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Everything I've learned since leaving here 5 years ago - a compilation:
Before continuing, this is a long read and if you don't have the time, come back later.
Regards, Sosuave. Last time I was here, I was 17 and had to leave because I decided the extensive theories I soaked up had rendered me a weird Don Juan Robot. Before leaving, I'd post here daily about every successful technique I'd applied or picked up and helped a lot of you emulate the same success.
Fast forward five years and I've been through my fair share of crazy women, which is why I have to post this on a new account. One of the mistakes I made back then was leaving said account logged in for a crazy X to obsess over, so please understand.
This thread is the culmination of five years of trial and error knowledge from a young 22 year old. I'll be talking about everything from how to make an unforgettable first sexual impression to deciding when you need to make the move. What I won't be talking about is things I'm not confident or experienced with like marriage, so rest assured, you'll be receiving real advice from a real guy.
Sex
This is likely the most logical place to start. I know when I first came here, this is all I was looking to do. In covering this topic, I'll be teaching you escalation techniques and a mindset that will make it feel natural for you and for her.
People wrongfully approach the mindset for this in a very typical way. Every time you go to the pub or the club, more than half of the guys there are trying to get laid. They can't even have a good night otherwise.
This sexual desperation just emanates from these men. They talk to a girl and it's obvious to anyone within earshot that they couldn't give a f--- what she has to say. She knows this too and is quick to return to her girlfriends to 'dance'.
How can we remedy this given that we still want to get laid? The first thing that has to be realized is that like air, the more sex you have, the less important it is. Air is taken for granted and not even thought about until you hold your breath.
Breathe. A good way to tell if someone is a virgin is to note that these individuals are always the ones talking about sex. If you're a virgin, I guarantee you're going to be disappointed when you do get laid.
Stop worrying; It will happen. Stop trying to force it.
The second thing to realize about sex is that it shouldn't be the indication of manhood. If you need to be constantly balls-deep inside a girl to feel confident in yourself as a man, you're just as shallow as the girl allowing you to use her for your own validation. "I'm going to make you a man, cutie."
Given that I've basically told you to chill out and just have fun with women rather than always trying to get laid, you might be wondering how doing 'nothing' will help you.
This is a peculiar role reversal that occurs when you're legitimately content with the present and not stressing trying to facilitate things in the future. Girls pick up on this and they get so much comfort and enjoyment from you that they'll actively escalate things on their own. From this story, you may be wondering if I'm above average in the looks department. If anything, I'm well below average.
However, if I truly did nothing and was so content smoking and relaxing, the girls would have also picked up on this and left after they lit their smokes. This is a bit of a balancing act between being content with what's happening in the present and what you want in the future.
My advice is to only look forward one logical step in escalation in any given time. This doesn't mean you try use this mindset to climb the escalation ladder and get laid - no - it means you're literally content with where you are on the stair case and this gets easier over time.
After exchanging kisses with the girls, the one on my lap hands me a card with her facebook and number written on it with her name. You can fill in the blanks but what surprised me was when I added her on facebook, it turned out she was a bikini model for Rip Curl. Such a nice girl for a model. Makes you think.
Now that you know how to think, I'll teach you what to do. Continuing from the last example, you may wonder how to go about 'taking her or them home'. My all time favorite line is, 'What are you doing after this? I don't want the night to end yet.'
If you do this right, her reply will be, 'Just going home... you could come.' If the reply you got was, 'Just going home... what about you?' which is equally common, reply with, 'Well I've enjoyed tonight with you. Does it have to end now?'
She'll either say, 'What did you have in mind?' or 'I'm afraid so but... (I'm sure I'll see you again, call you, facebook you, etc.)' Either way, even if she wants to go home alone, your chances should still remain good for the future so long as you don't pressure her if she's not enthusiastic about the idea.
The reason why I've found persistence not to be applicable here is because everyone knows that going home together is always a sex thing and if you pressure this sex thing, you'll be just as bad as the desperados prowling the club. It will ruin future chances, so be content. There's more where she came from.During the big transition, do not allow the escalation to 'cool' just because there's a waiting period. If you do, by the time you get to your destination, the initial hot feelings you induced in her will be too cool. She'll begin to think it was a poor decision before you even have sex. I don't think I need to point out how awkward this will be.
Sometimes making out in a cab is just too awkward in front of the driver; Instead, a great way to keep it all together is to play silly car games like corners during the trip. I've also poked girls in the side every time the driver wasn't watching, making it a game to try and not get caught. Don't underestimate how useful playful teasing can be.
Doesn't really matter what it is so long as it isn't silence.
