darkstarrr
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So I'm watching this guy on Larry King the other day and holy sh1t is he a good speaker. One smooth dude if you ask me. I don't know too much about the whole scandal thing he is wrapped up in, nor do I care really.
What interests me so much about this character is how he seems so non-chalant about the whole thing. For someone who seems to be in such hot water he is doing a great job at framing the whole thing to be minimal. What a spin he is putting on it.
I particularly enjoyed how when Mr. King asked him about how his wife was swearing he chuckled it off saying oh poor her she doesn't talk like that she just hears me talk like that and thats why she said it (as he smiled warmly and smugly). I'd bet my lucky star that someone got dome later that night.
A light bulb went off in my head when I heard him speak, and it got my imagination going about this whole framing thing. How can a guy who fvcked up so bad where the 3-letter word departments are on him and his calls like flies on sh1t, and then get cught red-handed - be able to frame the situation so well as to sway so many people to practically admire him? There's a fund raiser for goodness sake that is handling his legal fees.
And have any of you seen his young wife? Easily an hb8. I coudn't help but imagine how this guy handles her. I mean, I doubt she is an out of control wacko like many of us have encountered in our lives. But for some reason after seeing the interview with Mr. King I imagined his wife getting all upset when the whole thing unfolded and possibly threatening to leave him. From the way he handled the interview I then imagined he must have done a heck of a job calming her nerves.
Say for example she got so upset and stormed out. He seems like the type of dude who didn't run after her sobbing and begging but instead non-chalantly chuckle to himself saying out loud baby you are over-reacting this is just politics and its important not to let it get to you (as he sits down on the coach in his loafers, a robe, and a calm warm smile).
I then imagined his wife getting to the end of the driveway and being so confused at how charasmatic he is. How come he is not having a nervous breakdown or something, after all he is the one in trouble and she is the one upset and running out the door. So she just stands there and feels like a pouty little girl *not fair*, only to turn right around and walk right back in the house like a brat, only to find him sipping hot cocoa on the coach lapping steamed milk off his upper lip. "Want some honey"?
People's minds are weak and very much undefined. We often frame our own realities based on how other people are reacting around us. When my little cousin lost her first baby tooth right in front of the whole family she looked around at everyone's faces almost checking to see how we would react because she didn't quite know how to. When some of us gasped like omg her tooth came out ahhhh she started crying almost 15 seconds later!!! We are men, not women or children. How we frame things can give us so much control over a situation, its amazing.
This hypothesis is merely an application of what I have been learning here. For all you people out there who have lost control, had nervous breakdowns, or maybe even fantasized about suicide...you must remember that your world is very much under your control depending on how you frame it. But you can't expect to implement it after the fact. You must start now and maintain it throughout even the most testing times. If you have a problem with lost testosterone like TRS discussed on one of his posts.. get yourself checked out and do something about it because such a problem can greatly induce an AFC mindset.
Its not as difficult as it seems to maintain your composure throughout. We must remember that while all these situations we are in that make up our little worlds are taking place, as hellish as they may seem at times, all we have to do is not let your emotions get the best of us. Because once you start to lose control of yourself (which often times is a lot sooner than most realize) you begin to poison yourself by giving up your power and taking your first steps down the road of AFC relapse.
An once of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
Can you imagine if Blagojevich had had a pissed off tantrum or nervous breakdown RIGHT when the sh1t hit the fan. The amount of back-pedaling he would be doing right now would be inconceivabe. One false fvcking move and he would have taken that first step. The wife being turned off as she buckled under the stress and became less and less attracted to him each day. The therapy sessions he would have inevitably needed as his world came crashing down around him. Wife gone with the kid. His face painted all over the news as an outcast. A potential identity crisis. But he didn't let that happen did he..
When faced with difficult situations remember to BREATH and THINK about what you are about to do or say or HOW you are going to allow yourself to react, if at all. By maintaining your composure during each and every single step you take, and by staying cool, calm, and collected, you not only maintain the greatest possible control over your environment, but you also maintain your frame, which is the name of the game.
