After reading hundreds of threads on this website, it has become painstakingly clear that the ideas presented here are rarely understood by posters.
The whole idea of this website is for you to understand the following things:
1) You are a man of value
This has been said a thousand different ways. You are "the prize", you are "alpha", you are a "high-status male." Ninety percent of all questions on this board would never be asked. The first step is understanding that, as a man of value, your attention is worth something. Girls want you to notice them. When a girl does something that you do not like, the best thing you can do is ignore that girl - in other words, your attention is valuable, so denying a girl your attention is denying her something valuable.
So when a girl is giving you trouble in ANY WAY - whether it's asking you questions you don't want to answer, talking about other guys, talking on the phone too much while hanging out with you, trying to elicit undeserved favors, getting mad for not calling, etc. the correct way to approach the porblem is "does this behavior bother me?" If it doesn't, just shrug her off by giving her a simple answer. (for example - she asks "where in the hell were you?" You answer "I was out - why are you yelling? You're hurting my ears") If it does bother you, you need to be more firm with her (example -
"Who was she?" You answer "She was a friend... stop being jealous. It's not becoming of you"
A man of value does not worry that he will lose a girl, a girl worries that she will lose a man of value. Stop acting like a girl owns you, and stop trying to do things in order to NOT lose a girl. I constantly see questions from guys that are so afraid their girl is going to leave them if they do something wrong that they have to get posters on this board to approve their every move before they make it. This shows right away that they are still thinking of the girl as the prize.
Stop trying to appease girls. Start expecting them to appease you.
2) Looks do not make a girl valuable.
There are many girls who are very good looking, but still annoying, loud, dirty mouthed alcoholic sluts that will go home with you the first night and realistically have nothing of value to contribute to your life.
As a man who can easily seduce good looking girls, but also has standards, you would like nothing more than to weed these girls out. This means that you must find a way to identify these girls, and then develop a way to screen against this type. The technique that develops as a result of this mindset is called "qualifying". However, until you understand the spirit of this technique, it will never be successful. You cannot qualify a girl if you have nothing to qualify her on.
Attractive girls really are a dime a dozen. The sooner you realize this, the better off you will be. Neg-hits, openers, and the whole bag of PUA tricks are just products of this mindset. You wouldn't engage a group of overweight, middle-aged bald guys by walking up and saying "You guys are so HOT!" so don't do it to a group of girls either. Hot means nothing. Are they sluts? Do they have IQs above 80? Are they interested in even a single thing that you are? These are the questions that should be going through your head before you approach. When you've truly stopped worshipping superficial beauty, you won't need any techniques for a girl to see this mindset. You will neg her accidentally, you will freeze out at the right times because you are genuinely bored with her, and you will not be nervous when approaching a hot girl because you know that looks mean nothing.
Especially if you want to argue that 'looks mean nothing'. You can't claim that 'looks mean nothing' if that's all you consider when evaluating girls and whether or not they're worth your time. Don't be shallow and expect girls not to be.
Free yourself! Stop valuing superficial beauty.
3) Gauge Interest Through Actions (Stop Looking for "Indicators of Interest")
Women are very complex creatures. They are masters of communication, yet they seem to be unaware of the fact that they send more mixed signals than any man can hope make sense of. Signals are, at best, unreliable, and at worst intentionally deceptive. Sometimes a girl who seems completely uninterested really is just waiting for you to make a move (shy girl), and sometimes she sends a hundred and one 'signals' when she's not interested at all (attention wh0re - common these days).
The best test of whether a girl likes you involves proposing any activity that requires her interest for her to agree with. She might flirt with you, give you the 'bedroom eyes', laugh at your stupid jokes, etc. but if she still says no when you invite her to 'hang out', go to dinner, go hiking, etc. then she is showing low interest. Once you decide you are interested in a girl, and you start inviting her places, you'll know really fast if she's worth your time based on her responses. If she's always busy when you have time to go out, she pulls her hand away when you try to hold it, she dodges a kiss, or she acts in ways that show that she's willing to risk losing you - she's not interested!
If you lack the balls to make a move, then you lack what it takes anyway, so there's no point in checking for signs of interest. Either be willing to put yourself on the line by making a move or don't bother worrying about whether or not she likes you because it won't matter if you do nothing.
