The Cold Approach Just Did Not Work

[Sir Lancelot]

I agree with Delta Male, this could have been a ****-test. I couldn't really tell by your post. You have balls of steel though, man. Not too many guys are daring enough to walk up to a HB on a bus and start a convo in front of tons of other people.

Whenever I do an approach I kind of gauge the woman's body language to see how interested she is. If she looks away frequently, avoids eye contact, closes her posture, doesn't respond well to kino, has an irritated tone of voice, etc. I just bail and walk away. No use hanging around if she's not interested.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

England dude, you did ok, don't sweat it! English woman may not like the bold man it may be too brash for them. In America guys would have applauded your efforts and not made snide remarks unless they wanted to get killed. Cold approaches are common in America.

Also many women have bad attitudes nowadays so approaching them in places where others hear your convo is not a good idea because they may say some harsh shyt to say because they may hate men - who knows maybe she got pimped and is pissed at all men now!

You should have told her that every personis a stranger the first time they meet

Don't let this destroy your confidence just be careful next time so that others don't hear your pick-up!

 

[DJ Hawtness]

Wtf? I pick up girls anywhere. All of you that said picking up girls on a bus is bad, have proven that you're all AFC's. It doesn't matter where you are, if you have confidence, and know know what you want, you'll GET what you want (most of the time).

England dude...

EVERYONE gets rejected. All the fawktards that laughed at you on the bus probably don't get girls anyway, so why should you care?

Generally, if a girl would have told me this, I would have laughed in her face (yes, I know that's cold, but she's freaking retarded).

Don't hide what you want and get straight to the point. When you first approached her, you should have let her know what you wanted exactly (and don't say "I want to fak you, etc.).

You should know what I mean, you've been on this site since 2002.

 

[englishman]

when she said "I dont talk to strangers" shoulda said "I dont usually talk to weirdos, but I made an exeption in your case" or something...... I read your posts before though about being shot down, better work on yourself....your inner game as they say....good luck.....

 

[Enzo]

Fisrt of all take it on the chin. It went wrong but at least you did not AFC out and not try. Trying and failing is much better then not trying and even when she turned you down you though of something on the spot to come back.

Next realise that you will more then likely never see those fools again so who cares?

Afterwards try to figure out what you did wrong, May be you did nothing wrong but the girl was a b!tch. May be it was the fact that you tried to approach her but were not being direct enough. May be it was your tone of voice and body language.

Dont let failure stop you. Just think of all the HBs you will get when you have this is licked. Those guys on the train probably could not do any better (most guys cant) but you are taking a step into something that most men shy away from and end up being with a girl that was the best they could get, not the best there is.

Just think once you have this sorted, nearly any woman you see that you want you can have. Once it goes right guys will be asking how you did it instead of calling you clown.

 

[the12thplanet]

Her: your a stranger i dont talk to strangers.

You: Is that what your mum told you this morning when she sent you off to preschool?

 

[NoMoreMisterNiceGuy]

Originally posted by Enzo

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Dont let failure stop you. Just think of all the HBs you will get when you have this is licked.

what closing ratio or lays you get from ten approaches on the street ?

I've done street(speed)approaches for years and find them quite easy ... the difficult part here is that she will take you seriously

 

[Craig Reeves]

OK, the majority of you that responded to this thread need to read this post:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=73681

In reality this guy did not give us nearly enough information to prove that it was something HE did to cause this girl to be THAT rude to him. You people worship women way too damn much. Y'all let beeotches like that get away with anything! Just 'cause she's pretty doesn't mean that she has an excuse to be rude to people she isn't impressed with at the very beginning.

 

[SageOFAllenAge]

Originally posted by DJ Hawtness
Wtf? I pick up girls anywhere. All of you that said picking up girls on a bus is bad, have proven that you're all AFC's. It doesn't matter where you are, if you have confidence, and know know what you want, you'll GET what you want (most of the time).
EVERYONE gets rejected. All the fawktards that laughed at you on the bus probably don't get girls anyway, so why should you care?

I Agree.

& Dont fret it man, I've taken some hits myself trying to cold approach, But im going to bounce back soon.

 

[Canadiandon]

I cold approached a Chinese lady one time on the street during a nice day in Toronto. I was dressed nice and was holding a briefcase type bag (for effect) I walked up to her and said "nice day today" She said "yes it is" I started to say stuff like I hate the cold and all that sort of stuff she asked me if I was coming from work I said yeah and I asked here where she was coming from? "she said the hair salon" I complemented her and said "I like your hair it looks really good" to make a long story short I said I was in a bit of rush so we exchanged phone numbers, and a day later she called me up. We went out on a couple of dates and on the 3rd date I slammed her sweet Chinese pvssy like a champ!

