The club is a terrible place to meet women for me.

[ElStud]

I'm considering never going to a club again. Basically it's like, dude gets all dressed up, all freshened up; to go to a place where chicks don't even want men. I swear at most clubs all you usually see is chicks dancing with chicks. Seriously, they're not dancing with me or any other guys. And if other guys try to talk to them they just reject them.

Now, I'm a confident, unreactive guy, who's not afraid to talk to a woman. Now, confident, with no approach anxiety at all, I went up to a few chicks at the club last night. But see, no matter how confident I was, no matter how well dressed I was, these drunk chicks just blew me out. And I wasn't even that affected by it; because I'm used to that happening in the club. It's no surprise that these chicks aren't talking to any other guys either. Most of these chicks are like 5's and 6's too(But act like they're 7's and 8's).

It's almost like the chicks are closet lesbos. They come out to the club dressed like sl*ts, but all they want to do is talk to their friends all night. These chicks don't come to the club to meet anybody; they just come to dance with their friends.

Now, I could understand if I was an UNCONFIDENT, reactive wussy; but I'm the most confident guy in the club and these chicks are blowing me out. I just have to accept that they don't want men.

Anyway; yeah, I don't think I'll be going to clubs to meet chicks anymore. Maybe bars, because chicks at THOSE actually want to talk and not dance all night.

 

[JCballin88]

I know what you mean...add into the fact that most clubs are 3:1 guys-girls in ratio, it's just not a fun venue.

The best night's I've had there is when I go out with a big group of people, because then you at least have a few fallback options for dancing/chilling/leaving with others.

 

[Gray The Prince]

When it comes to clubs, sometimes I succeed, sometimes I dont.

 

[Vice]

Another topic by ElStud. *grabs popcorn*

How about you post some photos of yourself when you go out, with your face covered? Because your idea of "dressing well" can be VASTLY different from what is considered actually "dressing well".

Example: I see alot of guys think they are "dressing well" by putting on a dress shirt. But the shirt is too large, and they're wearing goofy ass running shoes.

And it seems like you harbor negative thoughts towards women. Women can SMELL that attitude from a MILE away, and shut down when you try to talk to them.

I personally don't do too bad in clubs.

 

[Strelok]

See down for my repliy, anyway its kinda funny that the chance of having sex for the average man is more connected to the color of his shoes than his intelligence and competence in the world, they say it's a man world but taken in mind how unlogical the thing is I would say this is a female world, especially in the social field.
Man, you're chance or getting sex depends more on your clothes than on your job....think about it.

Basically it's like, dude gets all dressed up, all freshened up; to go to a place where chicks don't even want men. I swear at most clubs all you usually see is chicks dancing with chicks. Seriously, they're not dancing with me or any other guys. And if other guys try to talk to them they just reject them.



It's almost like the chicks are closet lesbos. They come out to the club dressed like sl*ts, but all they want to do is talk to their friends all night. These chicks don't come to the club to meet anybody; they just come to dance with their friends.

They are not lesbos, they are straigh girls getting all the sex they want there, and by sex I mean the female version of sex.
They are getting attention from males and validation, they get from pumping their ego the same satisfaction you get by dropping your load inside her.

Having guys to stare at them is like a cigarette to a smoker, rejecting guys is like a dose for a drug addict.

Would you pay attention to a girl if you could get sex anyway? of course not, well they are not giving guys any sex since they can get attention anyway.

I just have to accept that they don't want men.

They dont want men in the conventional meaning, they want only a part of men just like we want only a part of women.
We want their bodies they want our desire, they are so contorted that they get more excited by the sexual tension than the sex itself.

 

[perseverance]

Whenever I am in a club my aim to just to have fun, I'm not interested in getting girls because most of these women are disease ridden hoebags, low quality women that aren't worth my attention or time. Most of the time when I am in club I am usually so smashed off my head that it's a struggle to even dance properly.

 

[Gray The Prince]

ElStud has competition with JPlaya lol.

 

[ElStud]

Whenever I am in a club my aim to just to have fun, I'm not interested in getting girls because most of these women are disease ridden hoebags, low quality women that aren't worth my attention or time. Most of the time when I am in club I am usually so smashed off my head that it's a struggle to even dance properly.

