De La Soul
Master Don Juan
No doubt most of you want a phrase or a technique that will make you a true Don Juan with the ladies. Well, the way I see it is this: techniques are good, phrases are good, but the only thing which is ABSOLUTELY UNBEATABLE is the Don Juan state of mind. Below I list the 6 factors which every true Don Juan has mastered. Once you have conditioned yourself so that they are part of you (this will not be easy unless you remind yourself why you are doing it each and every day, and persist) or you have them under control, and only then, can you claim to be a true Don Juan.
1. Confidence: OK confidence is THE most difficult and important attribute to master. Once you have confidence you have one half the battle. Once you have confidence all the other factors below become 10 times easier to master. Believe it or not, repitition of phrases will help confidence! Try repeating out loud to yourself (or writing down) 5-10 times a day something that will remind you that you are the man ("I am the man. I do what I want when I went without hesitating. I discard all doubt, insecurity and emotion, and simply trust myself. I do what my I want to do with supreme confidence and conviction."). But, of course that is not all it takes, not by a long shot. Join a sports team, get a hobby, get a job(!). But the BIG part is believing that you are the man; once you believe this, without telling it to others all the time, then others will believe it as well.
2. Ambition: WOMEN AND CONFIDENCE WILL COME WHEN YOU HAVE PASSIONATE AMBITION AND NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND. Trust me, a guy who has goals to achieve is a lot more desirable than a guy who just wants to lie around all day and devise schemes for getting laid. Get a job, get some money, write down what you want to achieve in your lifetime and remember these things everyday. If you get discouraged after getting rejected, think of your ambitions and remember that women are not the entire world! Once you have established your own dreams and started working towards them your fear of rejection will gradually diminish because you now have your own things to worry about, you are complete in yourself and you realise that you don't need a woman by your side every minute. Women are not there to complete you, but they are nice.
3. Humor: Well, I don't have time to go into all the facets of humour but the basic points on it are to approach humour with confidence(!), to BE OBSERVANT about the world you are living in, look on the lighter side of the world and the news etc. etc. you can even take a few pointers from comedy shows like Just Shoot Me or Seinfeld for inspiration of how great humour works. Or do a search under humour in the Don Juan Discussion Forum.
4. Image: This, along with everything else ties in with confidence. Make sure you've got all the basic clothing items you need to feel good about yourself (do a search for "clothes" or "fashion" or something like that on this site) e.g. nice shoes, nice watch, variety of pants, variety of shirts, hair gel, cologne EVERYTHING! You can develop your own style or follow the trends it's up to you. Also, WORK-OUT, seek proffesional advice before you do so and enjoy the benefits ("It won't happen overnight but it will happen" lol, very true).
5. Work on your KINO: Do not underestimate the power of KINO! If you're not sure what this is or how to do it, search it on the site!
6. Eye-Contact: (same as above)
Basically, once you have mastered these things you will be so much more in control of your Don Juaning abilities that you will be able to get, pretty much whoever you want. In conclusion, you need CONFIDENCE, AMBITION/MOTIVATION/Non-Dependence on other people, HUMOUR, good SELF-IMAGE, good KINO skills, and good EYE CONTACT skills. When you've got these you've got it made, seriously.
[This message has been edited by De La Soul (edited 05-24-2002).]
1. Confidence: OK confidence is THE most difficult and important attribute to master. Once you have confidence you have one half the battle. Once you have confidence all the other factors below become 10 times easier to master. Believe it or not, repitition of phrases will help confidence! Try repeating out loud to yourself (or writing down) 5-10 times a day something that will remind you that you are the man ("I am the man. I do what I want when I went without hesitating. I discard all doubt, insecurity and emotion, and simply trust myself. I do what my I want to do with supreme confidence and conviction."). But, of course that is not all it takes, not by a long shot. Join a sports team, get a hobby, get a job(!). But the BIG part is believing that you are the man; once you believe this, without telling it to others all the time, then others will believe it as well.
2. Ambition: WOMEN AND CONFIDENCE WILL COME WHEN YOU HAVE PASSIONATE AMBITION AND NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND. Trust me, a guy who has goals to achieve is a lot more desirable than a guy who just wants to lie around all day and devise schemes for getting laid. Get a job, get some money, write down what you want to achieve in your lifetime and remember these things everyday. If you get discouraged after getting rejected, think of your ambitions and remember that women are not the entire world! Once you have established your own dreams and started working towards them your fear of rejection will gradually diminish because you now have your own things to worry about, you are complete in yourself and you realise that you don't need a woman by your side every minute. Women are not there to complete you, but they are nice.
3. Humor: Well, I don't have time to go into all the facets of humour but the basic points on it are to approach humour with confidence(!), to BE OBSERVANT about the world you are living in, look on the lighter side of the world and the news etc. etc. you can even take a few pointers from comedy shows like Just Shoot Me or Seinfeld for inspiration of how great humour works. Or do a search under humour in the Don Juan Discussion Forum.
4. Image: This, along with everything else ties in with confidence. Make sure you've got all the basic clothing items you need to feel good about yourself (do a search for "clothes" or "fashion" or something like that on this site) e.g. nice shoes, nice watch, variety of pants, variety of shirts, hair gel, cologne EVERYTHING! You can develop your own style or follow the trends it's up to you. Also, WORK-OUT, seek proffesional advice before you do so and enjoy the benefits ("It won't happen overnight but it will happen" lol, very true).
5. Work on your KINO: Do not underestimate the power of KINO! If you're not sure what this is or how to do it, search it on the site!
6. Eye-Contact: (same as above)
Basically, once you have mastered these things you will be so much more in control of your Don Juaning abilities that you will be able to get, pretty much whoever you want. In conclusion, you need CONFIDENCE, AMBITION/MOTIVATION/Non-Dependence on other people, HUMOUR, good SELF-IMAGE, good KINO skills, and good EYE CONTACT skills. When you've got these you've got it made, seriously.
[This message has been edited by De La Soul (edited 05-24-2002).]
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