Who says you NEED to be good with woman?
What for?
It will make you a "cool" person?
You have to think you are cool... That's it. There isn't a rule that says: "You can't think you're cool if you don't get woman!" hehe.
So believe you ARE cool! Work on that.
First step is you have to LIKE yourself.
How can you be unhappy that way? It's impossible!
You CAN like, adore, LOVE yourself. No one can stop you from doing that if you want to...
Just because someone girls don't like you, or some people in general, or give you attention does that mean you're lame?
We think like that when we are kids.
If lots of people give us lots of attention, we assume naturally: "WOW, I must be cool!". But we are grown up now... Even if others aren't giving us attention, we still have self assurance.
We know that we are likable anyways. Even if others aren't looking at us. We got to stop thinking that way... In my personal opinion, some of us are still stuck in this childlish way of thinking. So if others don't like us, we automaticlly assume we aren't worthy. And get depressed and whatever.
So being sad? Why? For what reason?
You
1: Love yourself
2: Know you are cool
3: Know you are lovable
About the looks deparment, you may want to read into the halo effect. Looks don't matter at all to your self esteem, sometimes people may be tricked into not thinking bad about themselves because they are absolutley ugly, but it would be a trap. Think like this not based on your looks.
Base your self esteem on what you think about yourself. Not on other people or looks.
Remember that life CAN be FUN. You can ENJOY all of this! Have FUN! Feel GOOD. Think about that... Don't you want that?
So work on your inner game. Master your emotions. It is going to be worth it... You may not feel like you can have a great time, but even if you don't envision anything positive right now...
... remember that you ARE depressed. How can you see things from a different prespective? Even the chemicals of your body make this hard for you now.
Make this a goal for you:
You WANT to feel good.
If you give up on working in yourself, you will never get where you desire to be. Don't give up, think positive, you can't even imagine how good things are. You must work on yourself, inner game, before you see that light in the end of the tunnel.
Don't give up.
As soon as you start trying to feel good, things will get easier for you, and progresively your happiness is going to get more intense and easier to maintain, you will look back and actually can't even remember that well how it is like to be depressed, it will be a past
stage of your life. Good luck to you, I want to hear from you, keep us posted if you can.
PS: Natural result of feeling good and confident: Girls.
PPS: I recommend that you take that nasty energies out of your body. IMO it would be the first step. I believe that, right now, it may control some of the things you do... So do exercise, or you can go and listen to some music, maybe watch some comedy.. Perhaps you have some hobbies, that would be great.