I like to have fun at the clubs too, sometimes. But sometimes, I like to talk to girls there too. Maybe it's just the clubs me and my dudes go to, I don't know. And this isn't a one time thing. Literally EVERY TIME we go there, we see the same types of chicks. Chicks who are either with their BF or are only interested in dancing with chicks.

My dude who has a GF and has tons of female friends even said something like "These girls act dumb as hell".

And he's right, they do. They come out to the clubs dressed like hoes and reject dude's all night. All they want is validation and nothing else. They don't want dance, they don't want to f*ck, they don't want to talk, they just want validation.

Now, once in a while, I will meet a decent chick or two. For instance, once I talked to these 2 girls and later THEY approached me. But usually it's just a bunch of chicks who want to do nothing but dance like *****s with their friends.

So basically it's like, you didn't come to the club with a chick; you probably won't leave with one. Unless of course, you want to work 4's and 5's, like you would 7's and 8's, if you catch my drift.

 

[Chamber36]

I haven't left the club with a girl in a few months already... The trick is to simply make out with them. I realise now from experience that we have to get more aggressive as we grow older.

The trick is to be really sexual and to basically escalate from the start. Before you can do that you have to make sure you're not wasting any mental energy on non-receptive B*tches. Don't waste time on any attention *****s, and when you find a girl who shows you signs of interest, make sure you don't miss her signals.

 

[perseverance]

It is not mandatory for women in clubs to hook up with guys. If a woman doesn't want to hook up with anybody there, then that's her choice. If you're going to clubs searching for women and you don't seem to be having much luck, why not go to other places?

 

[aura]

Do some research on the best places to meet women in your area. Not every place will be a 'hit' but continue to ask around, try new places, search online for info, and so on.

 

[Vice]

I haven't left the club with a girl in a few months already... The trick is to simply make out with them. I realise now from experience that we have to get more aggressive as we grow older.

The trick is to be really sexual and to basically escalate from the start. Before you can do that you have to make sure you're not wasting any mental energy on non-receptive B*tches. Don't waste time on any attention *****s, and when you find a girl who shows you signs of interest, make sure you don't miss her signals.

This.

Do some research on the best places to meet women in your area. Not every place will be a 'hit' but continue to ask around, try new places, search online for info, and so on.

And this.

My last lay report was basically me sitting there, and the girl kept looking at me until she said "Hi". The rest is history.

 

[Ben7]

Girls go to clubs to get attention, not to hook up. And the ones that do, have been around the block a couple of times, if you know what I mean. Not exacly gf/wife material.

Best would be to improve yourself (gym, library, schooling, sports) meet all sorts of people, expand your social circle. This way you get in contact with people who share the same intrests, male or female. Everybody's got female friends... You get the idea.

 

[ElStud]

I haven't left the club with a girl in a few months already... The trick is to simply make out with them. I realise now from experience that we have to get more aggressive as we grow older.

The trick is to be really sexual and to basically escalate from the start. Before you can do that you have to make sure you're not wasting any mental energy on non-receptive B*tches. Don't waste time on any attention *****s, and when you find a girl who shows you signs of interest, make sure you don't miss her signals.

Yeah, but most nights all there is attention *****s. But yeah, I see where you guys are going. I've noticed that I've had more success in bars, so I might just go to them from now. The women in the bars just seem to be more mature and are more open to meeting someone. Most clubs are filled with immature validation seeking college chicks.

 

[souperblitz99]

Maybe its not the 5 or 6's we should bother with. how about a restaurant where there are 8 or 9's. They might have more intelligence.

 

[irocknike23]

idk ya sometimes women do go there "just to dance with their girls"

but i love clubbing I always see massive groups of women and it always has a 1:1 ratio.

then take into account all the guys who post up on the wall and too scared, the ratio is even better

 

[Black Dog]

I'm considering never going to a club again. Basically it's like, dude gets all dressed up, all freshened up; to go to a place where chicks don't even want men. I swear at most clubs all you usually see is chicks dancing with chicks. Seriously, they're not dancing with me or any other guys. And if other guys try to talk to them they just reject them.