The whole idea of this website is for you to understand the following things:
1) You are a man of value
This has been said a thousand different ways. You are "the prize", you are "alpha", you are a "high-status male." Ninety percent of all questions on this board would never be asked. The first step is understanding that, as a man of value, your attention is worth something. Girls want you to notice them. When a girl does something that you do not like, the best thing you can do is ignore that girl - in other words, your attention is valuable, so denying a girl your attention is denying her something valuable.
So when a girl is giving you trouble in ANY WAY - whether it's asking you questions you don't want to answer, talking about other guys, talking on the phone too much while hanging out with you, trying to elicit undeserved favors, getting mad for not calling, etc. the correct way to approach the porblem is "does this behavior bother me?" If it doesn't, just shrug her off by giving her a simple answer. (for example - she asks "where in the hell were you?" You answer "I was out - why are you yelling? You're hurting my ears") If it does bother you, you need to be more firm with her (example -
"Who was she?" You answer "She was a friend... stop being jealous. It's not becoming of you"
A man of value does not worry that he will lose a girl, a girl worries that she will lose a man of value. Stop acting like a girl owns you, and stop trying to do things in order to NOT lose a girl. I constantly see questions from guys that are so afraid their girl is going to leave them if they do something wrong that they have to get posters on this board to approve their every move before they make it. This shows right away that they are still thinking of the girl as the prize.
Stop trying to appease girls. Start expecting them to appease you.
2) Looks do not make a girl valuable.
There are many girls who are very good looking, but still annoying, loud, dirty mouthed alcoholic sluts that will go home with you the first night and realistically have nothing of value to contribute to your life.
As a man who can easily seduce good looking girls, but also has standards, you would like nothing more than to weed these girls out. This means that you must find a way to identify these girls, and then develop a way to screen against this type. The technique that develops as a result of this mindset is called "qualifying". However, until you understand the spirit of this technique, it will never be successful. You cannot qualify a girl if you have nothing to qualify her on.
Attractive girls really are a dime a dozen. The sooner you realize this, the better off you will be. Neg-hits, openers, and the whole bag of PUA tricks are just products of this mindset. You wouldn't engage a group of overweight, middle-aged bald guys by walking up and saying "You guys are so HOT!" so don't do it to a group of girls either. Hot means nothing. Are they sluts? Do they have IQs above 80? Are they interested in even a single thing that you are? These are the questions that should be going through your head before you approach. When you've truly stopped worshipping superficial beauty, you won't need any techniques for a girl to see this mindset. You will neg her accidentally, you will freeze out at the right times because you are genuinely bored with her, and you will not be nervous when approaching a hot girl because you know that looks mean nothing.
Especially if you want to argue that 'looks mean nothing'. You can't claim that 'looks mean nothing' if that's all you consider when evaluating girls and whether or not they're worth your time. Don't be shallow and expect girls not to be.
Free yourself! Stop valuing superficial beauty.
3) Gauge Interest Through Actions (Stop Looking for "Indicators of Interest")
Women are very complex creatures. They are masters of communication, yet they seem to be unaware of the fact that they send more mixed signals than any man can hope make sense of. Signals are, at best, unreliable, and at worst intentionally deceptive. Sometimes a girl who seems completely uninterested really is just waiting for you to make a move (shy girl), and sometimes she sends a hundred and one 'signals' when she's not interested at all (attention wh0re - common these days).
The best test of whether a girl likes you involves proposing any activity that requires her interest for her to agree with. She might flirt with you, give you the 'bedroom eyes', laugh at your stupid jokes, etc. but if she still says no when you invite her to 'hang out', go to dinner, go hiking, etc. then she is showing low interest. Once you decide you are interested in a girl, and you start inviting her places, you'll know really fast if she's worth your time based on her responses. If she's always busy when you have time to go out, she pulls her hand away when you try to hold it, she dodges a kiss, or she acts in ways that show that she's willing to risk losing you - she's not interested!
If you lack the balls to make a move, then you lack what it takes anyway, so there's no point in checking for signs of interest. Either be willing to put yourself on the line by making a move or don't bother worrying about whether or not she likes you because it won't matter if you do nothing.