Upon arriving to their place, there will be a sort of icy period where you both know what's about to happen but are unsure how to break the ice and where to go now that you're there. What I suggest is asking for a tour around the place and be sure to tease her if she owns stuffed animals or has a poster above her bed of some girly boy band.
Now, propose she make you something to drink. I don't care if the only thing in her fridge is water. Just do it. Asking girls to do you small favors is always a good idea. Psychologists do this all the time to build trust in clients. This works by the mind rationalizing that firstly, it's only a small favor and secondly, that because you're doing them a favor, you must like them on some level.
OK, so the ice is broken but now there's the ever pressing matter of 'what now' that you've so far been able to avoid. At this point, I usually stare at them with a smile and a sip of my drink and wait for them to suggest something to do. Depending on the level of escalation you've maintained, she may flat out suggest 'bedroom'. This isn't the most common occurrence even if things have gone spectacular up until this point.
The most common occurrence by far is 'let's watch a movie', which largely gets ignored in favor of couch sex. However, she may be the shy type, so stop staring and quickly ask her to pick a movie for you two to watch. This is the reality of one-night-stands. Despite Hollywood's depictions, most people don't usually go from passion-fueled taxi make-outs directly to the bedroom. Real life is less glamorous and generally slower.
Before continuing, this is a long read and if you don't have the time, come back later.
Regards, Sosuave. Last time I was here, I was 17 and had to leave because I decided the extensive theories I soaked up had rendered me a weird Don Juan Robot. Before leaving, I'd post here daily about every successful technique I'd applied or picked up and helped a lot of you emulate the same success.
Fast forward five years and I've been through my fair share of crazy women, which is why I have to post this on a new account. One of the mistakes I made back then was leaving said account logged in for a crazy X to obsess over, so please understand.
This thread is the culmination of five years of trial and error knowledge from a young 22 year old. I'll be talking about everything from how to make an unforgettable first sexual impression to deciding when you need to make the move. What I won't be talking about is things I'm not confident or experienced with like marriage, so rest assured, you'll be receiving real advice from a real guy.
Sex
This is likely the most logical place to start. I know when I first came here, this is all I was looking to do. In covering this topic, I'll be teaching you escalation techniques and a mindset that will make it feel natural for you and for her.
People wrongfully approach the mindset for this in a very typical way. Every time you go to the pub or the club, more than half of the guys there are trying to get laid. They can't even have a good night otherwise.
This sexual desperation just emanates from these men. They talk to a girl and it's obvious to anyone within earshot that they couldn't give a f--- what she has to say. She knows this too and is quick to return to her girlfriends to 'dance'.
How can we remedy this given that we still want to get laid? The first thing that has to be realized is that like air, the more sex you have, the less important it is. Air is taken for granted and not even thought about until you hold your breath.
Breathe. A good way to tell if someone is a virgin is to note that these individuals are always the ones talking about sex. If you're a virgin, I guarantee you're going to be disappointed when you do get laid.
Stop worrying; It will happen. Stop trying to force it.
The second thing to realize about sex is that it shouldn't be the indication of manhood. If you need to be constantly balls-deep inside a girl to feel confident in yourself as a man, you're just as shallow as the girl allowing you to use her for your own validation. "I'm going to make you a man, cutie."
Given that I've basically told you to chill out and just have fun with women rather than always trying to get laid, you might be wondering how doing 'nothing' will help you.
I'll give you an example:
A few weeks ago I went to my local night club and had a dance like an idiot when Skrillex came on. All danced out, I went outside and sat on my own to have a cigarette and drink my girly drink.
A very attractive girl and her two friends came up to me and sat on the other side of the table, looking to borrow a lighter. I let her borrow my lighter, we smile and then she says she saw my dancing. I laughed and we started talking until she decides to sit next to me.
Before long she was getting very cuddly and all I was thinking was that I was enjoying talking to her. Eventually, I just said to her it'd be nice if you sit on my lap so I can hug you around the waist. I guarantee if I was trying to get laid, she'd tell me to get ****ed.
The conversation gets personal and her two friends ask if they can cuddle up too. People are giving me weird looks. This escalates pretty fast and the girl on my lap asks, 'Is it OK if I kiss you?'
A very attractive girl and her two friends came up to me and sat on the other side of the table, looking to borrow a lighter. I let her borrow my lighter, we smile and then she says she saw my dancing. I laughed and we started talking until she decides to sit next to me.
Before long she was getting very cuddly and all I was thinking was that I was enjoying talking to her. Eventually, I just said to her it'd be nice if you sit on my lap so I can hug you around the waist. I guarantee if I was trying to get laid, she'd tell me to get ****ed.
