Advice from the old lady:
Enjoy the game. Relish it. Its fun when you are truly outcome independent and just out for a spin socially. I have a well worn copy of Greene's book and this volume in combination with 48 Laws of Power gives you incredible insight into human nature. Over the centuries technology has changed but people have not fundamentally changed. They simply haven't. Nor have interpersonal power dynamics. You see Seduction is merely application of the Laws of Power in a specialized way. There is ALWAYS an underlying power dynamic at work in seduction. That power dynamic is part of what is seductive. Think about that.
So if you absorb the psychology behind the text you'll start to see interpersonal interactions through a more calibrated filter. You'll start to notice ways in which people's interactions follow the theory. Because it isn't theory once you put it into practice. Then it is applied knowledge...and as we know, knowledge is power.
When you look at the archetypes it gives you insight into certain type people's strengths as well as insecurities. A master seducer knows how to flatter the target's vanity and knows when to tweak the target's insecurities because the master seducer is a student of the target's behavior, and the target's behavior reveals things about personality, insecurity, ego and vanity that allow the seducer to tailor the correct approach most likely to win the target. In experienced seducers like Cassanova he was a chameleon. He could affect whatever archtype he needed to in order to appeal to his target. Also he came across as genuine because he was authentically enjoying the seduction. Great players love the game.
Think about Scarcity in 48 Laws of Power. Scarcity is used to increase value. Think about how that is applied through the use of Silence and Distance in an interpersonal interaction for example. Think of "absence makes the heart grow fonder" and so on. That is the power of scarcity. It is why men here are implored to spin plates, specifically to neutralize that power of scarcity. And that is but one example of the applied psychology. So no, it isn't theory. Not if you are in the field in the game it isn't.
I can size up a man within seconds. Often before he opens his mouth to speak. Most men I find pallid and uninteresting no matter how good looking. You see I appreciate a worthy adversary for all seductive environments are adversarial in nature. They have to be to retain sexual tension. But worthy adversaries are hard to come by if you really understand the game. My boyfriend gets "bored" very quickly with women even if they are very pretty/sexy/hot. He's not yet bored with me. Why? I'm unpredictable in a good way. I might be compliant and sweet, or I might create some drama or conflict if that is warranted. I am not "safe" nor am I a doormat, although I am not a b itch to him either. His friends have told me in confidence that I know all his tricks and use them on him, which they find entertaining...and all those things work on him just as they work on the women he seduces (including me). We are worthy adversaries and the dance is more interesting now than it was when we got started. So who is seducing who? Hard to say. It keeps renewing/revolving as the relationship continues and reinvents itself.
But its not the kind of interaction for the low self esteem crowd or the insecure. He thinks he hates drama. He actually craves it. He needs it on a visceral subconscious level. So as his lover I engage his mind in the way he needs. For if I am on his mind I am in his heart and there is no room for another because he won't give another the time required to learn his emotional composition the way I know it, and I knew it almost innately.
Become a student of the game, a student of interpersonal interaction, and a student of applied psychology. You'll be amazed at what you learn about others, and about yourself. And go accumulate experiences. THAT is how best to learn. By doing.
