I'm guessing this is the proper board to post this on since I'm in highschool and it sort of relates. I am new to this site and I am a BAFC. I'm 16 years old and only had 1 girlfriend. Whenever I try meeting women, I get into the friendzone pretty quickly. However, lately I've been working at not getting into it and generally being better at approaching women, but my biggest problem right now is my friends. I'm the newest guy to the group, but I've still been in it for about 6 months. My friends all pick on me, regardless of where we are. They ****block me, they say stuff about me that isn't true etc. I know these guys don't sound like the greatest friends, and I suppose you may be right, but I still, aside from being picked on, have tons of fun with them, get to get out of the house way more than I used to, and even go out and meet women. I really have no idea how to stop this, if I tell any of them to shut up or anything, they all either start of they get violent. Any advice would be useful. I want to get out of this position but remain friends with them since they've helped me a lot to further my reputation and meet people.
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I don't know, get new friends maybe? I personally wouldn't hang out with friends who made fun of me, ****blocked, or talked sh*t about me. If they're just doing it to play around, that's alright, but if they're doing because they know you're going to get p*ssed off that's different. IMO, they sound more like bullies than friends. I know none of my own friends would do that.
ElStud said:
I know what you mean, it started off as joking around, but its become so common it isn't really anymore. Whenever I get mad they just say "Get a sense of humor, we're just screwing around" but then they keep doing it... I'm sure when someone new joins I'll go to just one of the guys, but until then, its crappy.
Well try doing the same things to them and see how they react. If they get p*ssed do the same thing they did to you, say "Get a sense of humor, I'm only playing around with you". Or even laugh it off when they joke on you, so they see that you don't really care what they think. Part of the reason they keep doing that sh*t is because they know you'll react. And you got to stop being dependent on these guys, you're afraid that if they ditch you won't be able to find any other friends. Sure they hang out with you and stuff, but you could find better friends that actually respect you.
Michele l'Arcangelo
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they dont respect you, simple as that.
a new person can join and have all the respect he wants by being a total badass.
this isn't an 80's movie... there's no leader of the good ol gang... theres no new recruit. ...it's just a group of friends.
they dont respect you, simple as that.
a new person can join and have all the respect he wants by being a total badass.
this isn't an 80's movie... there's no leader of the good ol gang... theres no new recruit. ...it's just a group of friends.
If there's one thing I've ever been able to accomplish (and I've accomplished little), it's demanding respect. It's all about presence and body language.
First read this:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=37708
As well, learn to lower your voices but have it project. It's easy when you can figure out how to do it.
If you master this, you will look so much better. As far as your friends, start finding new friends. IMO, it's better to be the leader of the nobodys than be ***** of the somebodys. There are little ways you can try to improve your relationship, but do yourself the favor and scout new friends. Expand how many friends you have. Start quietly denying invites with those friends, and accepting invites with others. Even if you have to stay home, and watch the movie on TBS, it's better than being disrespected. If they start to change, fine. If they don't, you're doing yourself the favor by finding new friends.
As far as ****blocking, I'm not quick with my wit so I just stare them down with some dirty looks. Eventually if they keep ****blocking, they will say something lame (or try too hard) and you can look at the girls with that "let's laugh at him, not with him" look.
First read this:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=37708
As well, learn to lower your voices but have it project. It's easy when you can figure out how to do it.
If you master this, you will look so much better. As far as your friends, start finding new friends. IMO, it's better to be the leader of the nobodys than be ***** of the somebodys. There are little ways you can try to improve your relationship, but do yourself the favor and scout new friends. Expand how many friends you have. Start quietly denying invites with those friends, and accepting invites with others. Even if you have to stay home, and watch the movie on TBS, it's better than being disrespected. If they start to change, fine. If they don't, you're doing yourself the favor by finding new friends.
As far as ****blocking, I'm not quick with my wit so I just stare them down with some dirty looks. Eventually if they keep ****blocking, they will say something lame (or try too hard) and you can look at the girls with that "let's laugh at him, not with him" look.
You can convey through your presence, body language, and tone of voice that these guys are morons.
If you seem oblivious to their negative comments, a girl will perceive that these guys are desperately trying to make themselves look good for her by tearing you down because they perceive you as a threat. Women don't like that. By appearing confident not withstanding whatever they happen to be saying about you, your friends look childish and you will be the one who appears to have more worth than them.
If you seem oblivious to their negative comments, a girl will perceive that these guys are desperately trying to make themselves look good for her by tearing you down because they perceive you as a threat. Women don't like that. By appearing confident not withstanding whatever they happen to be saying about you, your friends look childish and you will be the one who appears to have more worth than them.
ValleyDJing
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1. You should probably ignore them and get new friends. You don't need that s.hit in your life. I went through something similar. Recently a few of my friends started being *******s to me for no apparent reason. They would stand me up when I wanted to hang out, ignore me, do s.hit without inviting me, etc. So I basically just stopped talking to them. I met some new people through work, met all their friends, and now I chill with them mainly.
2. If its the type of thing where you're opening sets and they talk s.hit about you around females to ****block you and steal the chicks for themselves, this is actually a good spot for kino. After they crack a joke about you and the girls are laughing it up, you stand to side of the girl you want, lean in close with your hand on the small of her back, and cup your hand to her ear like you're telling her a secret, and you just whisper..."They're jealous of my enormous penis!" If that doesn't get her laughing, then there is something wrong with her. Fuk her if she can't take a joke.
2. If its the type of thing where you're opening sets and they talk s.hit about you around females to ****block you and steal the chicks for themselves, this is actually a good spot for kino. After they crack a joke about you and the girls are laughing it up, you stand to side of the girl you want, lean in close with your hand on the small of her back, and cup your hand to her ear like you're telling her a secret, and you just whisper..."They're jealous of my enormous penis!" If that doesn't get her laughing, then there is something wrong with her. Fuk her if she can't take a joke.
Its always the ugly guy who try to ****block and not no he doin it. The guy the girls dont even notice is in her presents lol. I go threw that too. I mean it was so obvious I was talking to some girl across the street from my house because I hoped out of my seat, ran all threw my moms plants, and practically fell to talk to her. And this ugly friend of mine just gotta talk to her from were we was seatin to were i was. And she was one of the proper girls.
Moral the ugly friend is a cool dude, just own the **** blockin in his blood.
Moral the ugly friend is a cool dude, just own the **** blockin in his blood.
No, all my friends are DJs, and I'm a developing one, which makes it hard, usually they aren't going for the same girl, but sometimes, even if I've worked my ass off to get where I am they'll just walk up and ruin it.
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I know the feeling, the best way to retaliate is to ****block back. And take them to some place where u know all the girls and they dont. It'll make u look like the boss.