until it's gone. We don't appreciate it.

I think that this may be what the original poster was getting at. It's good to be picky. Very good. The purpose of being picky is to find an ideal woman. (I'm not talking about being a Player or anything; you're talking about being picky.) The questions you deal with when you date every woman are:

• Is this my ideal woman?
• Is there such a thing as an ideal woman?
• If she is/isn't an ideal woman, will I even be able to know it when I see it?
• Is there such a thing as finding an ideal woman "too early" in your life?

The real decision that you need to make with a clear conscience is not whether she'll be hurt even though she's a great chick. It's whether you are able to "throw this fish back", knowing that the only certainty is that you'll basically never catch that fish again.

It's the struggle between, "I'm getting bored with her... I need to find a better one," and "She might not be perfect, but what if there are none better than her?"

No answers, sorry. Just some perspective.

 

[Ice Cold]

Wipes away a tear.

 

[princelydeeds]

Originally posted by DankNuggs
Better to be 'cursed' than to settle in life....

These words are true!

I think the next level of being a DJ is learning to disappoint without breaking hearts. I dissappoint women occasionally, but all would say I am honest and true. In hindsight, I think all of the women Ive dated recently would say that they respect me for my honesty and consistency. I know how to bring a woman close to me but I also know when and how to tunr off the charm in such a way that she doesn't get too close.