Now, I'm a confident, unreactive guy, who's not afraid to talk to a woman. Now, confident, with no approach anxiety at all, I went up to a few chicks at the club last night. But see, no matter how confident I was, no matter how well dressed I was, these drunk chicks just blew me out. And I wasn't even that affected by it; because I'm used to that happening in the club. It's no surprise that these chicks aren't talking to any other guys either. Most of these chicks are like 5's and 6's too(But act like they're 7's and 8's).

It's almost like the chicks are closet lesbos. They come out to the club dressed like sl*ts, but all they want to do is talk to their friends all night. These chicks don't come to the club to meet anybody; they just come to dance with their friends.

Now, I could understand if I was an UNCONFIDENT, reactive wussy; but I'm the most confident guy in the club and these chicks are blowing me out. I just have to accept that they don't want men.

Anyway; yeah, I don't think I'll be going to clubs to meet chicks anymore. Maybe bars, because chicks at THOSE actually want to talk and not dance all night.

LOL!!! Elstud!!! Where you been? Missed ya' buddy!

I'm too good for women. I'm confident, not desperate, I can actually hold a conversation and I have more balls than many other men. Yet, I go up to women and if when things seem well, I'm rejected. This smart, confident, non desperate, good conversationalist, gets rejected by women. WTF women?

I'm sort of getting this feeling that I'm too good for women. Unlike a lot of guys, I actually LIKE myself and am not that insecure. Nor am I desperate, because if a woman rejects me, I just go up to the next one. It's no big deal to me. WTF women? You should be HAPPY a dude as confident and intelligent as me would even give your ho ass 5 seconds.

After that last chick I approached, I've just had it. I'm tired of getting rejected for actually LIKING myself and actually giving a crap about her. I like women, a lot; of course, I'm a man. But they're not something I can't live without. That in addition with porn, is enough to be happy without women.

It just seems women my age just don't like, good, confident, intelligent men. Meanwhile, they'll go for a jerk or a thug, who uses and abuses them, in a second. WTF women? I honestly feel I'm just too good for these ho's and that THEY are the one's truly missing out. What am I missing out on? Probably a boring chick with no personality, who's materialistic. What's she missing out? A guy who cares for her, who will protect her and cherish her if she deserved it.

But even without women, I'm that same cool confident guy. What she she's is the REAL, GENUINE me, unlike with other dudes. But yeah, I might start focusing on other things that are more important than getting laid. You know like, SCHOOL, music, programming; you know, my passions. I swear this is where I draw the line.

Meanwhile, the guys who mistreat them, abuse them and leave her with 5 kids; gets the girl. What a pathetic society we live in.

I can now understand why some men become jerks.

Goodbye women. There's no ElStud in your future.

This will be my final thread on the subject. I'm done. Finished.

 

[Zarky]

I've never met guys who had much luck at clubs, which is why I'm always amazed when people post here that they "pull 8s and 9s" at clubs "every week" with "no problem." But then they won't post any details.

Kinda strange.
:yes:

 

[jay_mo]

In my town this a lot up to which clubs you are going to, to meet the RIGHT people.

On one club, you can't basically talk to any of the girls without getting a "talk to the hand" or just "wtf are you looking at"-look if you try to get eye contact. Chicks go there to show up there boobs and to boost their egos by rejecting as many guys they can.

Then, in another place, 10 minutes walk from there, you can just go up and talk to any person, girl or guy, and they will treat you like you´re the best thing that happened to them that night. People go there to have fun, to meet and talk to other people, and to get laid. There are about 50/50 percent guys/girls. I hooked up with many girls at this place.

Once I met a chick on the second club that acted like she was used to go to the first one. I tried to check her out on the dancefloor, and she gave me that "what are you looking at"-look. I just smiled and laughed at her, cause it was obvious that she didn't know how people act at this club.
The moment later, she made eye contact with me again, I smiled, and then she looked down to the floor - owned.
A few moments later I saw her doing it again with another guy. Again he was laughing at her.

Go to the right places that suits your intentions.

 

[Ease]

How can you say you are confident? You dont know what confidence is.

You went up expecting to get rejected and 'knew' that these girls would never give you the time of the day and would not be interested.

This is as low confidence as there is, it doesnt get lower. There is nothing confident about your first post. Have a little self belief, go for an ugly girl to get a moral boost.


Club game is harder because of the sea of **** that surrounds constantly. You need to be bigger, more confident and more lucky than normal.