The 90-day wait

sosuave213

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 20, 2023
Messages
282
Reaction score
97
Age
30
Just because she's amazing now doesn't mean in 90 days she will.

Maybe she has a hidden agenda and wants to simp it out of you, or otherwise is deceptive to gain some advantage. You can never be too sure.

Not all women are like this, but 90% of them don't make the cut here.
 

BackInTheGame78

Moderator
Joined
Sep 10, 2014
Messages
14,674
Reaction score
15,829
Just because she's amazing now doesn't mean in 90 days she will.

Maybe she has a hidden agenda and wants to simp it out of you, or otherwise is deceptive to gain some advantage. You can never be too sure.

Not all women are like this, but 90% of them don't make the cut here.
Neither do most of the guys which is why so many get dumped in the 3-4 month range
 

Manure Spherian

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 16, 2023
Messages
1,258
Reaction score
1,122
Age
46
Just because she's amazing now doesn't mean in 90 days she will.
It also doesn’t mean in a decade she will.
You can never be too sure.
Then what is the point of getting together with a woman in the first place?

What do you recommend men do if they want families considering what you wrote?
 

AureliusMaximus

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 30, 2019
Messages
2,792
Reaction score
2,660
Location
Denmark
Just because she's amazing now doesn't mean in 90 days she will.

Maybe she has a hidden agenda and wants to simp it out of you, or otherwise is deceptive to gain some advantage. You can never be too sure.

Not all women are like this, but 90% of them don't make the cut here.
Girls never let a guy they desire wait for 90+ days. They only let guys like you that they do not really want or desire wait. Meanwhile some other dude is breaking her back so she needs to make a new appointment at the chiropractor while you are still in the waiting room.
 

Divorced w 3

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 20, 2022
Messages
2,636
Reaction score
1,488
Location
Laying in the cut
Just because she's amazing now doesn't mean in 90 days she will.

Maybe she has a hidden agenda and wants to simp it out of you, or otherwise is deceptive to gain some advantage. You can never be too sure.

Not all women are like this, but 90% of them don't make the cut here.
True, but you should have a decent judge of character sooner unless you’re really dealing with a psychopath I do agree peoples habits and tendencies become more observed but that is because you are out of the honeymoon phase which is a chemical phenomenon
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

M

member162951

Guest
Just because she's amazing now doesn't mean in 90 days she will.

Maybe she has a hidden agenda and wants to simp it out of you, or otherwise is deceptive to gain some advantage. You can never be too sure.

Not all women are like this, but 90% of them don't make the cut here.
It goes both ways. I just read this on another site which I agree with, for the most part.

>>"It takes around 90-days for a person’s patterns to emerge. Whether it’s in the workplace, in battling their addictions or in a romantic relationship, the first 90-days is a critical time of assessment.

Take a sec and think back to your relationships, the beginning is almost always the most amazing because you’re both on your best behavior and you haven’t really hit any major bumps in the road.

But people can’t contain all their issues forever, and as a relationship progresses their real selves start to emerge."
<<
 

sosuave213

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 20, 2023
Messages
282
Reaction score
97
Age
30
It also doesn’t mean in a decade she will.
Then what is the point of getting together with a woman in the first place?

What do you recommend men do if they want families considering what you wrote?
In 90 days you can see what's she's like. If you've been with a woman for a decade that you don't like, then you did not qualify her well enough during this phase.

If men want families, they should date women they like. Although attraction and compatibility are exclusive domains, you should not sacrifice your livelihood to be with a woman you do not like. You will end up unhappy.
 

sosuave213

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 20, 2023
Messages
282
Reaction score
97
Age
30
Girls never let a guy they desire wait for 90+ days. They only let guys like you that they do not really want or desire wait. Meanwhile some other dude is breaking her back so she needs to make a new appointment at the chiropractor while you are still in the waiting room.
OK? We're talking about how she qualifies to be a part of your life, not the other way around.
 

sosuave213

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 20, 2023
Messages
282
Reaction score
97
Age
30
Neither do most of the guys which is why so many get dumped in the 3-4 month range
Men should make sure to exercise independence. In practice, this requires confidence and a purpose.

Whether the woman texts you or nexts you, remaining as stoic and centered is the technical way to overcome neediness.
 