What interests me so much about this character is how he seems so non-chalant about the whole thing. For someone who seems to be in such hot water he is doing a great job at framing the whole thing to be minimal. What a spin he is putting on it.
I particularly enjoyed how when Mr. King asked him about how his wife was swearing he chuckled it off saying oh poor her she doesn't talk like that she just hears me talk like that and thats why she said it (as he smiled warmly and smugly). I'd bet my lucky star that someone got dome later that night.
A light bulb went off in my head when I heard him speak, and it got my imagination going about this whole framing thing. How can a guy who fvcked up so bad where the 3-letter word departments are on him and his calls like flies on sh1t, and then get cught red-handed - be able to frame the situation so well as to sway so many people to practically admire him? There's a fund raiser for goodness sake that is handling his legal fees.
And have any of you seen his young wife? Easily an hb8. I coudn't help but imagine how this guy handles her. I mean, I doubt she is an out of control wacko like many of us have encountered in our lives. But for some reason after seeing the interview with Mr. King I imagined his wife getting all upset when the whole thing unfolded and possibly threatening to leave him. From the way he handled the interview I then imagined he must have done a heck of a job calming her nerves.
Say for example she got so upset and stormed out. He seems like the type of dude who didn't run after her sobbing and begging but instead non-chalantly chuckle to himself saying out loud baby you are over-reacting this is just politics and its important not to let it get to you (as he sits down on the coach in his loafers, a robe, and a calm warm smile).
I then imagined his wife getting to the end of the driveway and being so confused at how charasmatic he is. How come he is not having a nervous breakdown or something, after all he is the one in trouble and she is the one upset and running out the door. So she just stands there and feels like a pouty little girl *not fair*, only to turn right around and walk right back in the house like a brat, only to find him sipping hot cocoa on the coach lapping steamed milk off his upper lip. "Want some honey"?
People's minds are weak and very much undefined. We often frame our own realities based on how other people are reacting around us. When my little cousin lost her first baby tooth right in front of the whole family she looked around at everyone's faces almost checking to see how we would react because she didn't quite know how to. When some of us gasped like omg her tooth came out ahhhh she started crying almost 15 seconds later!!! We are men, not women or children. How we frame things can give us so much control over a situation, its amazing.
This hypothesis is merely an application of what I have been learning here. For all you people out there who have lost control, had nervous breakdowns, or maybe even fantasized about suicide...you must remember that your world is very much under your control depending on how you frame it. But you can't expect to implement it after the fact. You must start now and maintain it throughout even the most testing times. If you have a problem with lost testosterone like TRS discussed on one of his posts.. get yourself checked out and do something about it because such a problem can greatly induce an AFC mindset.
Its not as difficult as it seems to maintain your composure throughout. We must remember that while all these situations we are in that make up our little worlds are taking place, as hellish as they may seem at times, all we have to do is not let your emotions get the best of us. Because once you start to lose control of yourself (which often times is a lot sooner than most realize) you begin to poison yourself by giving up your power and taking your first steps down the road of AFC relapse.
An once of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
Can you imagine if Blagojevich had had a pissed off tantrum or nervous breakdown RIGHT when the sh1t hit the fan. The amount of back-pedaling he would be doing right now would be inconceivabe. One false fvcking move and he would have taken that first step. The wife being turned off as she buckled under the stress and became less and less attracted to him each day. The therapy sessions he would have inevitably needed as his world came crashing down around him. Wife gone with the kid. His face painted all over the news as an outcast. A potential identity crisis. But he didn't let that happen did he..
When faced with difficult situations remember to BREATH and THINK about what you are about to do or say or HOW you are going to allow yourself to react, if at all. By maintaining your composure during each and every single step you take, and by staying cool, calm, and collected, you not only maintain the greatest possible control over your environment, but you also maintain your frame, which is the name of the game.
