GtarPlayr73
Senior Don Juan
Someone may well have already covered this, but i wanted to offer my observations on the phenomenon we men on this forum often refer to as "the Attention Wh*re". (AW). I would rather call her the Attention-Seeking Woman (ASW). Recently, I myself have been a "victim" of one. My "victimization" has been the result of my own blind choosing until just recently, when I stopped and went to a different place inside to examine what is going on with this kind of woman.
We men are capable of moving to the next level if we are just willing to surrender to reality...
There is a reason behind every behavior. Just as immature men (AFC's) approach women for feminine validation, immature women (ASW's) use men for masculine validation. Western society is JAM-PACKED with ASW's. The female nature is, by default, attention-seeking until it matures. Just as the immature man has to learn courage, the immature woman has to learn self-worth apart from the male. Our society does not make this easy. Hell, the magazine racks at the supermarket checkout lanes are a sickening testament to this.
The ASW is still a little girl when it comes to men. She is the daughter of an emotionally-absent man incapable or unwilling to display affection (indication of value). As many of us know, such men are not uncommon. Throughout her childhood, the ASW's father failed to validate her (through demonstrations of affection) and failed to cultivate an emotionally healthy relationship with her.
When you meet that ASW, she is still seeking that missing validation. She is not yet a mature woman and, hence, is not able to respond to men as a woman. A mature woman does not approach men for father-like validation; rather, she approaches men to express her female nature and sexuality. This is her response to male action. She responds to men from a position of security in herself and her worth - her value.
Attention-seeking women do not yet know their worth. Seeing this, we recognize that “Attention Wh*res” are not to be despised, but rather pitied. We further their dysfunction and immaturity when we men play games with them and use them for sex. We don’t break the cycle, we cynically continue it with each selfish game we play. When an ASW has sex with you, she is not really enjoying herself. Oh, there might be some physical pleasure, but she could be experiencing so much more by truly responding to the man from a place of female maturity. But, she’s really taking from you when she “gives” you sex. She’s taking your attention. She’s not interacting with you. Interaction is a two-way thing. With attention-seeking women, the sexual energy only goes one way – from you to her. You are not a man to the attention-seeking woman. You are just a source of male validation. She wants to finally know that she has value, but she’s going outside herself instead of going inside herself for that validation. Know this and remember this when you next encounter an Attention-Seeking Woman.
Being used by an ASW is an empty, empty feeling. Using her back is just as empty. There are countless stories on this forum that will attest to that. The ASW will only face her immaturity when we men deny her the attention she craves with strength and maturity. We are not the source of her value. We need to make that clear to her. If she's hot, and the ASW usually is, denying her can be a real challenge to our manhood. It's not easy, I can attest to that, but if we are self-aware, we know what kind of woman is capable of giving us the experience we are seeking.
We men are capable of moving to the next level if we are just willing to surrender to reality...
There is a reason behind every behavior. Just as immature men (AFC's) approach women for feminine validation, immature women (ASW's) use men for masculine validation. Western society is JAM-PACKED with ASW's. The female nature is, by default, attention-seeking until it matures. Just as the immature man has to learn courage, the immature woman has to learn self-worth apart from the male. Our society does not make this easy. Hell, the magazine racks at the supermarket checkout lanes are a sickening testament to this.
The ASW is still a little girl when it comes to men. She is the daughter of an emotionally-absent man incapable or unwilling to display affection (indication of value). As many of us know, such men are not uncommon. Throughout her childhood, the ASW's father failed to validate her (through demonstrations of affection) and failed to cultivate an emotionally healthy relationship with her.
When you meet that ASW, she is still seeking that missing validation. She is not yet a mature woman and, hence, is not able to respond to men as a woman. A mature woman does not approach men for father-like validation; rather, she approaches men to express her female nature and sexuality. This is her response to male action. She responds to men from a position of security in herself and her worth - her value.
Attention-seeking women do not yet know their worth. Seeing this, we recognize that “Attention Wh*res” are not to be despised, but rather pitied. We further their dysfunction and immaturity when we men play games with them and use them for sex. We don’t break the cycle, we cynically continue it with each selfish game we play. When an ASW has sex with you, she is not really enjoying herself. Oh, there might be some physical pleasure, but she could be experiencing so much more by truly responding to the man from a place of female maturity. But, she’s really taking from you when she “gives” you sex. She’s taking your attention. She’s not interacting with you. Interaction is a two-way thing. With attention-seeking women, the sexual energy only goes one way – from you to her. You are not a man to the attention-seeking woman. You are just a source of male validation. She wants to finally know that she has value, but she’s going outside herself instead of going inside herself for that validation. Know this and remember this when you next encounter an Attention-Seeking Woman.
Being used by an ASW is an empty, empty feeling. Using her back is just as empty. There are countless stories on this forum that will attest to that. The ASW will only face her immaturity when we men deny her the attention she craves with strength and maturity. We are not the source of her value. We need to make that clear to her. If she's hot, and the ASW usually is, denying her can be a real challenge to our manhood. It's not easy, I can attest to that, but if we are self-aware, we know what kind of woman is capable of giving us the experience we are seeking.
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And if that screws them up more then.. welcome to the real world. Either you can hack it or you can't. 