The conversation gets personal and her two friends ask if they can cuddle up too. People are giving me weird looks. This escalates pretty fast and the girl on my lap asks, 'Is it OK if I kiss you?'
However, if I truly did nothing and was so content smoking and relaxing, the girls would have also picked up on this and left after they lit their smokes. This is a bit of a balancing act between being content with what's happening in the present and what you want in the future.
My advice is to only look forward one logical step in escalation in any given time. This doesn't mean you try use this mindset to climb the escalation ladder and get laid - no - it means you're literally content with where you are on the stair case and this gets easier over time.
After exchanging kisses with the girls, the one on my lap hands me a card with her facebook and number written on it with her name. You can fill in the blanks but what surprised me was when I added her on facebook, it turned out she was a bikini model for Rip Curl. Such a nice girl for a model. Makes you think.
Now that you know how to think, I'll teach you what to do. Continuing from the last example, you may wonder how to go about 'taking her or them home'. My all time favorite line is, 'What are you doing after this? I don't want the night to end yet.'
If you do this right, her reply will be, 'Just going home... you could come.' If the reply you got was, 'Just going home... what about you?' which is equally common, reply with, 'Well I've enjoyed tonight with you. Does it have to end now?'
She'll either say, 'What did you have in mind?' or 'I'm afraid so but... (I'm sure I'll see you again, call you, facebook you, etc.)' Either way, even if she wants to go home alone, your chances should still remain good for the future so long as you don't pressure her if she's not enthusiastic about the idea.
The reason why I've found persistence not to be applicable here is because everyone knows that going home together is always a sex thing and if you pressure this sex thing, you'll be just as bad as the desperados prowling the club. It will ruin future chances, so be content. There's more where she came from.
It hits 3:30AM closing time and the girls and I had been talking all night. We decide to get a cab together back to model's place a few blocks away. Lots of making out is occurring during the trip, bringing me to a very important point.
Sometimes making out in a cab is just too awkward in front of the driver; Instead, a great way to keep it all together is to play silly car games like corners during the trip. I've also poked girls in the side every time the driver wasn't watching, making it a game to try and not get caught. Don't underestimate how useful playful teasing can be.
Doesn't really matter what it is so long as it isn't silence.
Upon arriving to their place, there will be a sort of icy period where you both know what's about to happen but are unsure how to break the ice and where to go now that you're there. What I suggest is asking for a tour around the place and be sure to tease her if she owns stuffed animals or has a poster above her bed of some girly boy band.
Now, propose she make you something to drink. I don't care if the only thing in her fridge is water. Just do it. Asking girls to do you small favors is always a good idea. Psychologists do this all the time to build trust in clients. This works by the mind rationalizing that firstly, it's only a small favor and secondly, that because you're doing them a favor, you must like them on some level.
OK, so the ice is broken but now there's the ever pressing matter of 'what now' that you've so far been able to avoid. At this point, I usually stare at them with a smile and a sip of my drink and wait for them to suggest something to do. Depending on the level of escalation you've maintained, she may flat out suggest 'bedroom'. This isn't the most common occurrence even if things have gone spectacular up until this point.
The most common occurrence by far is 'let's watch a movie', which largely gets ignored in favor of couch sex. However, she may be the shy type, so stop staring and quickly ask her to pick a movie for you two to watch. This is the reality of one-night-stands. Despite Hollywood's depictions, most people don't usually go from passion-fueled taxi make-outs directly to the bedroom. Real life is less glamorous and generally slower.
The girls and I arrive at model's place. It's a two story apartment that has a nice balcony overlooking bushland. 'So show me around, model.' She takes me through the rooms and I notice she has quite the collection of Ug Boots. 'Hopefully you don't have cold feet now, huh,' I nudge her in the side and she just smiles.
The tour finishes on the balcony and I notice she has a hot tub. Excellent. I ask her, 'Do you have anything to drink?'
'There's Vodka and there's Lemonade or there's Vodka and Lemonade.'
'You should make us all a vodka and Lemonade.'
'OK but after that I need to get changed and we'll all chill in the hot tub?'
'Was hoping that was the plan.'
She leaves her door open while she changes. You'll find this is surprisingly common when girls want to freshen up after the sweaty club. I smile at her and walk away to join the other girls.
The tour finishes on the balcony and I notice she has a hot tub. Excellent. I ask her, 'Do you have anything to drink?'
'There's Vodka and there's Lemonade or there's Vodka and Lemonade.'
'You should make us all a vodka and Lemonade.'
'OK but after that I need to get changed and we'll all chill in the hot tub?'
'Was hoping that was the plan.'
She leaves her door open while she changes. You'll find this is surprisingly common when girls want to freshen up after the sweaty club. I smile at her and walk away to join the other girls.
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