Hey guys,
I had a question about how I was going with the program. I thought i'd post it for everyone.
I'm doing Stage 5 out of 6 at the moment. I feel like alot of the changes have become alot more natural, the biggest thing I am impressed with is my assertiveness now. I've always had an issue with this and it improved using the earlier version but it has got even better during this version. (5.0) I even have had a friend commenting on it and that is when I know I have really made a change.
Most of the time when I go out I tend to just draw people to me and have alot of fun talking to them and get alot more respect from people. I realized that being the guy who stands there in his own world, having fun and draws people in is the ultimate for me, I in no way want to be that really high energy guy who is running around entertaining everyone like a guy. It isn't really me and when I forced myself to do that it drained me and I didn't get the same results as when I was more relaxed and quietly confident.
Another change that I like is in the past i'd think that I had to be 'nice and polite' to EVERYBODY but now i'm increasingly able to ignore these people and they get the point, so I don't have to waste my time with the people who drain my energy and try to talk crap anymore.
One step i've taken during the program that I most likely wouldn't have before is that on purpose I cut off my other methods of income unless it is working for myself, it has been hard but it will be worth it in the end.
And i've noticed i've become much more dominant in the bedroom, I have always gone out of my way to learn what girls like in bed i'm finding myself alot more dominant and they really enjoy it. Being able to have both sides, the more gentle.. "making love" and the more dominant, like pulling hair, slapping her on the ass etc and mixing it up is where it is at.
One thing that I am having to watch is that i've upset a few people telling them what I think without censoring it and they have wanted to have a go at me. I just think it's something I have to let balance out a bit more as my methods of dealing with confrontation come from experience as a bouncer, and out of that job alot of it can enflame situations, but that is part of my own personal learning.
I had a question about how I was going with the program. I thought i'd post it for everyone.
I'm doing Stage 5 out of 6 at the moment. I feel like alot of the changes have become alot more natural, the biggest thing I am impressed with is my assertiveness now. I've always had an issue with this and it improved using the earlier version but it has got even better during this version. (5.0) I even have had a friend commenting on it and that is when I know I have really made a change.
Most of the time when I go out I tend to just draw people to me and have alot of fun talking to them and get alot more respect from people. I realized that being the guy who stands there in his own world, having fun and draws people in is the ultimate for me, I in no way want to be that really high energy guy who is running around entertaining everyone like a guy. It isn't really me and when I forced myself to do that it drained me and I didn't get the same results as when I was more relaxed and quietly confident.
Another change that I like is in the past i'd think that I had to be 'nice and polite' to EVERYBODY but now i'm increasingly able to ignore these people and they get the point, so I don't have to waste my time with the people who drain my energy and try to talk crap anymore.
One step i've taken during the program that I most likely wouldn't have before is that on purpose I cut off my other methods of income unless it is working for myself, it has been hard but it will be worth it in the end.
And i've noticed i've become much more dominant in the bedroom, I have always gone out of my way to learn what girls like in bed i'm finding myself alot more dominant and they really enjoy it. Being able to have both sides, the more gentle.. "making love" and the more dominant, like pulling hair, slapping her on the ass etc and mixing it up is where it is at.
One thing that I am having to watch is that i've upset a few people telling them what I think without censoring it and they have wanted to have a go at me. I just think it's something I have to let balance out a bit more as my methods of dealing with confrontation come from experience as a bouncer, and out of that job alot of it can enflame situations, but that is part of my own personal learning.
