The Attitude

[The_King]

Guys...

I have really worked on myself and my attitude over th elast year...after having a failed engagement which I put the down to romantic ideals and being "a nice guy", who tried overly hard to please and be that knoght in shining armour!.

Anyway back to the my post, I seem to be able to attract women much more successfully. All very good I hear you say. But...my attitude seems to be having negative effects...as recently the women I have been being casually sleeping with....accuse me of being a player, also recently many people have been describing me as "****y" but meaning it as if its a bad trait. For example, Iw as chatting to this bird, ok I was drunk, she was sober...never a good situation...but she kept saying to me that I am ****y and arrogant..I just kept it up by doing things like telling her to go find me a pretty, brunette, who is tall and interesting and then pushing her away from me and saying go on, go. In the end, she asked for my number but for some weird reason I did not ask for hers back....I was just having such a good time

Any similar experiences, I have bought a book on humour to try and use that to distract from being too ****y. I am not going to change my attiude..but I feel it intimadates some ladies.

 

[Hot Ice]

The DJ attitude. When you hang out here enough of time you automatically start to absorb it. That's good about it.
I think my attitude change was a little bit too hard because few people said I'm mean or something like that. Like they said it to you.

Well, I didn't change my attitude, I just learned what is too ****y for people to take as humour.
And how to say ****y things and be funny same time.
If you get those negative comments often, you should work on it.

It's about to be ****y&FUNNY, not just ****y.
Jerks are ****y.


Maybe you should try some jokes and humour without including the ****y part in. Just try to get them laugh. Then, after practising, let ****iness come along.
Just a though.

 

[Clint Eastwood]

Posted by The King.

Who, by the way really is the king, but doesn't know it yet!!!

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But...my attitude seems to be having negative effects...as recently the women I have been being casually sleeping with....accuse me of being a player, also recently many people have been describing me as "****y"

...but she kept saying to me that I am ****y and arrogant..I just kept it up by doing things like telling her to go find me a pretty, brunette, who is tall and interesting and then pushing her away from me and saying go on, go. In the end, she asked for my number but for some weird reason I did not ask for hers back....I was just having such a good time

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Dude, you're doing awesome. You got the right idea all the way , but you just don't know it yet. As far as what you should do.... You should post more of what you do on here so other guys will "get it".

 

[squirrels]

If you were TOO ****y, she would not have asked for your number or given you hers.

Pay attention to what she DOES, not what she says. I remember as an AFC I used to always perk up when the goddess of my affections told the "jackass" she was with that he was a jerk. Then I'd fall apart when I learned that she was sleeping with him.

You'll know when you're too ****y by the way she behaves. If she starts finding excuses to get away from you or demonstrates closed postures/attitudes, etc...

 

[TesuqueRed]

Sounds like you're in jerk mode.

That'll work--chicks fall for it. Going from AFC to Jerk is probably an "adjustment" or "correction", say, which at some point in the future will swing back towards the middle somewhere when you've mined the jerk-mode enough and learned all you need to learn from it.

Nothing wrong with that--part of the process.

Good call on studying humor, etc.--which is part of--as you stated--the work you've been doing.

 

[Hot Ice]

Originally posted by TesuqueRed
Sounds like you're in jerk mode.

That'll work--chicks fall for it. Going from AFC to Jerk is probably an "adjustment" or "correction", say, which at some point in the future will swing back towards the middle somewhere when you've mined the jerk-mode enough and learned all you need to learn from it.

Nothing wrong with that--part of the process.

Good call on studying humor, etc.--which is part of--as you stated--the work you've been doing.

Part of the progress yeah.
I've gone through this too.

And I feel I'm in the middle now. The right attitude.

 

[The_King]

Cheers guys...

Thought I would sound out your experiences...

Another example...is that I had arranged to meet a woman last sunday, she sent me a text message at 2:30 am on the Sunday morning saying

"Hello u r gonna kill me but im not gonna b able 2 do 2moz as i aint got car and ive got a bad cold! Which is why im up so late cos I cant sleep sob sob"

I got that message and thought, well thats your chance blown...I had been out that night...and my attitude had already done me favours for example, walking down the street, confidently as its my reality, I am in control, when two women stop me and one says

"your quite a good looking bloke, will you kiss my friend?"

