The best way to improve skills?

[crossedup]

What have you DJ's who were once pathetic AFC's personally found as the best way to improve your luck with girls? How long did it take you? What is the best mindset?

What did you do to gain the courage to approach? What traits do you have that seem to stand out to girls and attract them to you?

I have been trying things from this site for a month now with little results or success.

general responses are chill with me

 

[TheWayOfAllFlesh]

I don't like this response but it just makes the most sense

'Keep practicing'

 

[Don Wha]

I'm less than a month out of an very LTR.

1. Confidence
I found building up your confidence would be the foundation. Once you are confidence in yourself, woman definitely notice. It's just something that oozes out of your pores.

2. Have fun and have low expectations.
I was out of the game for 5+ years. I just went out expecting to have fun, knock off a lot of the rust by just chatting girls up. I didn't really expect any numbers the first couple of times I went out, but ended up with 1 or 2 anyways. This gave me the "WOW" factor and really helped boost my confidence and made the nights out a lot more fun.

3. I am/was a pretty shy guy. I kinda am a ****y & funny guy naturally but my brain kinda freezes up when I'm trying to talk to HB 8-10. One method I learned on here was the 1.2.3. method. The moment you are thinking about approaching a woman. Just do a countdown. 3.2.1. and just go. Give urself no time to second guess urself or hesitate.

I've been just using eye contact to measure levels of interest. Once I catch a girl staring at me. It's over for her. My eye contact is so intense that she is gonna feel as if I'm looking straight thru her and I'm looking straight into her soul! With a smile of course or else it will just be creepy.


Just using this, i've been gettin some decent results that I'm happy with. My main goal is to just go out and have fun and the rest of the chips may fall where they lay. 3 weeks out, about 3 times a week and I got about 5-6 numbers; 2 im not very impressed with, but the rest were hbs7+. Ehh, its a good start. I now need to work on my phone game and getting the dates. But im talking it a step at a time and just making sure I'm having fun.

FYI if it maters, I'm a skinny asian guy and I'm working mostly asian girls. I've tried working white girls before, but the response/success rate was very negative. I'll work on my game a little more before stepping up to that plate again.

Hope this helps.

-Don Wha in the making

 

[ATP]

The best way to get more confidence with women if you are not doing it allready is to start building muscle or lose fat if you are skinny/fat. Nothing will have a more profound effect on your life than getting in shape. You will get more energy, you will get better posture, you will feel a lot more confident in yourself and most of all, women will naturally be attracted to you before you even open your mouth. :yes: Prepare for a truckload of *****.

 

[PRMoon]

I don't like this response but it just makes the most sense

'Keep practicing'

Yep this is it bottom line. This is how you get better at anything. I haven't been out with you but I can tell your frustrated because you don't have what equates to overnight success. This DJ stuff is by no means easy. You have to put your self out there over and over again until it clicks in your head what needs to be done. It's not something that just happens, it's a process that takes time and repetition. If you don't know how to sell yourself well, then you don't have what it takes to be DJ. End of story.

The key element that you're missing out on is that you consider the ability to talk to women "luck". It's not luck for those of us who are practiced. It's a skill that we incorporate into our lives. You have to change your lifestyle in order to do well in the game. Trying to incorporate tricks into how you presently live just won't cut it. The whole point of this site is to change you, not to augment who you already are. If you were good enough as you were then you wouldn't need the help or advice you read here. True some people are skilled before they make it to this place and just need a few tips but there are many more (like yourself) who need an overhaul to get themselves on the right track. You have to get out of your comfort zone and into the mentality of someone who's successful. That journey is long and hard but is the path you need to take.

 

[kingsam]

Force your self out of your comfort zone (talking to people) and eventually these things will be comfortable for you to do...
Dont take any failure personally...this is a big one....

i also found that analysing (with new found knowledge) what went wrong with past Rl's/girls that i struck out on helped me a lot... its very intresting to reflect back on

and the gym helps a massive amount

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

2 years and still growing.

Don't stop practicing because growth is eternal.

I have been trying things from this site for a month now with little results or success.

How often do you approach ? How hard do you push yourself ?
I started doing about 10 approaches per night.

What did you do to gain the courage to approach? What traits do you have that seem to stand out to girls and attract them to you?

I knew deep inside me that i wanted to have this part of my life handled. And i knew the result that i would get if i kept going on my journal. There were more than enough moments where i said F*CK THIS, ITS NOT WORKING (remember, no pain is forever, glory is eternal). But i kept going. Everyone that is good in this area will tell you this.

Its going to take you about 5-6 months to start getting eventual closes but many years to become good enough to pull anytime you want. Keep practicing. If you're a quitter in general, you are not going to get anywhere.

 

[synergy1]

"do work son"

Chat, fail rinse repeat. Some will take longer to learn than others, so get out there and have some fun!

The "best" way to improve is to have a friend who is good with women help you out. Its as much of a shortcut in these kind of things as you can get. Either way, you still gotta DO WORK!

go pimp it!

 

[Tesl]

Love yourself. If you truly love who you are, people around you will want you too. It will give you the natural confidence you need to be successful.

I will leave you to figure out how to do that