THE CRAZY GIRL THREAD

[JohnChops]

I could post a few examples, but if you search my threads they are all there. Suffice it to say....if the relationship is making you unhappy, worried or causing you sleepless nights. Get OUT. The first beg red flag I shouldn't have ignored was she flat out told me one time, out of the blue "I always get my way. I always win". That in addition to noticing she was a chronic liar.


Then, after I broke up with her the first time, we were "friendly" and I kept her on FB. She used that trust and friendliness to get 2 of her GF, get all dressed up and hit the bars, then all 3 of them took selfies and flooded their FB pages with them "Out looking for men" etc.
Seriously this is out of a 44 year old woman. I promptly deleted her friends "our" friends,from FB...............two weeks later she tried to re-kindle and like a fool I bit the bait. We set plans up for the weekend and she didn't show. Later denied agreeing to the plans, so I pulled the pin for good and deleted her from FB too. I was done. Then she had the balls to text ME and say "I see you deleted me from FB, real mature. A heated text exchange followed and it was done.

If I had it to do again, I simply wouldn't have responded. It would have been interesting to see her hamster go into high gear.

This is important: I realized afterwards, that the reason she didn't want me to delete her from FB, is it removed the main means she would have to continue to hurt me and manipulate me. Best advice? If you want to hurt them - IGNORE THEM. Drives them insane. Well, more insane.


Please recognize that the below behaviors apply to both male and female.)

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  Low stress tolerance with explosive behavior.
  
  
• Moody – switches from nice guy/gal to anger without much provocation.
  
  
• Survive on threats and intimidation to keep others chained to them.
  
  
• They do not take responsibility for their behavior.
  
  
• They have to be right. They have to win. They have to look good.
  
  
• Very slow to forgive others. They hang on to resentment.
  
  
• Unable to sustain a totally faithful relationship with love partner.
  
  
• Tendency to project their own shortcomings onto the world about them – frequent blaming. Never at fault.
  
  
• Ready rationalization – rarely at a loss for words – twists conversation to divorce themselves from responsibility.
  
  
• Glimpses of integrity and emotion are seen – but short-lived. They give you hope that they are changing, but return soon to deviant behavior.
  
  
• In a trust relationship, inevitably betray and violate their commitments and get blocked emotionally when they get too close to those they say they love.
  
  
• They have no concept of open sharing of ideas, feelings, emotions. Conversation goes per their direction. They have the last word always.
  
  
• Can show tenderness of feeling, then return to customary behaviors. Two (or more) vastly different sides to their personality are seen.
  
  
• They never seem to get enough of what they want. They leave others feeling drained and confused.
  
  
• Highly contradictory. He loves me, he hates me. They threaten their partner with poverty, then indulge their partner or the relationship.
  
  
• You end up feeling responsible for the problem. They get to your feelings. No matter what -- they win, you lose.
  
  
• Attitude of “I’ll meet your needs if you meet mine. If you don’t, I’ll find someone else who will or I will not meet yours.”
  
  
• They are so skilled at making a mountain out of a molehill, and you become so tired of the conflict. It drains all of your energy, love and hope.

thats a BPD list right there if I've ever seen one.

 

[Desdinova]

Here's the backstory... I went out with this chick three times. I didn't even fvck her. I told her I didn't want to see her anymore and she wanted to be friends. I said sure and then went no contact. She blew up my phone for a month until I got it disconnected. She fvcking stalked me for a year afterwards.

Here is one month of messages

 

[Speculator E]

She sounds like a normal woman to me

 

[Twodogs]

Lol, what a nutcase Desdinova. You might expect this sort of **** after an actual relationship but after 3 dates..wow.
Some of that sounded familiar to me, especially the constant attempts to lay on the guilt and the "be a man and talk to me bull****".
If I ever hear "be a man" or "man up" it's boot time.

Kinda wish I'd kept some messages now but I deleted the lot after my short ride on the crazy train.

 

[Dgwizdal]

Here's the backstory... I went out with this chick three times. I didn't even fvck her. I told her I didn't want to see her anymore and she wanted to be friends. I said sure and then went no contact. She blew up my phone for a month until I got it disconnected. She fvcking stalked me for a year afterwards.

Here is one month of messages

LMAO.

Almost pissed myself and crashed into the median when she kept accusing you of treating her like a Leapor.

Shawnna sounds like a Sweet Country Bumpkin Bunny Boiler. Can't believe she's acting that way and you didn't even give it to her...

 

[Atom Smasher]

Will ya please give her back the damn sweater already?!!!?

 

[RangerMIke]

I had a couple like this this past year... One was Spanish... this women made me nervous, had to go to her place of work and warn her that if she didn't back off I was going to make trouble for her... never heard from her again. The other was, a woman I hooked up with after a network event... later found out she was married.... WAY too much drama.

Most women I date, when they find out that I'm not a commitment guy and not changing my mind they just disappear... some times they come back for the occasional hook-up, but most vanish and find some other guy to get their claws in.

 

[Speculator E]

thats a BPD list right there if I've ever seen one.

BPD women own cats. Add that to your list.

 

[JohnChops]

BPD women own cats. Add that to your list.

AHA can confirm this statement.

 

[Glumix]

Let's not start generalizing. Like 'if she has 2 cats, she's crazy.'

BPD is extremely rare, but for some reason, all of us here on SS tend to meet them.

Riiiiiiiiightttttt.....

Because SS is a concentration camp of some sort where all the broken hearts and wannabe-DJs meet and share their stories.

It's like you go study sociology in a prison and say: "OMG, all the people on planet earth are murderers, crazy stuff!"

So yeah, perhaps there is a high concentration of broken hearts related to BPD girls because those are the girls we meet so we then become men. When you end up with those kind of girls you then need some answers and rebuild your life so you go on Google on end up here.

But yeah, I agree with you that there is a tendency to label every crazies with BPD. You have to take that with a grain of salt around here. That's all. We are no psychiatrists.

 

[Muscle brain]

LoL..

 

[Asmodeus]

Got to the point where I stopped giving a damn about craziness in women. I find it funny, it is comical. Heck, it is even more comical if it was ME who induced the insanity in a woman... I actually take a bit of pride in being the thing that causes a woman to lose her mind. It means I won, it means that I got to her and left a serious impression.