The "After the Pick Up" Bible

[Spade]

Yo waddup guys,

I feel a common problem most guys have here on the forum, after picking up the girl, is... LOSING HER.

Most guys here focus their time on getting the number, but then struggle afterwards with building a connection. In other words they dont know how to handle her, how to not look desperate, how to behave around her, and where to take her, and even how to ask her out, etc.

There are al ot of experienced guys and alpha males on this forum...so if u know any tactics, strategies, techniques, things u do on the 2nd meeting, ways uve isolated the girl, built rapport, n even made her your GF....share it.

*Pro’s are encouraged to share their experiences*

 

[Captain]

The most important part of keeping a relationship healthy is being willing to walk away and end it at a moment's notice.

 

[S.Y.L]

dont show too much interest

 

[jeffthechef]

haha...keeping her is the easy part for me...

do what the guys above me said...

basically, continue to be the way you were when you picked her up..
however, you may want to slowly divulge in deeper secrets...but SLOWLY

the more she tells you...the more attached she becomes...and everytime you tell her a secret, she feels closer to you....just dont let it all out at once

MAIN THING: DON'T BECOME ATTACHED...attachment leads to suffering...guys who are attached to their wealth go crazy if they lose it...you become attached to your gf, after it's over, you'll go crazy
but don't be detached...you dont wnat an entirely **** it attitude...cause that won't allow for deeper connection

you want a non-attached attachment...

 

[Analyzeit]

Everyone made some great points so far, keep em up.

What jeffthechef said about secrets is very very true but it the first time i've ever seen it written. Really good stuff.

Also the main thing is just not getting attached BEFORE she does. It really does show when your attached and you just end up worse off.

But as jeffthechef said a non-attached attachment and keeping it like this is as hard as it sounds.

Really at HS and i don't think i can ever make it clear enough is that HS girls are lame (only word for it) once they like you, you can practically get away with heaps. You don't have to make it when you ask em to be your gf special or anything it just doesn't matter at all.

 

[Spade]

Hey boys, as most of us know the reason why people struggle after they get the number is that the girl doesn't have the same interest level as she used to wen she gave u her digits.

And now she wont answer ur calls n u cant take her anywhere... So whats the best thing to do?

Heres somthin i found online....

Suggest a Date When You First Meet Her

When you get her phone number, she dosen’t know what to expect. Her interest level will lower because she’s not thinking about you. What you can do is suggest an activity together when you first meet her.

Me: I cooked the most delicious Ziti last night, my mom would be so proud of me

Her: Ohh I love Ziti! Can you cook some for me?

Me: Maybe, it depends on what you’ll do for me! Give me your number, we can get together this weekend

After you get her number, she’ll be thinking about the event and anticipating when you’re going to call because she has a clear image in her head of the event.

Go on an Instant Date

Who says you have to get her number, wait a few days, call for date, wait a few days again, THEN go on a date?

Skip all that and go on a date when you first ask her out if the timing’s right. For instance if you meet her at a coffee shop, just casually ask her what her plans are for the day and suggest something better.

Me: What are you up to the rest of the day?

Her: I don’t know, I haven’t planned anything special

Me: I just got a new place and gotta do some furniture shopping. Wanna come to IKEA and give me a female perspective. You know straight guys aren’t good with this kinda stuff.

Another idea is if you meet her at a club or party. Me and my boys always go out and eat afterwards at like 3 in the morning. The night’s still young, why not invite her along? By the time you’re done it’ll be around 5am, you can suggest that it’s easier if she comes back to your place to spend the night

The benefits of an “instant date”
* More time to build interest/attraction
* Going to different places when you first meet will make her feel like she’s known you longer
* There are no “expectations” as opposed to a traditional date. Since it’ll be more like hanging out, she’ll lower her guard and be more susceptible to your charm!


The Mystery Method also covers this stuff so use it as a reference and don’t let ur numbers go to waste.

And guys feel free to add to this, n mention any useful shyt that has worked for u... ill be keepin this thread updated, pce