Serenity
Moderator
To actually be successful and happy in a healthy relationship on the long-term you can either seriously start thinking long-term success, or you can keep working on your social skills until realize there's more to life.
What you need is to get the right perspective on life (this one is complicated, learning compassion is a great start). And also the self-discipline to change habits and organize your activities. Focus on taking care of your own happiness. Practicing game becomes a funny side thing when you figure out that whipping yourself into action and achieving real lasting improvements actually makes you happy. Pay real close attention to your experience of life and people around you, reflect deeply on how it all fits together. Let differences slip by and discover what we all have in common. When it comes to negative and difficult people they will be the test of your mindset, learn to handle them respectfully without compromising yourself.
Keep yourself busy with improving your life experience and help others when you got some spare time. This will pump your mindset, creativity, confidence, happiness, increase real knowledge closely integrated with experience and you'll know exactly what kind of woman you're looking for, how to find them and how to get them. In the meantime your side project of picking up chicks will supply a stream of girls to fvck, and possibly some might be worth a relationship.
Study successful people and figure out the core of what makes them successful, it's in their mindsets. Avoid wasting time arguing that you're right, because probably you're not. You always need to keep an open mind and keep learning to take in information that can be used to do good, even people you don't like might have good points despite their inability to sell them. Especially understanding perspectives you resist agreeing on is important, it crushes arrogance (which is not really helpful for anything).
It takes practice and a lot of time, but it will be worth it on the short-term and the long-term. This is you practicing to actually be the prize with habits to support yourself in hard times, as Pook said "focus on yourself" (that really got stuck in me).
What you need is to get the right perspective on life (this one is complicated, learning compassion is a great start). And also the self-discipline to change habits and organize your activities. Focus on taking care of your own happiness. Practicing game becomes a funny side thing when you figure out that whipping yourself into action and achieving real lasting improvements actually makes you happy. Pay real close attention to your experience of life and people around you, reflect deeply on how it all fits together. Let differences slip by and discover what we all have in common. When it comes to negative and difficult people they will be the test of your mindset, learn to handle them respectfully without compromising yourself.
Keep yourself busy with improving your life experience and help others when you got some spare time. This will pump your mindset, creativity, confidence, happiness, increase real knowledge closely integrated with experience and you'll know exactly what kind of woman you're looking for, how to find them and how to get them. In the meantime your side project of picking up chicks will supply a stream of girls to fvck, and possibly some might be worth a relationship.
Study successful people and figure out the core of what makes them successful, it's in their mindsets. Avoid wasting time arguing that you're right, because probably you're not. You always need to keep an open mind and keep learning to take in information that can be used to do good, even people you don't like might have good points despite their inability to sell them. Especially understanding perspectives you resist agreeing on is important, it crushes arrogance (which is not really helpful for anything).
It takes practice and a lot of time, but it will be worth it on the short-term and the long-term. This is you practicing to actually be the prize with habits to support yourself in hard times, as Pook said "focus on yourself" (that really got stuck in me).