I look at her friend, very pretty, I look her up and down exaggerating it.. and tell her (this was mean)

"Im not sure about her dress sense but I can forgive her that, sure"

and then I kiss her friend, who had already moved close into me.

Anyway, back to the text message girl. I call her early evening sunday...but I did not leave a message. She calls me back, basically I bust her on it...by saying

"I know how sorry you must be and it must of been really hard for you to cancel and miss out on all that fun"

... she arranges it for next sunday afternoon. I say

"ok, but this is your last chance, one more and your out!."

Its now monday night, and I get a phone call from her, asking me if I would like to join her for a walk as she is near where I live...I say ok, wait for me on this particular corner.

I meet her on the corner, and say

"its a good job there is no street-light on that corner else people might think your a prostitute"

we go on the walk, for about 15 minutes, she says at the end, I will pick you up on sunday..I reply

"ok, but you are my plan C..actually plan D, so I may already be doing things"

Then, I walk her close to where she lives, and tell her as she is walking away

" run home, run".....shouting.."go on, run..."

Guess , what guys ..she does actually start running (bear in mind this a 19 yr old about to start university)

I get in and send a small teasing text simply saying

"run forrest...run! x"

she replys...

and its all go for Sunday..if I do not have better plans by then!!!!

Any other examples of your attitude for this board?

 

[The_King]

From my first post at the start of my thread...

For example, I was chatting to this bird (lets call her Simone) , ok I was drunk, she was sober...never a good situation...but she kept saying to me that I am ****y and arrogant..I just kept it up by doing things like telling her to go find me a pretty, brunette, who is tall and interesting and then pushing her away from me and saying go on, go. In the end, she asked for my number but for some weird reason I did not ask for hers back....I was just having such a good time

Ok, I get an SMS, off one of my sisters friend on Friday (now Monday), saying she knows someone, who is single and really wants "to get it on with you". Ok, I can imagine that most guys would be desperate to find out who it is. I think it is probably the girl from the above quote (Simone). So, I think ok, girls will gossip, in fact the other girl is probably there with her...so guess what...I don't reply. I was busy...and now I know she has high IL, so I now control the game. So I go ahead and enjoy my weekend, meet a good looking brunette on Friday, dropped home midnight sunday. She wants to see me again, its getting hectic.

Ok, so fast forward to the drive home after dropping the pretty brunette off, I text back this girl who knows someone who likes me. She replies back in teasing messages trying to get me to guess. I wait till today to get back in touch, and tell her I think it is the girl from the nightclub (Simone), the one who says, I am too ****y and arrogant. I am correct. The girl, says Simone was with her and was wondering why I did not reply. So I get Simones number off this girl and ring her up and tell her she should join me tonight.

Now this funny. She says why are you ringing me. I reply

"because I want to"

Her response but you have not rang me before. I say

"well, if thats the case you would never ring anyone"

I tell her to pick me up later, while still being ****y. She says ok.

So there you go, I have gone from the "****y arrogant b*stard", she supposedly does not like, to the guy, she wants to fcvk.

Mr D.D'Angelo is correct "Attraction is not a choice".

Its what women do, not what they say. Which gives you the answers. You keep yourself busy and keep up the correct attitude, you will be successful. Anyway, I will let you guys know how tonight goes.

 

[The_King]

I said I would let you know how the night went...here goes

She picked me up on time. I carry on with all the ****y stuff. We go for a drink and she keeps dropping hints to me, so I basically play hard to get.
Simone says she knows that her friend told me that Simone wanted to fvck me and that she does not want to give me the wrong idea. Again I play it cool, as we all know women, its just a Anti-Slut Defense. I make no big deal of it.
She then says can I kiss you to make up for it...I reply...

"Its the start of your making up"

She is a shy, intelligent, only one partner before kindof girl or so I thought. The next thing I know we are on this bench by the river and she is undoing my trousers. I am thinking...interesting..if I play this right, its a Fvck close.

"she then says what can I do for you?"

What do you say to that?. We carry on.

She then stops and says

"can I trust you?" I am like, "why?".

She goes "because I can't resist you". wow. From then on, I just keep up the good work and tease her more.

Anyway cut along story short, She is driving me home and I get her to pull over in a quiet lane and we make sweet cramped lovin!. Then she moans, that she does not know why shes just done this and says I seduced her. How right she is!! I love it when a plan comes together.

 

[coin]

haha! awesome dude.