JT47319
Master Don Juan
The Importance of Briding after getting the number
Getting numbers is easy. If your interaction with her was something substantial, 99% of the time you'll get a real number and don't need to play little games to make sure that it's real. That's the easy part.
The hard part is converting that number into something substantial like a date. You have to realize that attractive women are constantly being hit upon and give out their numbers (both real and fake) on almost a daily basis.
Even if you made out with her and had a heart felt conversation with her, once the woman is out of the environment in which you interacted with her, whether it be the library, club, or bar, those feelings of attraction will fade. Especially in a club or bar environment. Girls have rather selective memories when it comes to those sexually charged environments and have an incredibly easy time of disassociating their feelings during that moment with their current reality. You're just another cool guy she met, but she (assuming she's hot) has plenty of cool guys that she can or is currently dating.
So what you have to do is BRIDGE.
GETTING THE NUMBER IS NOT THE GOAL.
The GOAL is to meet up with her later. That could be later in the night. Later during the week, or whatever. While you're flirting with her, you should set the frame that you two are going to meet up later and have a good time. This is even before you get the number. When you're talking about common interests, you should start connecting what things that you two can do together and when you can meet up. If she likes going to the beach, you should state how you love the beach too and would love to show her how to surf (or whatever).
If done successfully, and if she's truly interested, more than likely she'll VOLUNTEER her number to you. Thus saving you the trouble and awkwardness (if you're not used to getting numbers) of asking for hers. Basically she's going to feel INVESTED in the burgeoning relationship, that you are genuinely interested in meeting up with her , and will have a harder time forgetting about you.
Oh, and always EXCHANGE numbers. She has yours and you have hers.
Getting numbers is easy. If your interaction with her was something substantial, 99% of the time you'll get a real number and don't need to play little games to make sure that it's real. That's the easy part.
The hard part is converting that number into something substantial like a date. You have to realize that attractive women are constantly being hit upon and give out their numbers (both real and fake) on almost a daily basis.
Even if you made out with her and had a heart felt conversation with her, once the woman is out of the environment in which you interacted with her, whether it be the library, club, or bar, those feelings of attraction will fade. Especially in a club or bar environment. Girls have rather selective memories when it comes to those sexually charged environments and have an incredibly easy time of disassociating their feelings during that moment with their current reality. You're just another cool guy she met, but she (assuming she's hot) has plenty of cool guys that she can or is currently dating.
So what you have to do is BRIDGE.
GETTING THE NUMBER IS NOT THE GOAL.
The GOAL is to meet up with her later. That could be later in the night. Later during the week, or whatever. While you're flirting with her, you should set the frame that you two are going to meet up later and have a good time. This is even before you get the number. When you're talking about common interests, you should start connecting what things that you two can do together and when you can meet up. If she likes going to the beach, you should state how you love the beach too and would love to show her how to surf (or whatever).
If done successfully, and if she's truly interested, more than likely she'll VOLUNTEER her number to you. Thus saving you the trouble and awkwardness (if you're not used to getting numbers) of asking for hers. Basically she's going to feel INVESTED in the burgeoning relationship, that you are genuinely interested in meeting up with her , and will have a harder time forgetting about you.
Oh, and always EXCHANGE numbers. She has yours and you have hers.