 

[Lost In Translation]

englishcrap i just want to say CONGRATULATIONS

you have the balls to hit on a chick in public, in the daytime, in front of other people and without drugs or alcohol involved in anyway

that puts you above 95% guys on this planet

YOU HAVE BALLS


now you just to figure out what you are doing wrong and work on your game

but once you get yourself organised you will overtake 95% other men including alot of DJ's on this forum.


RESPECT


now get yourself over the DJ Bible and figure out where you went wrong

if you want any other ideas on how you could have done it different PM me

and thankyou for posting your field report and accepting critisism on top of the crap you took on the train


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

Quote: PuertoRican_Lover
PR_L's first rule of women - "They only get bigger!!!!!" Most women are lazy and hate to put forth effort and exercise - RUN!!!

 

[Enzo]

All I can say is the last guy is damn right!

Originally posted by NoMoreMisterNiceGuy
what closing ratio or lays you get from ten approaches on the street ?

I have not had the confidence to cold approach a girl on the street upfront. I can sometimes get chatting to a girl in clubs and I am almost at the level where I feel confident enough to cold approach. At the moment I do little things like look at a girl, hold eye contach smile and let her know I am checking her out. It is slow progress but it is much better then reading forums all day and not doing anything.

All I can say is that if you fail (and starting out you probably will do so often) as long as you dont let it make you stay down you will just get better and better until you wonder what all the fuss was about.

I dont just celebrate a big success. I celebrate the small ones like making a girl smile at me or vibing with a girl or going to a club and getting turned down, because these things mean that I am starting to act and not sitting on my butt *thinking* of a cool line that I dont have the guts to say.

However, dont just celebrate them. Learn from them. Look at what you did wrong. Read what people on the forum say. Take a the bits you think work for you and bin the ones you think are silly.

Even though my successes are few and I get turned down a bit. I am having fun because I am becoming the man I want to be.

 

[Machivelli]

Coffee shop cold approach

I had the same problem in a coffee shop, slightly different with IOI etc. I had a really cool convo going with the chick and I beleived I was in there. When I recommended we get together again to have coffee, she informed me that she doesnt give out her numbers to strangers. Then politely got up and left. My thoughts were simple and straight, her loss.

If you change your focus you will change your results.

Hope this helps

 

[Bonhomme]

Melt it a bit first

Good that you got the balls to approach, but you gotta work on how to approach. There's a certain order in the way things happen almost all the time. Take note of it.

There's a time to approach, and there's a time to get yourself shot down. Hard.

Make eye contact, and give her a little smile. If she smiles back, then you say "hi" and make a bit of chit-chat. At that point it hardly even matters what you say, as long as it's not out-and-out dorky. Sometimes a gal will be a bit shy and instinctively turn away at first, but if she turns back around and smiles, it's just the same.

Approach women when they're open to it, and you'll do a hell of a lot better. Take it from someone who hardly ever gets "shot down."

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Your situation could have been a sh1t test Machivelli, though I've never experienced such a test. Interested gals have always given me their info eagerly, sometimes before I even request it.

 

[DJ_in_making]

Perhaps she was acting that way b/c she had an audience watching? Forget about it, you most likely wont see any of those people again, keep mackin'.

 

[M@J.uk]

Hey guys, first Post!

But Im no newbie, been on this site for over a year and worship the DJ bible!

Anyways, English Women and Cold Approaches.
What Delta Male did wrong was this, he didnt stand his ground. Its true that english women are as cold as ice on cold approaches without drinks in their systems, but all you have to do is throw that coldness back at them. Works a treat. For example, when she said 'i dont talk to straingers', your angle from then on should of been a mirror of hers. Im too tired to give examples of what you should of said, but the phrase 'bust her balls' is what im talking about. English women LOVE a man that can use wit and insults in a funny way. So in this scenario, your best bet is to joke non-stop, and make her laugh. In england, if you choose to cold approach, your aim should be to get them laughting in a care free way, if you have other intent, there see it and run a mile. English women love a man that doesnt care what people think of them, in the moment that is.

Hope that helped!

 

[aftershock]

You got rejected. Rejection is good. It will make you stronger.

Public transport pick ups - theres nothing wrong with them. You can meet girls ANYWHERE!

 

[ApocalypseCow2]

Originally posted by englishcrap
Yesterday I approached this girl on the train. I said to her "Hey I love your shoes"..she said thanks then I continued to chat to her and then she said "Your a stranger I dont talk to strangers"

I replied "Hey if you met me in a bar u wouldnt say that"

She started waving her head back and forth and then just tutted. All the guys in the train began chuckling at me and laughing one guy said this guy is a clown.

I got depressed and felt really burned and upset.

What did I do wrong ?. Why did she say that What should I have said ? How should I have diffused the situation ?.

Congratulations! I'm serious! Dude, this is probably the *worst* thing that will ever happen to you when approaching a woman. And you know what? You survived! Yeah, your ego got bruised, but was it really *that* bad?