SW15

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 31, 2020
Messages
13,526
Reaction score
11,389
Girls never let a guy they desire wait for 90+ days. They only let guys like you that they do not really want or desire wait. Meanwhile some other dude is breaking her back so she needs to make a new appointment at the chiropractor while you are still in the waiting room.
I know of men who waited 90 days for sex. That means ~90 days from the time they first met (either an in-person approach or a first swipe app date) until sex.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

Divorced w 3

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 20, 2022
Messages
2,636
Reaction score
1,488
Location
Laying in the cut
Girls never let a guy they desire wait for 90+ days. They only let guys like you that they do not really want or desire wait. Meanwhile some other dude is breaking her back so she needs to make a new appointment at the chiropractor while you are still in the waiting room.
That’s not true. You can’t make absolute statements like this. If someone put out all the right vibes and she wasn’t literally a psychopath there may be a real chance she’s just holding out. The red pill guys should be blowing loads out of their ears envisioning a woman like this. Her notch count would be like, 3
 
M

member162951

Guest
OK? We're talking about how she qualifies to be a part of your life, not the other way around.
It's a mistake to believe that and NOT bring your best self as well. Like I said, it does go both ways.

She's qualifying you just as you're qualifying her.

If you lose sight of that, you're done.
 
M

member162951

Guest
That’s not true. You can’t make absolute statements like this. If someone put out all the right vibes and she wasn’t literally a psychopath there may be a real chance she’s just holding out. The red pill guys should be blowing loads out of their ears envisioning a woman like this. Her notch count would be like, 3
This is so true! Guys here scream about wanting a virgin or low notch count, but then complain when a girl exercises discretion and isn't jumping on his c0ck after three dates.

You cannot have it both ways gentleman.
 

Divorced w 3

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 20, 2022
Messages
2,636
Reaction score
1,488
Location
Laying in the cut
This is so true! Guys here scream about wanting a virgin or low notch count, but then complain when a girl exercises discretion and isn't jumping on his c0ck after three dates.

You cannot have it both ways gentleman.
That’s why red pill is the best work of fiction written since lord of the rings
 

sosuave213

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 20, 2023
Messages
282
Reaction score
97
Age
30
It's a mistake to believe that and NOT bring your best self as well. Like I said, it does go both ways.

She's qualifying you just as you're qualifying her.

If you lose sight of that, you're done.
Yes, and I agree with the truth of that statement, but it's not my point.

But since we're on the topic, women screen out for neediness (wanting to see her all the time all of a sudden).

Can you add some more examples of what women screen for during this phase, or is more individual (like men)?
 

Divorced w 3

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 20, 2022
Messages
2,636
Reaction score
1,488
Location
Laying in the cut
A little redpill understanding and application would have kept you out of the mess you have now.
Yeah yeah, those guys don’t even take their own advice. You remember Rambo right? If I had the interest in looking his posts up, I would love to go and point how many guys here were eating his stuff up, liking them etc. I am pretty sure you were one of them. I was one of the lone voices calling that guy a fraud from a meth trailer In Tennessee and I was dead right. Keep making Rollos wife’s Mercedes payment, at least you seem happy in how you’re doing.
 

CBear

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 3, 2018
Messages
444
Reaction score
681
Most guys here don't get laid at all. They insist on having a low notch count girl, but can't wait for sex because they are thirsty as fvck, it's funny. It's obvious that they have very little experience with women. Too much red pill stuff.

Patience in dating is the key to get super hot and high quality girls. Top girls don't fvck after a date or two, my experience and I've been with more than a few.
Half these guys' LTR problems would be solved if they were realistic. There's nothing wrong with acting like a gentleman within normal limits. A secure/classy and respectful woman will appreciate that way more. There's nothing wrong with waiting for more than 3 dates in order to get laid. The only difference is that with experience, a man gains better judgement on who he should be patient with and who's LTR material. Some men don't have problems getting laid but seek an LTR and if the woman doesn't sleep with them within the first couple dates, they get mad and feel that they've been disrespected or they get bored. This is a good way to lose good prospects that probably won't be single for long. If a woman is willing to sleep with you quickly, she was willing to sleep with plenty of other guys that she just met. And then guys get mad that they ended up with a h0e.
 

The Duke

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 4, 2008
Messages
5,641
Reaction score
8,586
Yeah yeah, those guys don’t even take their own advice. You remember Rambo right? If I had the interest in looking his posts up, I would love to go and point how many guys here were eating his stuff up, liking them etc. I am pretty sure you were one of them. I was one of the lone voices calling that guy a fraud from a meth trailer In Tennessee and I was dead right. Keep making Rollos wife’s Mercedes payment, at least you seem happy in how you’re doing.
WTF? Lol geezus you are way off course.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

Top